Radical Resilience Wellness and Recovery

02/16/2026

02/15/2026

You would be AMAZED by the number of women who’re told by their health professionals that they couldn’t POSSIBLY be autistic because they’re married, have a job and make eye contact.

And then? They’re denied the opportunity of an assessment that could potentially fill in the gaps and give them a sense of identity.

Personally, I can make the best eye contact you’ve ever seen, I’m superb at it actually.

But you know how I make it happen? I stare at eyeballs and count in threes, really fast, to distract myself from the horrid feeling of the gaze poking me in the face. I’ve worked out that when I’m the one doing the speaking I can let my eyeballs move all over the place but when I’m the one doing the listening and there’s some outdated social-cultural responsibility for me to look at someone’s eyes when they talk’ I’m a mess!

It’s a tiring ordeal all this ‘where do I put my eyeballs’.

I discovered many years ago that the whites in human eyes are triangle shaped, so I can use them as a prop for counting in threes. When I’m low in capacity I literally spend full conversations counting the whites in your eyes just so that I can look at them.

*THIS* is the kind of information I can safely disclose during an autism assessment, but this is not the kind of thing I tell my GP about during a 10 minute referral consult.

It is so, SO important that health professionals upskill, that they learn what we now know about autism (not just what we knew 2, 5, 10 years ago), that they remember that our body is always responding it’s own safety cues, that making eye contact is not a sign of anything other than our own capacity in that moment and certainly not a key indicator of our neurotype.

Read full article on Substack at ‘The Neuro-Affirming Path’ ### allisondavies.substack.com

02/15/2026

02/14/2026

Shame is a hallmark of CPTSD. It whispers lies: “You’re broken. You’re too much. You’ll never be enough.”
In trauma recovery, reclaiming your story begins by rejecting the shame and labels that were never yours to carry.
You are not “too sensitive.” You are deeply attuned.
You are not “too emotional.” You are human.
You are not "broken." You've been injured.
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02/14/2026

Actual healing isn’t aesthetic ❤️‍🩹💫

02/14/2026

via on ig

02/14/2026

02/13/2026

02/12/2026

This is...surprisingly accurate 🥴🥴

02/12/2026

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I need y’all to plz tell me you remember this shoe era.

02/11/2026

DBT is brilliant!

DBTSkills. Interpersonal Effectiveness Module. Invalidation.

This infographic goes some way towards explaining how invalidation can occur in an ' invalidating environment' often when we were younger.

DBT skills can help us to recognise invalidation when it occurs and to prevent new invalidation from affecting us.