Joe Kort

Joe Kort Joe Kort is a doctor of clinical sexology and licensed clinical social worker www.joekort.com over 680K on TikTok

04/03/2026

When a woman has one non-heteros*xual thought, she’s fetishized. When a man has one, he’s stigmatized.

Both are problematic.

S*xual behavior does not automatically define s*xual orientation. Not everything is about attraction. Sometimes it’s about context, curiosity, or the experience itself. Reducing people to labels ignores the nuance of how s*xuality actually works.

Link to full video on YouTube in my bio.

03/31/2026

I used to only be attracted to older men. Then one day, that shifted and I found myself attracted to younger men.

In this conversation with Jessica Levith, we talk about how s*xual and erotic interests can evolve over time and why these changes are often misunderstood. Instead of seeing them as something wrong or out of control, we explore how context, life experiences, and personal growth shape what we’re drawn to.

S*xuality isn’t static. It evolves.

Watch the full episode of Smart S*x Smart Love. Link in bio.

“Men don’t cry.”That message has shaped generations of boys into men who feel deeply but struggle to express it. Suppres...
03/31/2026

“Men don’t cry.”

That message has shaped generations of boys into men who feel deeply but struggle to express it. Suppressing emotions does not make someone strong. It often creates distance in relationships and increases stress, anxiety, and disconnection.

Emotional regulation is a skill. It can be learned at any age. Men deserve to express their feelings without their masculinity being questioned.

What would change if we taught boys how to name their emotions instead of hide them?
https://www.crsh.com/men-dont-cry-why-not/

03/30/2026

When you realize your partner has real limitations, it can be easy to focus on what’s missing. The question becomes, “Why can’t they just meet me where I am?”

What most people don’t realize is that every limitation often comes with a different kind of strength. Something they struggle with in one area, they may excel in another.

In my own marriage, my husband is incredibly logical, while I’m more emotional. Instead of fighting that difference, I’ve learned to value it. He helps me think differently, problem solve better, and see things I might miss.

When you shift from trying to change your partner to truly accepting them, the relationship begins to change too.

Link to the full video in bio.

Should your partner have close friends of the opposite s*x?This comes up often. For some, it feels threatening. For othe...
03/30/2026

Should your partner have close friends of the opposite s*x?

This comes up often. For some, it feels threatening. For others, completely normal.

The issue usually isn’t the friendship. It’s the meaning behind it.

Are there boundaries? Transparency? Trust?
Or secrecy and defensiveness?

Healthy relationships aren’t about control. They’re about communication and agreed-upon boundaries.

How do you feel about it?

Happy Bis*xual Health Awareness Month.Bis*xual individuals experience higher rates of anxiety, depression, and health di...
03/29/2026

Happy Bis*xual Health Awareness Month.

Bis*xual individuals experience higher rates of anxiety, depression, and health disparities compared to both heteros*xual and gay or le***an populations. Yet they are often overlooked in conversations about LGBTQ mental health and medical care.

The world is still binary seeing people as gay or straight. Many bis*xual people face unique stressors such as invisibility, invalidation, and pressure to pick a side. These experiences can impact self-esteem, relationships, and overall well-being.

If you identify as bis*xual, your experience is real. Your identity is valid. And your health matters. Affirming and informed care makes a difference.

03/27/2026

A partner assumes that because their partner has Asperger’s or is on the autism spectrum, it must explain struggles with s*x or intimacy. The question becomes, “Is this why our connection feels off?”

What most people don’t realize is that you cannot generalize autism. Every person is different, and every relationship is different.

In my own marriage, that assumption didn’t apply. My husband actually had a stronger s*xual desire than I did. The difference wasn’t about lack of interest. It was about understanding each other.

When you stop assuming and start understanding the individual in front of you, the narrative begins to shift. From frustration and confusion to clarity and acceptance.

Link to the full video in bio.

Crossdressing is something many men engage in for a variety of reasons—pleasure, self-expression, or exploring different...
03/25/2026

Crossdressing is something many men engage in for a variety of reasons—pleasure, self-expression, or exploring different aspects of themselves. When women discover their partner crossdresses, it’s common to feel unsure about what to do next. It’s important to remember that crossdressing doesn’t necessarily mean someone is gay, bi or trans. The key is to create a safe, open dialogue. Gently approach the topic, show acceptance, and give your partner space to share. Mutual understanding takes time, and it starts with empathy.

A reader recently left this review for LGBTQ Clients in Therapy, and it meant a lot to me:“A must read for clinicians wa...
03/24/2026

A reader recently left this review for LGBTQ Clients in Therapy, and it meant a lot to me:

“A must read for clinicians wanting to work with LGBT populations… practical, insightful, and easy to read… a great place to start for clinicians in training.”

This is exactly why I wrote this book. I wanted to create a resource that offers clear guidance, relevant history, current research, and real clinical examples so therapists can provide informed, affirming care to LGBTQ clients.

Competent care starts with education and openness. If you are a clinician looking to strengthen your work with LGBTQ populations, this book is a strong place to begin. Link to purchase a copy is in my bio.

03/23/2026

A partner sees something in their partner’s browser history and immediately feels confused, even disgusted. The question becomes, “Why would they be into this?”

What most people don’t realize is that s*xual interests don’t come out of nowhere. They are often shaped by early experiences, personal history, and emotional patterns that developed over time.

When you understand that there is a deeper story behind what someone is drawn to, the reaction can begin to shift. From judgment and confusion to curiosity and understanding.

Link to the full video in bio.

Mixed orientation marriages are some of the most emotionally complex situations I work with.Often, the husband did not c...
03/23/2026

Mixed orientation marriages are some of the most emotionally complex situations I work with.

Often, the husband did not consciously set out to deceive anyone. He fell in love. He built a life. He hoped his same s*x attraction would either fade or remain manageable. When it surfaces later in the marriage, it can feel emotionally brutal for both partners.

She may feel betrayed, used, or shattered. He may feel torn between the family he loves and an identity he can no longer ignore. Both can be hurting deeply at the same time.

There is no one right outcome. Some couples separate. Some renegotiate their relationship. Some stay together in ways that no one else would have predicted.

My role is not to tell them what they should do. It is to help them decide what works for them. Mixed orientation marriages deserve compassion, not judgment.

03/20/2026

In some relationships, there is an understanding that what you look at privately is just that, private. It is not a reflection of your partner or your relationship. But many couples never talk about this. So when someone discovers their partner’s browser history, it can feel shocking, personal, and deeply wounding.

What I often see is not just the discovery itself, but the lack of clear agreements. Couples are reacting to expectations that were never actually spoken out loud.

When you begin to understand the difference between privacy and secrecy, the conversation shifts. From betrayal and shame to clarity, empathy, and rebuilding trust.

Link to the full YouTube video in bio.

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