Canyon Lakes Family Counseling

10/21/2025

We are experiencing intermittent phone outages at the office. We apologize for the inconvenience and ask that you leave a message. We will return calls as soon as possible.

Thank you!

10/13/2025

The goal of co-regulation isn’t to “make calm happen” or to dismiss the full spectrum of emotions. Big feelings are not problems to fix — they are signals, and children need to know their sadness, anger, fear, and frustration are just as valid as their joy and excitement.

This is a super misunderstood nuance to emotional regulation and emotional intelligence.

What we know from the neuroscience is that children borrow our nervous system before they can regulate on their own using theirs. When we stay grounded, it doesn’t mean we’re demanding calm from them — it means we’re offering our calm as an anchor. This creates the safety their brains need to process their emotions fully. Over time, those repeated experiences wire their brains toward the capacity for self-regulation.

So when we say “kids learn calm by borrowing ours,” it’s less about calm being the goal and more about our calm presence creating space for their whole emotional experience to unfold safely. Calm becomes a byproduct of safety, trust, and connection.

Learn more about co-regulation with love: https://genmindful.com/blogs/mindful-moments/teaching-your-child-how-to-be-mad

And for a personalized positive parenting plan, take our Emotional Intelligence Quiz 👉 https://bit.ly/Emotional-Intelligence-Quiz

10/10/2025

Our administrative office is closed today. If you need to reach your therapist, please send an email. We will return calls on Monday.

Thank you!

10/07/2025

Taking time each day to spend with your children!!

10/01/2025

We'd like to announce and welcome two new providers to our team!

Welcome Laura Cox and Calista Bower.

Both are accepting new clients at this time.

https://www.canyonlakescounseling.com/ourprivders/lauracox

https://www.canyonlakescounseling.com/ourprivders/calistabower

Calista Bower is a Marriage and Family Therapist who earned her master’s degree from National University. Her work is rooted in the belief that healing begins when we feel seen, heard, and supported no matter where we are in our journey. Calista is dedicated to helping individuals, couples, childr...