Shaping Solutions with Dr. Shiela Little

Shaping Solutions with Dr. Shiela Little I empower individuals to transform chaos to clarity & experience true satisfaction in their L.I.F.E. https://www.shielalittle.com/stop-it-now-book L.E.M.O.N.S.

My book 'STOP IT NOW' offers powerful tools and empower you to conquer self-doubt and live your best life. Welcome to Shaping Solutions, the home of emotional strategy, mindset transformation, and practical success. Founded by Dr. Shiela Little, LMSW: Business Psychologist, Emotional Strategist, and Creator of the STOP IT NOW® Methodology, our mission is simple:
To help you stop self-sabotage, align emotionally, and shape the life, love, and legacy you deserve. At Shaping Solutions, we believe your emotions are data, not defects. Your patterns are protective, not permanent. And your story, no matter how complex, can be rewritten when you have the right frameworks, community, and strategy. We blend psychology, coaching, neuroscience, and emotional intelligence to help individuals, professionals, and organizations move from reactive living to intentional thriving. Through our proprietary frameworks, certified programs, and immersive experiences, we help you reconnect with your identity, strengthen your focus, and lead with emotional clarity. Our Core Programs and Frameworks

Project L.I.F.E.:
L.I.F.E. stands for Love of Self, Interactions, Focus, and Emotions. This transformational membership and group coaching experience is designed to help you live in alignment, with confidence, and be emotionally intelligent. Members receive access to L.I.F.E. Lessons, journaling prompts, live sessions, coaching labs, and challenges that bridge science and soul. SHAPE Your L.I.F.E. Thought Partnership Program:
Our one-to-one Thought Partnership experience for high-performing professionals and visionaries who want a strategic ally, not just a coach. This is co-creation at its finest. We collaborate deeply to shape your vision, structure your business, strengthen your mindset, and align your emotional well-being with your goals. STOP IT NOW® Framework:
A registered and trademarked model that breaks self-sabotaging cycles through eight steps:
Stories, Triggers, Obstacles, Patterns, IT Factor, Non-Negotiables, Opportunity Cost, and Win/When. It’s where mindset meets method, helping you build awareness, emotional regulation, and sustainable change. to L.E.M.O.N.A.D.E.™:
Based on Dr. Shiela’s doctoral research in Emotional Intelligence, this evidence-based program helps women entrepreneurs transform frustration and procrastination into clarity, action, and achievement. It’s both a personal growth journey and a professional performance accelerator. Project HOPE: LIFE Coaching Certification (Train-the-Trainer) Program
Funded through community partnerships, this initiative equips professionals and community leaders with tools in trauma-informed care, emotional regulation, and prevention strategies to help others thrive. Our Approach

We don’t believe in “quick fixes.”
We believe in frameworks that last. Our approach blends emotional intelligence, neuroscience, and strategic action so you can lead with both your heart and your head. Whether you’re a leader, entrepreneur, or everyday person ready to rise, Shaping Solutions meets you at the intersection of who you are and who you’re becoming. Our Products and Tools

• Digital Journals & Workbooks (The Weight We Carry, LIFE Lessons, and more)
• Self-paced courses and interactive experiences
• Group and one-on-one coaching programs
• Train-the-trainer certifications
• Online community and memberships
• Corporate workshops and emotional intelligence trainings

Our Promise

We are not here to fix you. We’re here to help you see you. Through every course, conversation, and coaching moment, we help you build a stronger relationship with your emotions, your energy, and your evolution. Connect With Us:

Website: https://shapingsolutions.org
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Email: support@shapingsolutions.org

Join the movement. Let’s shape solutions that align your emotions, elevate your mindset, and expand your life.

02/06/2026

💡 Here’s something I say often, and it usually stops people in their tracks:
If you’re going to believe a lie anyway… why not choose one that helps you live?

Think about it… So many of us already believe lies every day:

“I’m not enough.”
“I have to get it perfect.”
“I need to know everything before I start.”
“I can’t fail.”

Those are lies. And yet we believe them deeply – so deeply that they shape our choices, our confidence, our courage.

So here’s the reframe:
If belief is powerful enough to limit you, it’s powerful enough to align you. 💖

What if you created a vision for your life – a narrative that says, “I am capable,” “I am learning,” “I am allowed to grow as I go,” “There is something greater guiding me.”

Even temporarily… even experimentally… ✨

What if you chose to believe that?

Not because everything is perfect. Not because you have all the answers. But because faith – real faith – is believing in what’s possible before it’s visible.

You don’t have to get it right all the time. You are already enough. And believing in a vision that advances you will always serve you more than believing a lie that keeps you small.

Faith isn’t about pretending. It’s about choosing a belief that moves you forward.

✨ Weekend Affirmation:
“I choose beliefs that align me, advance me, and remind me of who I am becoming.”

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Nobody would tell you this but…You are allowed to be soft, sad, and slow this month. 💖The world will keep moving. People...
02/06/2026

Nobody would tell you this but…

You are allowed to be soft, sad, and slow this month. 💖

The world will keep moving. People will keep posting wins, milestones, glow-ups, and fresh starts. And quietly, you might feel like you’re falling behind because you’re still feeling.

But here’s the truth your nervous system needs to hear:
Soft doesn’t mean weak. Sad doesn’t mean broken. Slow doesn’t mean stuck.

It means your body is processing what your heart has been carrying. It means you’re listening instead of numbing. It means you’re choosing honesty over performance.

Healing isn’t something you rush to complete. It’s something you allow to unfold.

So if this month looks like fewer words, deeper breaths, canceled plans, tears that come without warning, or days where rest is the most productive thing you do – you’re not doing it wrong.

You’re doing it real. 🤍

Give yourself permission to move at the pace of truth, not expectation. Grace grows best in unhurried spaces.

You don’t need to catch up.
You don’t need to prove anything.
You just need to keep being gentle with yourself.

That’s healing too. ✨

And stay close. More LIFE Lessons are coming very soon! Designed to help you heal gently, grow intentionally, and live aligned.

02/06/2026

Fear doesn’t always mean “don’t go.” Sometimes it simply means “this matters”. 💡

Think about it… you’re about to apply for the job you really want. Fear shows up whispering, “What if I’m not good enough?” And the old instinct is to back out, wait, or shrink.

But what if instead you said:
“I’m walking through this.”
“I’m going to learn what I need to learn.”
“Fear doesn’t get to make decisions for me.”

Fear is a sensation, not a verdict. Uncertainty is not a stop sign. And hesitation doesn’t mean you’re unqualified, it means you’re stretching.

So when fear tries to slow you down, remind yourself:
“I keep moving, even with uncertainty, because I am not walking alone.”

Courage isn’t the absence of fear. It’s movement with fear – led by faith, wisdom, and trust.

Let this weekend be about walking forward gently, not waiting to feel perfectly ready. 💖

✨ Weekend Journal Prompts
Where has fear been asking me to stop – but growth is asking me to continue?
What would it look like to move forward without needing certainty first?
What can I learn if I walk through this instead of backing away?

Write honestly. No pressure. Just truth.

There was a season when I said I wanted new love, new connections, new peace, and new beginnings… but my hands were stil...
02/06/2026

There was a season when I said I wanted new love, new connections, new peace, and new beginnings… but my hands were still clenched around old pain. 💔

Old conversations I never got closure on.
Old betrayals I kept replaying “just in case.”
Old versions of myself that learned to survive by staying guarded.

And I didn’t realize this until one quiet moment when I felt tired of being tired.

💡 Here’s what became clear: You can’t receive new love while holding onto old wounds. Not because you’re broken, but because your hands are already full.

Healing isn’t about forgetting what hurt you. It’s about deciding what no longer gets to live in your body, your relationships, or your future.

Sometimes the reason love feels far away isn’t because it isn’t available, it’s because your heart is still busy protecting itself from yesterday.

And protection kept you alive… but it won’t let you receive.

So if you’re craving something new, start by loosening your grip on what’s old. Gently. Honestly. At your own pace. ✨

New love doesn’t need a perfect heart.
It needs a willing one.

✨Say this softly:
“I release what hurt me and make room for the love I deserve.”

02/05/2026

There was a moment when everything in you wanted to move forward. You felt the nudge. The idea. The desire to speak up, try something new, say yes to growth. 💡

And then… your heart started racing.

Your mind got loud.
What if this doesn’t work?
What if they judge me?
What if I fail?

So you paused, you waited, and you talked yourself out of it. Not because there was real danger, but because fear showed up sounding convincing.

Here’s what no one told us:

Fear doesn’t mean you’re unsafe. It means you’re unfamiliar.

Your brain felt the newness and rang the alarm.
Not to stop you… But because it didn’t recognize the territory yet.

And every time fear made the decision for you, your body learned a quiet lesson:
“Growth is dangerous.”
“Change is unsafe.”
“Stay where it’s familiar.”

So you stayed.
But what if that racing heart wasn’t a warning… what if it was evidence you were expanding?

What if fear wasn’t telling you don’t go… but simply saying, this matters?

You are still safe while growing. Still safe while choosing differently. Still safe while becoming someone new.

Fear doesn’t get the final say – faith, curiosity, and courage do. ❤️🔥

✨ Drop your word of the day in the comments, what’s one word that captures what you learned or felt from this today?

If January was heavy or messy, if it didn’t look the way you hoped, if you started with energy and ended with exhaustion...
02/04/2026

If January was heavy or messy, if it didn’t look the way you hoped, if you started with energy and ended with exhaustion – this is your permission slip. It’s okay to begin again this month. 🤍

Nothing about a hard start disqualifies you from a hopeful next step. Nothing about feeling overwhelmed means you’ve failed. It just means you’ve been carrying a lot and you’re still here.

You don’t need to fix everything at once.
You don’t need a perfect plan or a burst of motivation.
You only need a little honesty and a lot of grace.

Take a breath. 🌬️
Loosen your shoulders.
Let go of the pressure to “catch up.”

You’re allowed to reset gently.
You’re allowed to move slower.
You’re allowed to choose one small thing today that supports your peace.

Progress doesn’t always look like momentum. Sometimes it looks like compassion. And compassion is still movement.

You’re not behind.
You’re human.
And you’re allowed to start again – right here. ✨

02/04/2026

Here’s the lie many of us have been living under: “Once I feel fearless, then I’ll act.”

But if you wait to feel fearless before you move… you’ll be waiting forever. ⌛

Confidence does not come before action. It comes because of action. Confidence is not a personality trait. It’s a consequence. A consequence of showing up. Of practicing. Of trying again. Of building competence one step at a time.

The more you do something, the safer your nervous system feels doing it. The more you speak, the more confident you become in your voice. The more you challenge yourself, the more capable you feel. The more you act, the less power fear has over your choices.

And here’s the deeper truth: You deserve a life where fear doesn’t make your decisions for you.

Imagine what would shift if instead of listening to fear, you started listening to faith.

Instead of asking, “What if I fail?,” you asked, “What if I succeed?,” “What if this turns out better than I imagined?”

That shift – from fear to faith – is what fuels motivation, momentum, and real change.

You don’t become confident and then move. You move… and confidence follows. ✨

Stay tuned for upcoming live LIFE Lessons with Dr. Sheila Little, where we’ll go deeper into confidence, courage, emotional intelligence, and how to take aligned action without waiting for fear to disappear.

Your next level doesn’t require fearlessness… it requires movement.

This season has a way of amplifying what’s missing, what’s changed, or what you hoped would look different by now. That ...
02/03/2026

This season has a way of amplifying what’s missing, what’s changed, or what you hoped would look different by now. That doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’re human. 🤍

You don’t have to rush yourself into joy.
You don’t have to compare your heart to anyone else’s timeline.
You don’t have to explain why certain days feel heavier than others.

Let your feelings be information, not accusations.
Let softness be your strength.
Let compassion be how you carry yourself through this month.

You are not behind.
You are not forgotten.
You are not doing February “wrong.”

You’re doing it honestly... and that matters. ✨

Do one small thing today that brings you comfort: a walk, a warm drink, a quiet prayer, a text to someone safe. Let care count as progress. 💝

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02/03/2026

🧠 Real Talk Reflection

I reached adulthood with degrees, assets, income, and responsibility... yet there was still a quiet voice in my head that showed up anytime something felt tight or delayed: “I’m not good with money.”

Not because it was true, but because it was familiar.

What I didn’t understand back then was this: Life wasn’t punishing me. It was trying to redirect me. But instead of seeing moments of imbalance as opportunities to recalibrate, I treated them as proof that something was wrong with me.

That story created a pattern.
A cycle of lack. A push-pull relationship with money that said, “I don’t need you… but I really do.”

And here’s the truth that changed everything:
👉 The issue wasn’t money.
👉 The issue was the dialogue I had with myself about money.

Once I addressed the inner critic — the one repeating old beliefs — I could finally change the behavior.

Because you don’t just manage money with numbers. You manage it with thoughts, emotions, and awareness.

🌱 Say this until it feels true: “I release old narratives about money. I am capable, aware, and empowered to create healthy financial patterns.”

02/03/2026

FRIENDLY REMINDER 🌱
Your next level begins with your language because life and death are in the power of the tongue. The words you speak — to yourself and to others — are never neutral. They either build you up or slowly tear you down. They can inspire hope… or quietly reinforce fear.

Negative self-talk doesn’t live in isolation. It feeds the doubt, lack, and fear already floating in our collective consciousness — showing up as procrastination, imposter syndrome, and self-sabotage.

But faithful, intentional words? They activate what also exists in the collective:
✨ abundance
✨ confidence
✨ purpose

So today, let’s practice speaking a new language... one that matches the life we’re calling in.

TODAY’S AFFIRMATION 💬
“I speak words that align with abundance, confidence, and purpose.
My language supports the life I desire.”

Pause today and ask yourself: Are my words supporting who I’m becoming?

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02/02/2026

MONDAY LIFE LESSON ✨

Your words create your reality. The way you speak to yourself sets your minimum standard. Take a breath and really hear this: Your life right now is a reflection of what you’re willing to tolerate.

If your inner critic is running the show, you’ll stay stuck in lack, repeating patterns that no longer serve you.

But here’s the truth:
You have the right to upgrade your minimum standard. You have the power to change the inner dialogue. And once the self-talk shifts, everything else follows —
your finances, relationships, career, confidence, and abundance.

The thoughts that got you here will not take you there. So today, we choose differently. ❤️

TO DO TODAY 📝
✨ Notice your inner critic without judgment
✨ Interrupt it with a kinder, truer thought
✨ Ask: “What would my higher standard choose right now?”
✨ Speak to yourself like someone you’re rooting for
✨ Take ONE aligned action toward your vision

And reflect on this: What does your inner critic say to you the most?

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02/01/2026

🛑 DAY 28 – STOP IT NOW® CHALLENGE
STOP. BREATHE. REMEMBER.

Here’s the sequence and it matters:

1️⃣ STOP.
Not react. Not explain. Not fix. Just stop.

2️⃣ BREATHE.
Because breath brings you back to the present moment. It pulls you out of anxiety. It anchors you in now.

3️⃣ REMEMBER what you love to do and what you want to do better.

So many moments spiral not because they’re unmanageable, but because we abandon ourselves too quickly.

We get overwhelmed. We get anxious. We panic. 🫨
We leave the moment instead of staying with it.

Arguments escalate. Situations intensify. Decisions get rushed.

When all that was required… was a pause. ⏸️

Breath gives you access to the power of now. And the present moment is where clarity lives. It’s where you gather what you need to take the next step – even if the next step is simply being here.

You don’t need to solve everything today. Sometimes the goal is just to stay present.

Take a few quiet minutes and ask yourself:

• When was a time I panicked instead of pausing?
• What might have shifted if I had stopped and breathed first?
• What do I love doing that brings me back to myself?

Let this be a gentle close – not an ending, but an integration.

🌟 This may be the last day of the STOP IT NOW® Challenge, but it is not the end of the work.

Everything you practiced here – awareness, focus, boundaries, breath – is meant to live with you, not just in January.

✨ LIFE Lessons are coming back this February, and we’ll continue this journey together, deeper, live, and in real time.

Thank you for showing up. Thank you for doing the work. Thank you for choosing yourself.

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