10/21/2025
How do we show up and not burn out?
I feel like this is a question many of us are grappling with recently. For me, I am processing feelings of helplessness and also shame and grief and some rage. And against the backdrop of these feelings, the laundry still needs to get done, kids still need to be fed, I still need to do life but it somehow feels like a betrayal of those who are being targeted and brutalized.
It is a f**k of a thing, this moment we collectively find ourselves in.
And I’m not sure there are any clear answers right now aside from continuing to return to compassion, kindness and grace. We will not solve hate with hate. We cannot heal fear through fear.
I find that in my moments of stillness, the answer that still comes to me is that the most revolutionary thing we can do in the face of such fear and hatred is to continue to bring love.
That requires that we go deep within ourselves and resolve our own deep fears. Heal our own wounds. Ensure that we are not vulnerable to being triggered into a similarly hateful and fearful mindset.
We will never be able to help people out of the mud of their own fear if we are trying to do it from the mud of our own.
Can you take 5 minutes to sit in quiet and hear yourself breathe? Can you take the pause to get grounded in your hopes and dreams for our country? Can you bring light to a situation with so much darkness? It is the BIG work of peaceful protest and non-violent resistance.
We have capacity for it, but we do need to train for it and the way we do that is through each clearing our own triggers and traumas so that we can speak with clear voices, messages of love and light to the people who don’t even realize they are afraid.
Let’s go deep and together we can heal.