04/05/2026
In 1985 developmental psychologist Daniel Stern shared his findings that our attachment needs are met not through being soothed all the time but through the accuracy and timing with which our caregivers attuned to us
This remains true for our nervous system, and especially our female NS which is impacted by the relational more (think estrogen and oxytocin which are pro-social hormones)
We can do all the comforting of one another we want, but if we don't read one another with somatics body based language accuracy, we will feel alone , insecurely attachment, stuck in chronic shame and fear, she dysregulated
How do we do this?
We have to learn the language of our female body, our female nervous system
No one can read us accurately if we ourselves have incongruence between what we feel inside, and what we express outside
And there's allllll sorts of reasons women perform and perfect instead of expressing what they actually feel
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