03/26/2026
How often are correcting other ls false perceptions of you? Of course, sometimes this is one way to develop a deeper sense of emotional intimacy when someone mistakenly comments to you about you something that is inaccurate. Wait…. WHAT? Is that even a healthy relationship? No. It is NOT! Let’s give them the benefit of the doubt and an opportunity to learn, change and grow. Your response matters. If you subtly defend yourself with the I’m not and I didn’t’s, a great opportunity is missed here. Instead of defending yourself, if it’s a relationship you want to preserve, First: self check; is what they said true. Second: Acknowledge; if it’s true acknowledge and take accountability. Three: Inform; It would be helpful in receiving hard feedback if it were framed as a question or I was asked if I was open to feedback. If what they say is false-well that’s gaslighting and there is no sense in defending yourself here. Walk away. Recognize the interaction for what it was; unhealthy.
