01/17/2026
Sorry to break it to you, but the to do list isn't going away.
In fact it expands as soon as it contracts.
So instead of looking at the length of your to do list as a sign of success, productivity as value, or checking off everything as your goal.
Its time to focus on structures of support for yourself.
Idk about you, but often when I look at my to do list and I start doing my regular brain dump, I get overwhelmed by the shear number of things that could theoretically be done.
But when I prioritize focusing on the most important, impactful things first and let my systems hold the rest. I feel so much better.
So let's talk about the agreements I've made with myself that have truly shifted me away from looking at the check list as my evaluator and dragging myself to the bone through its never ending expansion.
1. Defining what success looks like for me...
When I first started out my definition of success was just showing up. Because I knew once I was there, I would connect and do good enough.
It wasn't based on a specific number of clients I booked at an event or the number of dollars I made. Because truly you can't predict that.
And when I just showed up and was present I met amazing people and have long term positive outcomes from just being there.
2. Staying within my capacity
This changes throughout the month, based on life outside of work, my own inner cycle, and so much more.
Sometimes I have to have a slow week. Sometimes I can pack a bunch in a week,
but one of the things I instituted into my work AS SOON AS I had control over my schedule, was half an hour breaks in between each client.
This creates ease, flexibility, and recovery time WITHOUT stress. It let's me energetically clear before each client and gives me time to take care of my own needs too.
3. Clear boundaries (energetically and physically)
This can look like a lot of things, but for me it includes who I work with, what time I work on people, staying out of resentment (Especially around time & money) & so much more.
What agreements do you need to make with yourself to create more easy in your life and work?