Joe Kort

Joe Kort Joe Kort is a doctor of clinical sexology and licensed clinical social worker www.joekort.com over 680K on TikTok

When someone says they’re bi-curious, what do you imagine? A straight man exploring with men? A gay person curious about...
03/13/2026

When someone says they’re bi-curious, what do you imagine? A straight man exploring with men? A gay person curious about the opposite s*x? The truth is, curiosity can go in any direction. Even a gay man might say he’s bi-curious if he’s interested in women or different dynamics. But remember—bi-curiosity isn’t just about body parts; it’s about who you’re attracted to. Curiosity can exist across genders, and that exploration is uniquely personal. What does bi-curious mean to you?

03/13/2026

I’ve identified as a gay man my entire life. I’ve only ever been attracted to men.

Then when I turned 50, something surprising happened. I was at a party talking to a woman and suddenly had a s*xual thought about her. It completely shocked me and honestly disturbed me, especially because of my own trauma history.

In this clip, I talk with s*x therapist Jessica Levith about that moment and how understanding s*xual fluidity and context helped me make sense of it. S*xuality can be more nuanced and complex than we’re taught.

Watch the full Smart S*x Smart Love conversation with Jessica Levith, linked in my bio.

Avoiding difficult conversations, disappearing when something feels uncomfortable, or leaving without saying why can dee...
03/12/2026

Avoiding difficult conversations, disappearing when something feels uncomfortable, or leaving without saying why can deepen shame and strengthen conflict avoidance. Therapy is one of the few spaces designed for you to say, “This isn’t working,” and be met with curiosity instead of rejection.

Ending therapy with a conversation allows for repair, reflection, and closure. It gives you the opportunity to practice direct communication and leave with intention rather than silence.

You do not need perfect words. Sometimes it is enough to say, “I’m not getting what I need,” or “I think it’s time to pause.”

Growth is not disappearing. Growth is staying long enough to speak

Slide to the side.I talk often about gay men who identify as sides, but this is not limited to the gay male community. B...
03/11/2026

Slide to the side.

I talk often about gay men who identify as sides, but this is not limited to the gay male community. Being a side is not about orientation. It is about s*xual and erotic preference.

A side is someone who prefers outercourse over in*******se. That can apply to gay, straight, bi, or anyone else. It simply means you enjoy s*xual connection without pe*******on being the focus.

Do you identify as a side?

I was recently featured in Men’s Health talking about s*xual chemistry and something I see often in my work with couples...
03/10/2026

I was recently featured in Men’s Health talking about s*xual chemistry and something I see often in my work with couples. Many people think chemistry has to be instant, but that’s not always the case. Sometimes it grows over time as partners communicate, explore, and learn what works for them together.

S*xual chemistry is important for many couples, but every relationship is different. What matters most is understanding your needs and being able to talk openly with your partner.

If you’re interested in learning more, you can read the full article in Men’s Health linked in my bio where I share more thoughts on this topic.
https://www.menshealth.com/s*x-women/a69787184/how-to-build-s*xual-chemistry/

If a straight man has s*x with a man, does that automatically change his s*xual orientation?In this free live webinar, I...
03/06/2026

If a straight man has s*x with a man, does that automatically change his s*xual orientation?

In this free live webinar, I will break down what male s*xual fluidity really means and why behavior does not always equal identity.

This training is designed for therapists, educators, and anyone who wants a deeper understanding of s*xuality.

Save your seat today. Link to sign up for this free webinar in in my bio.
https://crsh.com/male-fluidity/

03/06/2026

It’s so easy to go online, read a few things, and conclude, “I must be a s*x addict. Now I know what my problem is.”

But that label often misses what’s actually going on.

For 25 of my 41 years as a psychotherapist, I practiced s*x addiction treatment. I even identified as one myself. And I eventually realized it wasn’t helping my clients or me.

Link to the full video in bio.

A reader recently left this review for Cracking the Erotic Code, and it meant a lot to me:“LOVED THIS BOOK… Joe Kort gav...
02/27/2026

A reader recently left this review for Cracking the Erotic Code, and it meant a lot to me:

“LOVED THIS BOOK… Joe Kort gave me so many insights and information about myself as a gay man and cracking my erotic code, plus also showing me it is okay to connect socially and emotionally with other gay men like myself…”

This is exactly why I wrote this book. Understanding your erotic mind can bring clarity, self-acceptance, and a deeper sense of connection. You deserve to feel seen in who you are, and to know that your desires and emotional needs are valid.

If you are on your own journey of self-discovery, you are not alone. Link to purchase a copy is in my bio.

02/27/2026

A partner discovers something in a spouse’s browser history and feels shocked, disgusted, even betrayed. The other partner feels deep shame and cannot explain why the fantasy exists in the first place.

When you explore the backstory, painful early experiences can sometimes connect to what later becomes erotic. When that meaning clicks, shame softens and empathy can grow.

The fantasy does not disappear. You cannot give yourself an eroticectomy. But you can understand your erotic code and stop letting it manage you.

Link to the full video in bio.

I know giving love often feels easier than receiving it but receiving love can stir up old hurts. Here are four ways you...
02/26/2026

I know giving love often feels easier than receiving it but receiving love can stir up old hurts. Here are four ways you can accept love easier:

1. Simply say thank you.
2. Let yourself feel the pleasure of what’s given.
3. Acknowledge any old traumas that get in the way.
4. Remember you don’t have to give back right away, or at all.

Receiving love is a gift, allow it!

So you are scrolling dating apps and come across some that says, “I’m not into drama,” it often means drama is close by....
02/25/2026

So you are scrolling dating apps and come across some that says, “I’m not into drama,” it often means drama is close by.

They may be the one overtly creating it, and/or getting others create it in covert ways by being provocative. They may also be drawn to it unconsciously. Just beware that for someone to say this in a profile it can often mean that they are the drama.

The same goes for someone telling you to “calm down” when you already are calm. Often, it is their own anxiety or intensity showing up, and they are projecting it onto you.

Have you noticed this dynamic in your friendships or relationships?

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