10/30/2025
Crestwood's Peer Support Workforce
"Taking a Crash Course in Recovery Listening Skills"
by Chris Martin, Crestwood Sr. Director of Learning and Performance
You can scan through any college course catalog and find numerous courses on speaking, such as health communication, organizational communication, public speaking, argumentation, debate, etc. But it won’t be often when you can find a course in listening. So, because listening is a key skill in recovery work, this might be a great time to take a free crash course. Read through the following ten recovery listening skills and take the quiz afterwards.
1. Be Present and Pleasant: Do a mindfulness activity to get fully present and present a welcoming attitude.
2. Start with the Heart: Connect to the person on the personal (heart) level while assuming positive regard and empathy for them and their concerns.
3. Turn on the Utility of Humility: Take on the attitude that the person is there to teach you something or provide you with new important information.
4. Assign the Time: Set or agree upon the time for the person’s sharing. For example, you could say, “I have some time for you to share what’s been happening with you, and then it will be important for me to ask you some follow up questions. Does that work for you?"
5. Detect to Reflect: Discern the person’s feelings, needs, and/or concerns and reflect these back to them to ensure you got it right.
6. Suspend the Agenda: Set aside preconceived judgements that you know all about the situation and/or know how to fix it, i.e., “I’ve been there done that.”
7. Clear the Mirror: See the person in the full, positive light of who they are in the moment, not through a lens of who they were yesterday or from the days before.
8. Center the Locus of Focus: Keep the focus on the person and what they are saying.
9. Listen Actively, Not “Didactically”: Maintain a reverence for silence as the person is sharing and resist interrupting or one upping.
10. Make a Pact to Act: Conclude with a plan of action to address and validate the person’s feelings, needs, or concerns. The plan might just be an agreement on an adjustment of expectations or attitude. It’s important to the people we serve, our colleagues, and for our recovery culture that we, as recovery responders, are not hearers only but also doers.
Alright, please put your pens and hi-lighters down. Now that you’ve taken the course, you’ll find your quiz scores in your relationship outcomes with the people you serve and your co-workers.