Transformation Hypnosis

09/04/2024

DNC & Clear Choice PAC spent $1 BILLION to keep RFK off the ballot.

They sued him multiple times in every single State, after he succeeded in meeting all requirements, just to run him out of money and take up his time fighting them.

What kind of monsters support this type of election interference?

06/14/2022

I ran over my husband's Mini-Cooper with my Rav4! 😳

05/25/2022

Sharon Frochen from Discover Your Path U and I have a conversation about what Hypnosis is and how it helps us and others.

02/18/2021

I am in training to learn The Lefkoe Method of eliminating beliefs that hold us back. I love this article from Shelly Lefkoe because I have lived the experience of feeling “not good enough” and now I like myself, even if I do or don’t do something I “should” (bad word in my vocabulary). I can be wrong and still like myself. I can correct myself, or not. 😊

Unconditional self-esteem and how to get it

In 333 BC Alexander the Great and his army marched into Gordium, the capital of Phrygia. He observed a tangled set of knots tied to a wagon. The bundle was so complex it was impossible to see how they were fastened. Phrygian legend had it that anyone who could unravel the complex set of knots would become the ruler of all of Asia. The ancient historian Arrian said that Alexander was immediately "seized with an ardent desire" to untie the knot.
He tried for hours and made no progress. Then he stood back and said, “It makes no difference how they are loosed.” Then sliced the knot in half with his sword.
To solve the puzzle Alexander decided to ignore the unspoken conditions others had accepted - that you must untie the knot - and used his sword to cut right through the problem. Similarly, when it comes to building self-esteem people assume a set of conditions. That you must achieve to build your self-esteem. That you must get recognition and praise from others. That life must go pretty well or else we'll feel down about ourselves. As you can probably tell, I don't agree with any of these assumptions.
I believe it's possible to have unconditional self-esteem

Before I go into how I know this, I'll define unconditional self-esteem. Unconditional self-esteem is feeling OK about yourself regardless of what happens in your life. So if you succeed you feel OK about you. If you fail, you still feel OK about you. That doesn't mean you enjoy failing. You just continue to like yourself regardless of what happens.
The same is true when it comes to how others feel about you. Someone may like you or not. You might get praise or not. No matter what you still feel OK as a person. Your sense of yourself is rock solid.
Unconditional self-worth allows you to feel OK even if everything in your life is not OK. This is an empowering way to be. You can remain centered and stable even when a storm of events whirls around you.
The question is then, how does one get this internal stability?

To get to this point requires that you eliminate two different kinds of beliefs. 1) Self-beliefs and 2) survival strategy beliefs.
1) Self-Beliefs
Self-beliefs are any beliefs you have about yourself. "I'm not good enough", "I'm not important", "I'm not worthwhile." They tell you that you're OK or not OK. When you eliminate a self-belief, you often feel that a weight has been lifted. A natural feeling of confidence rises up within you. It's not forced. It's just there. You also feel worthy for no reason at all. You just do.
2) Survival Strategy Beliefs
These are beliefs that say your self worth is contingent on something "good" happening. A belief like "What makes me good enough is doing things perfectly" makes you feel you need to do something just right before you can feel OK. A belief like "What makes me important is achieving" makes you feel you must reach important goals to feel good about yourself.
Both types of beliefs need to be eliminated in order to have unconditional self-worth.
I used to worry about what others thought about me constantly. After eliminating self-beliefs such as "I'm not good enough" and the survival strategy belief "What makes me good enough is having other people think well of" me that inner voice became quiet. I am now myself 24/7. I no longer feel defined by anything outside of me. It's true freedom and makes my life way more fun.
But isn't it natural to feel bad when things go wrong?

Yes, it is common that people feel bad when things go wrong. When my husband died, I felt deep sorrow. I still miss him to this day. I'll likely miss him for the rest of my life. However, I don't feel bad about myself as a result of his passing.
I've met other wives who started to feel incompetent when they struggled to do what their husbands did for them or unworthy especially when they see other people enjoying life while they're still grieving. Some negative feelings are of course natural. But self-judgment can always be eliminated if we get rid of limiting beliefs about ourselves.
You can get rid of self-beliefs by using our free belief program at www.recreateyourlife.com/free and our Natural Confidence Program shows you how to eliminate survival strategy beliefs as well. One thing to keep in mind though, you must eliminate self-beliefs before you try eliminating survival strategy beliefs. You want to get rid of the belief that has you feel not OK before you get rid of the belief that tries to make you feel OK.
Summary

Unconditional self-esteem is feeling OK about yourself regardless of what happens to you
It empowers you to do what matters in life even when things don't go your way
To gain unconditional self-worth, you need to eliminate two kinds of beliefs: 1) self-beliefs and 2) survival strategy beliefs
Feeling bad about some unwanted events can't always be avoided but we can keep from feeling bad about ourselves when we eliminate limiting beliefs
Typical strategies for raising self-esteem take a long time and can be like trying to unravel the Gordion Knot. Eliminating beliefs is a bit more like having Alexander's sword cut through to immediate relief.
Next step

The best way I know of to eliminate beliefs on your own is with our Natural Confidence Program. It helps you regain the natural confidence we are all born with but tend to lose as we get older. It contains videos that guide you into eliminating 19 limiting beliefs we've found most people have.
When you're done with the program, you'll feel lighter, stronger, and more capable. You'll take actions you've been avoiding for years. You can see dozens of success stories about the program here: https://recreateyourlife.com/store/nc-success-stories.php

01/05/2021

Taking in a full breath, filling the belly first then the lungs and making the sound “Vuuuu” in as deep a tone as possible as you release the air, feeling the vibration all the way down to the belly. Repeat several times.

Try it, it feels good! Peter Levine is a leading expert in somatic trauma healing and this is only one of the many techniques he uses to help people heal.

Peter Levine, PhD, shares a quick, simple exercise that your client can use if they begin to feel overwhelmed by despair.

11/26/2020

Happy Thanksgiving!

This morning’s email from ‘The Daily Stoic’ was so well spoken that I wanted to share it:

On this day of American Thanksgiving, we’re supposed to make time to give thanks, to actively think about that word which has become almost cliché in wellness circles: gratitude. But what is gratitude? Some people think of it as being thankful for all the good things you have in your life. Others see it as the act of acknowledging what people have done for you or what you appreciate about others.

While the Stoics would have agreed that all of what those interpretations encompass is important, they practiced a slightly different form of gratitude. It was more inclusive, and counterintuitive. It wasn’t about acknowledging or being thankful just for the good, but for all of life. “Convince yourself that everything is the gift of the gods,” was how Marcus Aurelius put it, “that things are good and always will be.” The first key word there is everything. The other key word is convince. Meaning: you have to tell yourself that it’s all good, even the so-called “bad stuff.”

Is it possible to be grateful for a year that has been as difficult as 2020? A pandemic that’s claimed the lives of nearly 1.5 million people across the globe? That has produced layoffs and lockdowns? And then there are the wildfires. The hurricanes. Contested elections. Civil unrest and horrible moments of inhumanity seemingly everywhere you turn.

We didn’t create these problems. But they did happen. And while they aren’t our fault, it is up to us what we do with them, what we turn them into, how we manage to become better for them. And it’s that glimmer of light—especially with the passage of time—that will allow us to find something to be grateful for in the darkness of these times.

In Discourses, Epictetus says, “It is easy to praise providence for anything that may happen if you have two qualities: a complete view of what has actually happened in each instance, and a sense of gratitude.” On the surface, much of what we’re upset about or wish hadn’t occurred is so objectionable that gratitude seems impossible. But if we can zoom out for that more complete view, understanding and appreciation can emerge.

First off, you’re alive. That’s the silver lining of every sh*tty situation and should not be forgotten. But second, everything that has happened and is happening is bringing you to where you are. It’s contributing to the person you have become. And that’s a good thing. This understanding, Epictetus said, helps you see the world in full color—in the color of gratitude.

The Stoics believed that we should feel gratitude for all the people and events that form our lives. We shouldn’t just be thankful for the gifts we receive, and our relationships with friends and family. We should also be aware of and grateful for the setbacks and annoyances. For the difficult coworkers and the nagging in-laws, for the stress they put on us and whatever other difficulties we might be experiencing. Why? Because it’s all of those things, interconnected and interdependent, that made you who and what you are today. It is only by seeing the totality of things, good and bad, that you gain the understanding necessary to be truly grateful.

It could be a terrible relationship that imploded spectacularly, but which led to you meeting the love of your life. It could even be the passing of a relative, something that caused you great sadness but which also spurred you to build stronger relationships with your loved ones who are still with us. It could be the failure of your industry which, for all the loss and difficulty, forced you to finally get serious about that dream you have long deferred. All of these things are sad, and they may not even lead to a happy ending—but they still define the course of your life, and it wouldn’t be you sitting there right now without them.

As you sit here celebrating this Thanksgiving or Christmas or any other festive gratitude-focused holiday—virtually, safely, remembering your obligations to the common good—take the time to appreciate the moment and give thanks for all the obvious and bountiful gifts that moment presents. Look for the good within the bad. But be sure to be thankful for everything in your life, even the things you would have never wished for. Because it’s in seeing the full picture, and seeking to understand it, that you gain the ability to express true gratitude, now and forever.

11/09/2020

From my own experience I can verify the truth of Dr. Lucy Hone’s lesson. It bears repeating again and again, her second strategy for building resilience is finding gratitude. Listen to hear what her other effective strategies are based on her own tragedy and studies.

Everyone experiences loss, but how do you cope with the tough moments that follow? Resilience researcher Lucy Hone shares three hard-won strategies for developing the capacity to brave adversity, overcome struggle and face whatever may come head-on with fortitude and grace.

10/26/2020

The first time I heard this idea that what I hear is not necessarily what the other person said, I had to think about it.

The first knee jerk reaction is “Of course that’s what they said! Anyone would agree!” If anyone would agree, then I get to have the moral high ground and don’t we all want to be standing there?

Now that I am more aware of the concept I have proven to myself (sometimes to my great shock!) that sometimes what I heard, was not what was said.

I wake up with my special set of glasses on everyday and I hear what is being said through the lens (bias) of those glasses (beliefs). Sometimes the distortions are pretty far out there!

Grasping this concept has changed me in fundamental ways (sometimes really pi***ng me off), especially when I want to hold onto an anger, and realize I can’t when I view it through this lens. I have to question my belief and think of other meanings for the words I heard.

Try on several different glasses to explore with. It works like magic and really is a very interesting experiment.

The political strategist and pollster Frank Luntz is fond of the expression, “It’s not what you say, it’s what people hear.” His point is that politicians often think they come across to the public one way, but in fact are seen and heard quite differently. The same goes with issues, which mi...