BoMar Drop In Center

12/19/2025

Come and have dinner with us. Help us give back to the community. It is always free and everyone is welcome. If you are able, bring your favorite side dish or dessert. We look forward to seeing you and celebrating the holidays with you!

Thank you to the Epworth United Methodist Church Strugglers Club, The Roundhouse, Calvary United Methodist Church, and our generous community for always showing us grace, love, and support during the holidays and all year round! We appreciate you and everything that you do!

If you want to help and don't know how . . . We always accept donations, volunteers, and support of any kind.

12/19/2025

Friday, December 19

Good morning all! Happy Friday! We are open from 9-5 today. Drop in and see us!

12:30 AA

UNDERSTANDING THE MALADY

When dealing with an alcoholic, there may be a natural annoyance that a man could be so weak, stupid and irresponsible. Even when you understand the malady better, you may feel this feeling rising.

-ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 139

Having suffered from alcoholism, I should understand the illness, but sometimes I feel annoyance, even contempt, toward a person who cannot make it in A.A. When I feel that way, I am satisfying my false sense of superiority and I must remember, but for the grace of God, there go I.

12/18/2025

Thursday, December 18

Good morning and Happy Thursday! We are open from 9-5 today. Drop in and have a snack, a cup of coffee, some fellowship, and stick around for lunch and a meeting.

12:30 NA
6:00 NA

December 18, 2025
The Courage to Hope
Page 364

"When we can separate hope from wishing or expectation, it stops feeling like such a setup."

Living Clean, Chapter 7, "Living Our Principles"

In the final weekend of the football season, it's common to hear fans utter a familiar refrain: "It's the hope that kills you." Maybe it's smart to restrain our optimism if winning the championship has been elusive year after year. Football fans know that a bad decision, a lousy play, or rotten luck will crush hopes.

In life, as in football, it might seem that we dare to dream at our peril. Few of us get through life without enduring a heartbreak or two. There may be times when we swear off hope, effectively putting the kibosh on our aspirations. But that's no way to live. A broken heart has loved, after all.

Yes, hope can lead to disappointment, but it can also usher us to new heights. "Hope is what gets me going in the right direction. It gives me a sense that I can do something to realize my dreams," one member wrote. "Hope motivates me to persevere, to put in the effort. Hoping but not doing the work? That's just making a wish."

Of course, we can move in the right direction and still get caught offside. Our projections about what it takes to achieve a dream aren't always accurate. Sometimes we get what we'd worked and prayed for only to discover that we were left wanting. Recovery can help us through all of that. We learn to survive our expectations and the emotions attached to them, not do without them. We allow ourselves to feel hope and also to tolerate disappointment or redirection.

Hope is daring to dream, doing the footwork, and landing on our feet. No matter how it pans out, we are stronger, more resilient, even more hopeful for having taken those risks.

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Recovery gives me the courage to hope. I can take action and exert influence on the world around me. If things don't work out as I'd hoped--and if my team loses again--I will cope.

12/17/2025

Wednesday, December 17

Good morning and Happy Hump Day 🐫

We are open from 9-5 today. Stop in and get warmed up, grab some resources, and some lunch!

12:30 NA
7:00 AA

A PRICELESS REWARD
. . work with other alcoholics. . . . It works when other activities fail.

-ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 89

"Life will take on new meaning," as the Big Book says (p. 89). This promise has helped me to avoid self-seeking and self-pity. To watch others grow in this wonderful program, to see them improve the quality of their lives, is a priceless reward for my effort to help others. Self-examination is yet another reward for an ongoing recovery, as are serenity, peace and contentment. The energy derived from seeing others on a successful path, of sharing with them the joys of the journey, gives to my life a new meaning.

12/16/2025

Yes, please . . .

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12/16/2025

Tuesday, December 16

Good morning all! With the inclement weather, we have been here since 7 a.m. and will be here until 5 p.m. Stop in and see us, get warmed up, have some coffee, and get some resources.

12:30 NA
6:00 NA

December 16, 2025
Where there's smoke...
Page 366

"Complacency is the enemy of members with substantial clean time. If we remain complacent for long, the recovery process ceases."

Basic Text, p. 84

Recognizing complacency in our recovery is like seeing smoke in a room. The "smoke" thickens when our meeting attendance drops, contact with newcomers decreases, or relations with our sponsor aren't maintained. With continued complacency, we won't be able to see through the smoke to find our way out. Only our immediate response will prevent an inferno.

We must learn to recognize the smoke of complacency. In NA, we have all the help we need to do that. We need to spend time with other recovering addicts because they may detect our complacency before we do. Newcomers will remind us of how painful active addiction can be. Our sponsor will help us remain focused, and recovery literature kept in easy reach can be used to extinguish the small flare-ups that happen from time to time. Regular participation in our recovery will surely enable us to see that wisp of smoke long before it becomes a major inferno.

Just for Today: I will participate in the full range of my recovery. My commitment to NA is just as strong today as it was in the beginning of my recovery.

12/15/2025

Monday, December 15

Good morning and Happy Monday! We will be open from 7:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m. today‼️ Come in, have some coffee, eat some snacks, and get out of the cold!!! Please be safe out there! If you need something, REACH OUT!

12:30 NA

December 15, 2025
The joy of sharing
Page 365

"There is a spiritual principle of giving away what we have been given in Narcotics Anonymous in order to keep it. By helping others to stay clean, we enjoy the benefit of the spiritual wealth that we have found."

Basic Text, p. 49

Time and again in our recovery, others have freely shared with us what was freely shared with them. Perhaps we were the recipients of a Twelfth Step call. Maybe someone picked us up and took us to our first meeting. It could be that someone bought us dinner when we were new. All of us have been given time, attention, and love by our fellow members. We may have asked someone, "What can I do to repay you?" And the answer we received was probably a suggestion that we do the same for a newer member when we were able.

As we maintain our clean time and recovery, we find ourselves wanting to do for others the things that someone did for us, and happy that we can. If we heard the message while in a hospital or institution, we can join our local H&I subcommittee. Perhaps we can volunteer on the NA help line. Or we can give of our time, attention, and love to a newcomer we are trying to help.

We've been given much in our recovery. One of the greatest of these gifts is the privilege of sharing with others what's been shared with us, with no expectation of reward. It's a joy to find we have something that can be of use to others, and that joy is multiplied when we share it. Today we can do so, freely and gratefully.

Just for Today: I have been given much in my recovery, and I am deeply grateful for it. I will take joy in being able to share it with others as freely as it was shared with me.

12/14/2025

Sunday, December 14

Good morning! I hope that everyone is staying warm and safe today. If you need anything, message us and we will see what we can do. We are closed today.

7:00 AA

REACHING OUT

Never talk down to an alcoholic from any moral or spiritual hilltop; simply lay out the kit of spiritual tools for his inspection. Show him how they worked with you.

-ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 95

When I come into contact with a newcomer, do I have a tendency to look at him from my perceived angle of success in A.A.? Do I compare him with the large number of acquaintances I have made in the Fellowship? Do I point out to him in a magisterial way the voice of A.A.? What is my real attitude toward him? I must examine myself whenever I meet a newcomer to make sure that I am carrying the message with simplicity, humility and generosity. The one who still suffers from the terrible disease of alcoholism must find in me a friend who will allow him to get to know the A.A. way, because I had such a friend when I arrived in A.A. Today it is my turn to hold out my hand, with love, to my sister or brother alcoholic, and to show her or him the way to happiness.

12/12/2025

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12/12/2025

We are all set for Santa’s visit tomorrow evening at Rolling Meadow Village!
Don’t forget to bring your little ones down for cookies, cocoa, and a chance to see Santa. We’ll also be taking pictures to capture this special moment with him. 🎅✨