Angela Schellenberg Counseling/ Coaching

Angela Schellenberg Counseling/ Coaching Angela is a mental health Trauma, Grief, and Loss Therapist , LMHC. Mother Hunger Facilitator

11/04/2025

I used to think I had to “fix” the parts of me that felt too much.
The part that overthought everything.
The part that made a joke instead of getting close.
The part that wanted connection but flinched every time it showed up.
But what if those weren’t the problem?
What if they were the protectors?
In Equine Therapy, we don’t just talk about these parts. We meet them—through the mirror of the horse, through the safety of the body, through the gentleness of being witnessed without judgment.
Horses don’t get confused by our masks.
They see us clearly.
And they show us what we’ve never been able to see:
These “opposing parts”? They were working together to keep us safe.
The fear part. The funny part.
Both trying to protect you from closeness, rejection, overwhelm.
And when they finally feel safe…
They stop fighting.
And they dance.
That’s the shift we create in Equine Therapy.
Not just emotional insight—but somatic integration.
Because when your nervous system finally feels witnessed…
The parts of you that never rested, finally can.
I offer equine therapy + EMDR for trauma survivors ready to stop fighting themselves. If you’re wanting to try Equine Assisted Learning, schedule a consultation or Equine Session with me.
Text 4256283354.

You didn’t overreact to that song.Your body just finally felt safe enough to feel.Music doesn’t just tug your heartstrin...
11/03/2025

You didn’t overreact to that song.
Your body just finally felt safe enough to feel.

Music doesn’t just tug your heartstrings.
It rewires your nervous system.
Moves grief that’s been frozen.
And gives it somewhere safe to land.

This isn’t just emotional. It’s somatic.
The same rhythm you sway to?
It mirrors the bilateral stimulation used in trauma healing (like EMDR).

This is why you cry.
Why you soften.
Why you suddenly breathe again.

Your story doesn’t need words.
It just needs sound that knows how to hold it.

↳ When you’re ready to move grief through your body — not just your mind — the portal’s open. 💠

This was before.Before my dad joined a religious cult.Before my mom had a breakdown and got sick.Before my grandma took ...
11/02/2025

This was before.
Before my dad joined a religious cult.
Before my mom had a breakdown and got sick.
Before my grandma took her — said she’d care for her — and locked us out.
Before we tricked her and stole my mom back.

For a second, we thought maybe things could go back to normal.

Then the phone rang.
That Snoopy phone.

I had already seen it on the news.
My dad. Gone. M*rdered, g*nned down. .
And just like that — everything collapsed.

I didn’t just lose my father.
I lost everything.

My mom to state care.
My brother to foster care.
My home.
My horse, Destiny.
My dog, Peppi.

In one phone call.

That’s what no one tells you.

You don’t just lose people.
You lose access.
To food.
To safety.
To comfort.
To protection.
To everything that makes you feel human.

We are all one moment away from hunger.
One moment away from being the person we never thought we’d become.
And when that moment hits, the system doesn’t catch you.
You fall.

This is why I talk about government cheese.
Why I talk about grief like it’s physical.
Because it is.
And when the people go, the resources go with them.

🖤
If you’ve ever lived through a moment that changed everything
You’re not alone.
Drop a 🕯️.
Tag your local food bank.
Because survival shouldn’t be a solo act.

11/02/2025

Offering Support and Programs for Women Who Have Lost Their Moms Most bereavement centers offer services for up to two years following a loss. But few resources exist for those traveling the long arc of grief after that point. And this is puzzling, because grief from an early loss will continue to s...

We didn’t have much.But we had government cheese.A giant brick of it.Wrapped like a cinderblock.I can still feel the wax...
11/02/2025

We didn’t have much.
But we had government cheese.

A giant brick of it.
Wrapped like a cinderblock.
I can still feel the wax paper edges and the way it barely melted on toast.

When I was little, things were tight.
We were on government assistance.
My mom was sick.
My dad was working long hours and still didn’t want to take help.
But we needed it.

I remember opening the cupboards. Empty.
Trying to feed my brother with whatever scraps I could find.
Muffins from a hobby oven.
Cheese on bread.
Everything cheese.

It was survival.
And even now, as an adult, I carry that survival in my nervous system.

Tonight I can’t sleep.

Because I’m thinking about the millions of people whose benefits just got cut.
Families waiting.
Mothers calculating grocery bills like military strategy.
Kids opening empty cabinets hoping something appears.
People making minimum wage in a maximum pain economy.

Politics matter.
This is a human rights issue.
Access to food is not a luxury. It’s a right.
And the systems meant to support us are crumbling under the weight of greed, neglect, and silence.

As a mental health advocate, I don’t just talk about trauma in therapy rooms.
I talk about it here too.
Because food insecurity is trauma.
Chronic stress is trauma.
Trying to survive while the world turns away is trauma.

If you have more, do more.
If you have a full pantry, share.
If you have a big table, pull up a chair for someone else.
Donate. Volunteer. Speak up.
Whatever you can do, do it.

Tag your local food bank in the comments.
Let’s build a map of places where people can get fed.
Because no one should be hungry while the rest of us scroll.














“Grief is trauma. Because it’s a breaking of attachment.”Clinicians don’t say this enough.Most don’t even see it.But you...
11/01/2025

“Grief is trauma. Because it’s a breaking of attachment.”

Clinicians don’t say this enough.
Most don’t even see it.
But your nervous system knows.

When you lose someone you were attached to — especially someone who gave you identity, protection, or nurture — that’s not just grief.
That’s trauma.

Because attachment doesn’t live in your mind.
It lives in your body.
It lives in your nervous system.

And when that attachment breaks?
The body starts searching for what’s no longer there.
Looping. Grasping. Shutting down.
Trying to reorganize around the absence.

Suddenly you’re left with symptoms that look a lot like trauma:
Executive dysfunction.
Hypervigilance.
Numbness.
Anxiety.
Confusion about who you are now.
A safety system that doesn’t know how to settle.

⚡ Because trauma isn’t just what happened to you.
It’s what didn’t happen.
The love you didn’t receive.
The repair that never came.
The person who didn’t show up.
The millions of micro-moments that never made you feel safe.

That’s attachment trauma.
And when grief shatters the few places that did feel safe — it leaves the nervous system scrambling for ground.

Not all grief is trauma.
But a lot of it is.
Especially when the person you lost was your anchor.
Your mirror.
Your only sense of “I’m okay now.”

You don’t just “get over” that.
You move with it.
And the only way to move with it… is to name it.

Because when we don’t call it what it is — we internalize the wreckage.
We pathologize our heartbreak.
We shame ourselves for still feeling what our body hasn’t finished holding.

The grief isn’t just emotional.
It’s physiological.
It’s nervous system chaos in the absence of safety.

You’re not dramatic.
You’re not “too much.”
You’re grieving a trauma no one ever gave you language for.

And that acknowledgment?
That’s where healing begins.

Share this if you needed to hear it.
Or save it for the days your grief still feels invisible.

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Angela Schellenberg Counseling

Hello,

I’m Angela Schellenberg. I a trauma therapist and I specialize in grief, loss, and trauma. If you are looking for a trauma-informed and trained counselor/coach then you have come to the right place. I love helping clients work through the challenges in their lives. I am a humanistic counselor and I use many different modalities and theories because I never believe there is just one method that works for everyone. I am trained in EMDR, Restorative Retelling for Violent and Sudden Death, EFT Tapping, and Matrix Reimprinting. I enjoy working with individuals, families, couples, and children. I work with grief, loss, and trauma. I am passionate about helping clients manage depression, anxiety, and trauma (PTSD). If you are interested in booking an appointment you can visit my website at www.angelaschellenberg.com or call at 4256283354,