11/07/2025
🌱 We’re still talking boundaries… More on Boars, Pluckers, & Feeders (Singles Edition)
Boars: The Bold Oversteppers
Boars show up in dating, ministry, work, and even family. These are loud, forceful, often emotionally intense people or situations that bulldoze your boundaries.
Examples for Singles:
- Exes who reappear and stir up confusion
- “Situationships” that steal your peace
- Church leaders who demand service without regard for capacity
- Family guilt-trippers (“Why aren’t you married yet?”)
- Spirit of comparison and urgency
Pluckers: The Subtle Stealers
These are low-key behaviors, thoughts, and relationships that chip away at your confidence, joy, and boundaries over time. They whisper: “It’s not a big deal” until you’re drained.
Examples for Singles:
- Settling for attention over intention
- Overgiving to be “liked”
- False guilt when setting standards
- Envy masked as inspiration on social media
- “I don’t want to be alone” decisions
Feeders: What Fuels or Drains You
These are the people, thoughts, content, and patterns you allow to regularly influence you. Some feed faith and confidence, others feed fear and compromise.
Examples for Singles:
- Toxic romantic content disguised as “relationship advice”
- Gossip-centered friendships
- Obsessing over timelines
- Content that idolizes marriage over maturity
- Mentors who project their journey onto yours
What do you say?
