Joe Kort

02/26/2026

I know giving love often feels easier than receiving it but receiving love can stir up old hurts. Here are four ways you can accept love easier:

1. Simply say thank you.
2. Let yourself feel the pleasure of what’s given.
3. Acknowledge any old traumas that get in the way.
4. Remember you don’t have to give back right away, or at all.

Receiving love is a gift, allow it!

02/25/2026

So you are scrolling dating apps and come across some that says, “I’m not into drama,” it often means drama is close by.

They may be the one overtly creating it, and/or getting others create it in covert ways by being provocative. They may also be drawn to it unconsciously. Just beware that for someone to say this in a profile it can often mean that they are the drama.

The same goes for someone telling you to “calm down” when you already are calm. Often, it is their own anxiety or intensity showing up, and they are projecting it onto you.

Have you noticed this dynamic in your friendships or relationships?

02/25/2026

If a straight man has s*x with a man, does that automatically change his s*xual orientation?

In this free live webinar, I will break down what male s*xual fluidity really means and why behavior does not always equal identity.

This training is designed for therapists, educators, and anyone who wants a deeper understanding of s*xuality.

Save your seat today. Link to sign up for this free webinar in in my bio.
https://crsh.com/male-fluidity/

02/24/2026

Prefer a teletherapy virtural appointment?

You can schedule a session with me or one of my associates by calling 248.399.7447 or by visiting The Center for Relationship Health at crsh.com to book online.

Teletherapy is a convenient and effective way to receive care. Research consistently shows that telehealth leads to strong client outcomes and makes support more accessible from wherever you are.

02/23/2026

Foreplay can be the main play!

S*x does not have to mean in*******se. Outercourse is just as valid as in*******se when having s*x.

Many people cannot or do not want to engage in pe*******on because of medical conditions, trauma, disability, aging, identity, or personal preference. Yet they still deserve fulfilling and meaningful s*xual connection.

Outercourse is intimacy without in*******se. It can include sensual touch, oral s*x, mutual pleasure, erotic play, and emotional closeness. It is also known as foreplay. Foreplay can be the main play!

02/21/2026

You can build a happy, healthy, and s*xually fulfilling life, and you do not have to do it alone. The therapists at The Center for Relationship Health in Royal Oak are here to support you in gaining a deeper understanding of your s*xual health, whether you are seeking help as an individual or as a couple. We have a s*xual health division of certified and trained therapists who are here to help you enhance your s*xual wellness.

Through s*x therapy, you can explore your own feelings, experiences, and beliefs about intimacy, while also strengthening communication and connection with your partner.

Research continues to show that a satisfying and active love life is linked to greater well-being, improved health, and stronger long-term relationships.

To learn more about our practice and our team of licensed therapists, visit crsh.com or call 248.399.7447.

02/20/2026

For years, I was told I just hadn’t met the right guy or hadn’t had it done right. I was called a virgin. Some even suggested maybe I wasn’t really gay if I didn’t want to top or bottom. But none of that resonated with me. I simply wasn’t into it.

So one day I said, half joking, maybe I’m just a side. What started as a casual comment turned into a viral article and thousands of messages from men who finally felt seen. Men who thought something was wrong with them. Men who didn’t feel gay enough because they didn’t fit into a narrow definition of s*x.

When we expand the definition of s*x and allow people language for their experience, shame starts to dissolve and belonging takes its place.

Link to the full video in bio and below.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7C9V6W1silk&t=4s

02/20/2026

Does s*x have an expiration date?

Absolutely not. S*xuality is ageless. Unless, of course, you want it to end and there is no shame in that.

Your body may change over time, but that does not mean your desire, pleasure, or intimacy has to disappear. So many people assume that aging automatically means the end of a satisfying s*x life, but that belief is rooted in shame, misinformation, and unrealistic cultural expectations.

A healthy s*x life can evolve. It may look different than it did at 25, but it can still be meaningful, connected, and deeply pleasurable. You are in charge of defining what intimacy looks like for you.

Is aging affecting your s*xuality? Let’s talk about it.

02/19/2026

The movie, “Brokeback Mountain” came out and I was invited to guest on to talk shows around mixed orientation marriages

02/19/2026

I’ve been a therapist for 40 years, and I still hear people say, “Therapy doesn’t work. You’re just talking. I could talk to anyone.”

But therapy is not the same as talking to a friend, your doctor, or your hairdresser. Therapists are trained in pattern recognition, meaning we help you identify the emotional and relational patterns you keep repeating, often without even realizing it. We explore where those patterns came from, why they developed, and what they have been protecting you from.

And yes, insight matters. When you understand your story, you often gain self-compassion, and sometimes even compassion for the people who shaped you. But insight alone is not enough. Real healing comes through what we call “corrective” or “reparative experiences”where you begin to practice new ways of showing up in your relationships, in conflict, in intimacy, and in your everyday life.

Therapy is not just about knowing why you do what you do. It is about learning the skills to do something different, and then practicing them over and over again until your new patterns become your new normal. Growth takes repetition, just like exercise or building strength.

02/19/2026

Throwback Thursday circa 2006.

I was on Montel Williams and Tyra Banks talk shows on mixed orientation marriages involving straight wives and gay husbands.

Joe Kort (www.joekort.com) discusses mixed orientation marriages (when one spouse is gay and the other is straight) on Tyra Banks and the Montel Williams Show.

02/19/2026

A lot of people romanticize the idea of spontaneous s*x. And while s*x that originates organically in the moment can certainly be great, it’s not the only recipe for good s*x. It turns out that people don’t actually find spontaneous s*x to be any more satisfying on average than s*x that’s planned out in advance.

Planning s*x doesn’t have to take any of the fun out of it. After all, we plan most of the fun things in our lives (e.g., vacations) and that doesn’t make them any less enjoyable—so why would it be any different when it comes to s*x?

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Data source: Kovacevic, K., Tu, E., Rosen, N. O., Raposo, S., & Muise, A. (2023). Is Spontaneous S*x Ideal? Beliefs and Perceptions of Spontaneous and Planned S*x and S*xual Satisfaction in Romantic Relationships. The Journal of S*x Research, 1-15.