04/01/2026
Tonight a woman shared her birth story
And then softened it, almost immediately
“But my baby was fine… and that’s what matters”
When did we start believing that this cancels everything else?
Somewhere along the way
We were taught that a healthy baby means the story ends well
Even if the mother is left holding fear
Pain
Confusion
Or trauma in her body
But two things can be true at once
Your baby can be okay
And you can still be hurting
Your baby can be safe
And your experience can still matter
Your healing is not conditional
Your pain does not need to be justified
You are allowed to not be okay
Even when they are
And you are allowed to get support
Without minimizing your story to earn it 🧡