Shaping Solutions with Dr. Shiela Little

11/13/2025

You’re not tired… you’re performing.
Every time you hide how you really feel, you drain your own peace. 😫

Truth might shake things.
But pretending? It slowly empties you. 🫙

Say what’s real.
Rest will find you after. ✨

11/13/2025

You keep calling it healing… but it’s really you trying to survive in a place that keeps breaking you.

You’re waiting on their apology.
You’re craving their validation.
You’re sacrificing your peace so they can stay comfortable.

But hear me: You cannot heal in environments that keep mirroring your pain.
You can’t grow where gaslighting is normal.
You can’t evolve where your boundaries are mocked.
You can’t become whole in relationships that punish your progress.

That’s not healing... that’s hostage energy.

And baby, the Spirit is trying to tell you:
It’s not that you’re “too sensitive.”
It’s that they’re too committed to who you used to be.

Real healing is when you stop proving, stop performing, stop pretending…
and you finally choose YOU.

Say this out loud:
✨ “I am allowed to leave the rooms that wound me.
My healing deserves safe soil.” ✨

If this hit your spirit… it’s time.
Drop a 🔓 if you’re ready to unlock the next level of your healing.

— Dr. Sheila Little

11/12/2025

I used to flinch at the truth, especially the kind that shook what I thought was stable.
I prayed for peace but feared what honesty might cost me.
But what I’ve learned is this:
Truth never comes to destroy you, it comes to deliver you. 🥰

That moment when God showed you who they really were?
That was protection, not punishment.

That time the opportunity fell through?
That was redirection, not rejection.

That uncomfortable conversation that forced you to grow?
That was love disguised as correction.

Truth clears the clutter that confusion built.
And gratitude… gratitude teaches your nervous system to trust clarity instead of craving chaos.

When you start thanking God for truth – even the hard kind, you stop living scared of loss and start living anchored in alignment.

🕊️ Try This:
Write down three moments where honesty protected your peace. Because what once hurt you is now proof of how God healed you.

11/11/2025

You’ve carried it long enough.
The disappointment. The silence. The ache that became familiar.
You’ve convinced yourself that healing means forgetting –
but love… true love… can’t breathe under that kind of pressure.

The Weight We Carry Challenge is a 4-week guided journey to help you:
🌸 Honor your emotions without judgment
🌸 Release the pain that’s been sitting heavy on your heart
🌸 Rebuild trust in yourself
🌸 Reopen your heart to love that feels safe, kind, and sustaining

You’ll get a free downloadable guided journal, weekly affirmations, and gentle prompts that walk you from reflection → release → rebuilding.

This isn’t just about letting go - it’s about making room for peace, worth, and love to move back in.

🌿 Join the challenge today, it’s completely free.
Your journey to healing starts with one brave click.
🔗 learn.shapingsolutions.org/the-weight-we-carry

11/11/2025

There was a time I thought peace meant silence.
That “𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘪𝘨𝘨𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯” meant shrinking myself to keep the room calm.
I called it maturity. I called it grace.
But really… it was fear – disguised as self-control.

Every time you dim your truth to keep the room calm, you teach your body that safety equals silence. And before long, you can’t tell if you’re protecting the peace… or just protecting your fear.

Because calm isn’t always holy.
Sometimes it’s habit.
A coping mechanism we dress up as maturity.

Here’s what healed me: 𝑹𝒆𝒂𝒍 𝒑𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒆𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒓𝒆𝒒𝒖𝒊𝒓𝒆 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈. 𝑰𝒕 𝒘𝒆𝒍𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒕𝒉 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒕𝒉 𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒌𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒓𝒐𝒐𝒎.

You deserve conversations that stretch your soul, not ones that shrink your voice. People who can handle your honesty, not just your harmony.

Remember, your truth doesn’t disturb peace – it defines it. When you speak from alignment, not anger, you invite connection that can actually hold you.

11/10/2025

You’ve been editing yourself for far too long. 💔
Holding your truth hostage so no one else feels uncomfortable.
But here’s the quiet truth: pretending costs more peace than honesty ever will.

This week isn’t about confrontation… it’s about liberation. ✨ It’s about realizing that honesty isn’t aggression… it’s alignment.

When you finally tell the truth – to yourself, to others, to God – your lungs expand again. Your spirit exhales. And suddenly, the weight you’ve been carrying turns into clarity.

💭 What have you been holding in to keep the peace? What would shift if you told the truth – gently, but completely?

11/10/2025

“𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒊𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒐𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕’𝒔 𝒎𝒐𝒔𝒕 𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒕… 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝑮𝒐𝒅’𝒔 𝒃𝒆𝒆𝒏 𝒘𝒂𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒖𝒔𝒆?”

You’ve been taught to smile through struggle.
To make it look good while you hold it together.
To call exhaustion purpose, and avoidance peace.

But peace built on pretending is not peace – it’s performance.
And performance might impress people… but it won’t free your soul.

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘀𝘁, 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲:
When you hide your truth, you hand your power to the lie.

Every time you say, “I’m fine,” while you’re falling apart inside, you reinforce the very prison you were born to walk out of.

But hear me, truth isn’t here to embarrass you.
It’s not here to expose your shame.
It’s here to express your freedom.

This week, we’re not chasing comfort – we’re choosing congruence.
We’re practicing truth until it feels like peace again.

Join me daily for LIFE Lesson, where we stop pretending and start practicing alignment.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/elevateinlife

Because this isn’t just the week of clarity.
𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝗼𝗳 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
And confrontation, when it’s sacred, is deliverance.

11/08/2025

Most people think self-care is about bubble baths and spa days. But the truth? It’s about the conversations you have with yourself - the quiet thoughts, the inner critic, the stories you’ve downloaded and now play on repeat. Those stories either fuel your peace or drain your energy.

In this episode of LIFE Lessons, Dr. Shiela Little invites you to pause and rewrite your inner narrative.

STREAM NOW: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0u6OUCTqwubNGMEs4Q3YBr?si=XfWJwKToRI6Z8vYTvsGlMQ

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LIFE Lessons with Dr. Shiela Little · Episode

11/05/2025

Good morning, good morning, good morning �It's Gratitude Shift Wednesday, Day 2 of Week 5: HEALING.

Yesterday, we talked about how you can't heal if you keep waiting to be perfect to deserve peace.
Today? We're getting disruptive about WHERE you're trying to heal.
Because here's what nobody tells you: You can't stay in spaces that keep re-breaking what you've repaired.
Let me say that again for the people in the back: You. Can't. Heal. Where. You. Got. Hurt. You can't heal:

In relationships that gaslight your reality
In environments that minimize your pain
With people who punish your boundaries
In spaces where your growth is seen as a threat
Yet you keep trying.
Why? Because you're seeking redemption from the same people who wounded you. Your nervous system is trying to rewrite the story.
It wants to make unsafe people finally choose you.
It wants to prove you're worthy of the love they couldn't give. But here's the disruptive truth: Healing doesn't mean getting them back. It means getting YOU back. You're not failing at healing.
You're trying to bloom in soil that still holds your shame. And no amount of:

Therapy
Boundaries
Communication
Personal growth...will make toxic soil healthy. Sometimes, healing means:

Walking away from people you still love
Leaving spaces that feel familiar but toxic
Choosing silence over closure
Letting go without explanation
Because you can't bloom in soil that still holds your shame.

� In today's LIFE Lesson:
� Why you keep trying to heal in the same places that hurt you
� How your nervous system seeks redemption from unsafe people
� Why healing requires context, and sometimes distance
� How to love people and still leave them
� Why silence can be your closure. You can love them.

And still leave. You can honor what was.
And still walk away. You can wish them well.
And still protect your peace.That's not abandonment. That's self-preservation.

� Join the conversation in Elevate In LIFE Group → facebook.com/groups/elevateinlife

� Tag someone who needs to hear: "Healing doesn't mean getting them back, it means getting you back.

"Drop a � if you're ready to stop healing in toxic soil.



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11/05/2025

You don’t realize how heavy a space is until you finally step out of it.

Sometimes we call it love, loyalty, or faith – when really it’s just survival. 🤍

You keep showing up, hoping they’ll see your growth for what it is, not rebellion.

But healing can’t bloom in the same environment that bruised you. 💥

Your spirit knows when it’s time to let go, even if your heart still wants to hold on.

Peace is not a personality… it’s a boundary.
And boundaries are the backbone of your healing. 💝

Protecting your peace doesn’t make you difficult.
It means you’ve learned what your soul needs to stay whole.

✨Try this:
Block, mute, or bless them from a distance.
Closure isn’t always a conversation, sometimes, it’s a quiet decision to choose yourself.

11/05/2025

There was a time you thought strength meant keeping it all together…
Smiling through the ache. 💔
Holding it in until no one could see you break.

But real strength isn’t performance. It’s permission. ✨

It’s letting your mess and your magic coexist without apology.

Some days you’ll rise. Some days you’ll unravel. Both matter. Both are healing. 🥰

You don’t have to hide your humanness to be whole.
You get to love yourself in real time – right in the middle of the becoming.

11/04/2025

Healing isn’t an aesthetic. 📢

It’s not a finish line. It’s a lifestyle of disruption.
The version of you that survived can’t lead the version of you that’s ready to live.

You have to let the soft parts rest, and let the bold parts rise. ♥️
This week, we’re not chasing calm.
We’re learning to practice peace, even when it costs us comfort.

Come visit Elevate in LIFE on Facebook to watch this week’s LIFE Lessons! https://www.facebook.com/groups/elevateinlife

✨ This week’s affirmation:
“I am not afraid to disrupt what wounded me. My healing is not quiet. It is courageous.”