Marleni Tavarez, LCSW

10/18/2024

Friday finds in the “therapy chair” - if only he can talk 🐶 😹 Happy Friday! This is what he does while I do paperwork.

09/21/2024

05/29/2024

Great list. 💛 this! . My mental health started improving when…

05/15/2024

Empaths may sometimes become therapist, workers in the helping field, social workers, workers in the medical field, preachers, veterinarians, IT workers…to name a few.

As children they struggle managing their own emotions, so many, so strong; not knowing which ones are theirs & which one’s are from other people. People seek them as good listeners and not uncommon that they can often be “dumped on” or be emotionally vulnerable to be abused.

They are naturally sensitive, aware, open receivers and attuned to others & their environment. Peers will seek them out & they can become very popular among their peers. Or targeted, made fun of, bullied, labeled as “too sensitive”.

Being an “empath” can be very difficult when you are a child. But know that it can be better. Being an “empath” as an adult can also be challenging when you have focus on shutting that part of yourself, numb it, pretend you are just going to be different, tough.

Learning to manage your empathetic abilities makes a difference. It will help you become better at what you do and understand your natural abilities as gifts and talents you have. Not uncommon that you too may often be called an “old soul”.

To all empaths out there: remember take care of yourself first to continue to care for others, do your own work to learn how to manage & practice self care & have a very good practice in knowing your limits and boundaries. When feeling overwhelm or in need - seek the help of a therapist to help you manage your empathic abilities, skills so that you can cope & thrive better in life!

05/07/2024

Therapy goals? What are you seeking therapy for? Sometimes people go to therapy because somebody asked them to, told them it would be good or said they had to. Ouch- that kind of therapy may not go very far. & really they may just be wasting their time & my time in therapy.

Believe me - some people go to therapy to apease someone who might be nagging them. They are not looking to grow, change anything because they really don’t see that there are any issues. A common statement they make is “ This is just the way I am”.

& then sometimes - the timing it’s just off. They are not ready to welcome growth or change because this may challenge or scare them. Or it may challenge other family members to grow with them.

But if you are, great! ✨You no longer need to stay stuck, because life can be so much better for you, your loved ones & everyone around you!

01/22/2024

If you don’t understand depression please READ THIS! 💚🧡❤️

01/13/2024

Happy New 2024 ✨ It is here & happening! Getting into the new year & starting with soul, spiritual, trauma trainings!

Healings From The Wounds of Life & War: Dr. Mike Hutchings & Rodney Hogue

Because mental health work can be wholistic that incorporates Mind, Body & Soul work.

A clients may at some point need to work on aspects of the soul: spiritual traumas, soul traumas or religious injuries. This is literally like working on your demons & those around you 🔥

10/27/2023

It’s that time of the year 🍁🍂when the colorful leaves are falling & the smell of pumpkin spice remind me that the seasons are changing; the holidays are nearing & so is the end of year 😳😮🤩

I too begin reflecting on the year & the things that I can do to wrap up this season before the next season arrives.

I’m inspired by the

I’m challenged to start dropping some bad habits & though I’m just starting I will continue with it. I’m working on dropping some bad habits I picked up during the pandemic. It takes about 21 days to establish a new habit so I’m well into it & feeling good.

I’m back to my consistent Monday thru Friday workouts 30-40min cardio = for me this is about 30mg of natural feel good brain chemicals serotonin & dopamine which is my natural way of boosting my feel good chemicals. & of course working on my sweet tooth, chips & salsa is still my biggest challenge 😋

What are you working on this season? Anything you need to drop in this season before moving to your next?

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10/17/2023

I got my ring 💍

Self care is a topic discussed in therapy a lot & I’m introducing this concept of buying yourself a ring to build reminders, to help my clients make a stronger commitment to self care, to self love. How are you doing with self-care?

I know I was looking for external motivation to renew my commitment to myself care when I thought of this ring idea ✨Because we cannot go back in time & there is nothing gained in regretting what I should have done then.

Self care is a daily everyday practice. But it’s something we may neglect when life gets busy, when sick, depressed, anxious, when in a season of change, seasons of transition or when when other things or people become a priority.

Give yourself some grace if you’ve been sick, depressed or anxious & couldn’t focus on your self- care. Start now.

This is specially an important reminder for all of us in the helping field. Because we do best when we take care of ourselves too.

I’m loving my ring 💍 Remember your self care. Working on the best version of yourself, self care, self love takes time & sometimes very special reminders 💍
Go treat yourself well!

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