Tommy Lofgren - Washington State Therapist

11/13/2025

👋Good Afternoon Washington State!

🧣I’m so grateful to be a part of a tremendous network of therapists who work with couples to navigate cycles and strength attachment!

🫂 When I’m working with individuals and couples, I’m working from a mindset of reintegrating safety and softening into the self-the body-the relationship. This model has helped me step into my office with intention and purpose . . . to help model and shape secure attachment for those needing a safe attunement figure in their healing journey.

👣Stepping into another season!
👉If you need support, please reach out!

Accepting new clients, telehealth or in-person!

11/10/2025

✨The Holidays are Approaching!

🕯️It's ALWAYS the right time to address the resources (both internal and external) that bring you home to self. Who/What are the people, places, or experiences that draw you into a place of attunement to self and others.?

I'm excited for another opportunity to present to the beautiful folks at Boys & Girls Clubs of Benton and Franklin Counties tomorrow morning! We'll be approaching the topic of attachment — addressing our own internal working model, and leaning into the experience of youth & trauma.

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✨Be mindful of out-of-office dates posted below!✨

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https://cultivateconnection.patientsecure.me

10/23/2025

💪🏻 Achievement Feels Incredible…

👉What happens when your self-worth is defined by how productive you are?

In the world of attachment, a consistent pattern of emotional neglect can drive home the message that, “love has conditions.” For some, this means that they feel solely validated or seen when they’ve accomplished something.

Rather than fostering a pattern of security and safety that allows our nervous system to recognize comfort in softness and ease, we learn to continually push our mind and body.

✨And over time, here’s what happens👇🏽

🧠Overwhelming guilt or worry tied to achieving
🧠Struggle to find your own identity
🧠Consistent fear of failure
🧠Finding resolution that feels satisfying
🧠Struggle internalizing praise
🧠Burnout

The work starts with developing a self-compassionate understanding of the message this part of you has carried. We’re asking the nervous system to create space to sit with the worry, fear, or anxiety in a way that allows you to normalize safety in slowing down, down-regulating, and addressing needs that were unmet in these moments within your life.

👉Especially Boundaries.

✨If you need support, reach out!
ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS
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09/19/2025

✨ONE MESSAGE. AND ONE MESSAGE ONLY:

🗣️"You deserve to be here. Your emotions and your needs matter."

👉Empathy is the cornerstone to healthy communication. When we can choose to listen and understand another's experience from a place of willingness, we can develop a lens from which to see their lives.

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Washington State Mental Health Counselor. Cultivate Connection uses an Emotionally Focused and Experiential approach for couples and individuals.

08/28/2025

👋🏽Hello Everyone!

When life is busy, it's a beautiful opportunity to check-in with yourself and ask, "Where is there space to slow down❔"

When we slow down, we give ourselves space to sync with the nervous system and bring awareness to what the body is still holding onto. In western culture, so much emphasis is placed on this "go, go, go" mindset, placing so much focus on "building success" through monetary growth and accomplishment.

🫂I challenge you this week to focus on where you can implement more time to focus on the body, listen to the breath, and acknowledge where there could be space for more emotional comfort, whether this is with self or within your own relationship(s).

GOOD LUCK!🍀

08/07/2025

"Relationships remind us that, wherever we find deep love and longing. . . we can also find fear and uncertainty."

This new blogpost touches on the nature of working through moments of disconnect and the value of takings risks. . . together! Secure attachment is about cultivating lasting change through continued effort and commitment, building consistency by navigating negative dances with care and willingness to understand.

Check it out! Thank you for supporting my page. Follow for more!

Relationships remind us that, wherever we find deep love and longing. . . we can also find fear and uncertainty. Building secure attachment is the delicate dance of approaching one's experience with willingness and empathy. A personal therapist of mine reminded me once to "be mindful of the nuance"....

07/16/2025

"Emotion is the Chief Organizer of our Inner World. . ." — Dr. Sue Johnson, EFIT Consultation

One of the gorgeous quotes from Sue Johnson, who has orchestrated, along with many EFT powerhouses, a model based in relentless empathy and humanistic experience.

06/24/2025

☀️SUMMERTIME SELF-CARE!☀️

Summertime means more opportunities for self-care! Whether it's traveling, practicing mindfulness or yoga, going on a wellness retreat, building new rituals of connection with a partner, creating with friends & family, or inviting in new experiences.

IT'S THAT TIME!

🌊Stay Cool! And don't forget to take care of yourself!

06/12/2025

CELEBRATING4️⃣ ​YEARS IN PRIVATE PRACTICE❗

This month marks four incredible years of offering mental health support to those in the Tri-Cities!

I'm so beyond grateful to be a safe space for so many couples and individuals on their healing journeys. In my own perspective, it's a great privilege to help others strengthen their connection to self and learn to cultivate secure, meaningful attachments in their lives. Here's to continued growth, connection, and transformation—together. 💛

06/10/2025

⚕️Wow!

Another fantastic resource for the community! 👀 I can't wait to see what they accomplish and bring to those who are looking for immediate care and support. As a mental health provider, I'm so grateful to have another referral source for those needing these services.

Thanks!

At Oasis Behavioral Health, we recognize that maintaining a healthy mind is a crucial part of leading a healthy life. We are excited to announce the opening of our new Emergency Walk-In Mental Health Clinic, which will be open Monday through Friday from 12 PM to 7 PM! We are located at 5101 W. Clearwater Ave, Kennewick, WA 99336.