Kami Orange Boundary Coach, 929 West Sunset Boulevard, Saint George, UT (2026)

04/29/2026

Existing in a fat body is political.

My focus is beyond the individual experience of body positivity into the collective movement of fat liberation.

Being a boundary coach is how I’m helping the work of fat activism move forward in my corner of the world.

For boundary phrases on fatness, food, and bodies, I wrote a whole book of them called SAY THE THING. Published by Hay House, it is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback wherever books are sold.🧡

Visual Description Written by Kami:
Kami is a fat white woman with pixie cut sandy hair hanging over her forehead and almost into her eyes. She’s walking out the back door while talking to the camera which then switches to show the her two yellow tube bird feeders. The camera follows Kami’s hands taking the empty bird feeders down, opening the bird seed bucket, pouring bird seed into the feeder, and then rehanging the bird feeder back up. A wide view of the whole backyard shows a little bird eating at the feeder and then flying away when the camera gets closer. Then the camera is inside the house looking out the window at a dozen small birds eating, landing on, and flying around the yellow tube bird feeders.

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04/28/2026

“Fat Fallen Empire”, a poem by me, Kami Orange, about being a fat woman online in 2026 America.

Our cultural obsession with thinness is a tool of whyt supremacy which keep selfish people in power.

You can’t march in the streets or protest class warfare if you are fixated on being smaller.

Body standards are unevenly applied to Black, brown, and racialized people. In turn, this hurts disabled and poor people who are a higher percentage of those communities in America.

At this point when people call me “fat” as an online insult, I assume they are someone who benefits from whyt supremacy.

And so far I’ve been correct each time I check their social profiles.

Let me be super clear: liberal leftist radical spaces online are not typically fat-friendly but that group doesn’t go trolling in comment sections saying, “She’s fat so her thoughts are invalid!” like conservative right extremists.

Visual Description Written by Kami:
Kami is a fat white woman with pixie cut sandy hair hanging over her forehead and almost into her eyes. She’s indoors sitting on the couch looking boldly at the camera while reciting her poem.

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04/24/2026

It’s okay to be fat. If I was using auto-generated video descriptions and it labeled me as a fat white woman, that would be fine!

However, generative AI is gross and I am insulted people think I’m using it.

GenAI goes against my politics of supporting disabled people first because where genAI data centers are being built disproportionately impacts poor communities full of disabled people.

GenAI goes against my politics of saving the bees and trees because I care about the environment and the water usage of genAI data centers is horrific.

GenAI goes against my life work as an author, creative, reader, and collector of original artwork. I refuse to support something that is based on stolen intellectual property.

I don’t and I won’t use the plagiarism pattern machine.

Video Description For People Using A Screen Reader: Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair. She is wearing an orange tank top and sitting against an indoor white wall speaking directly to the camera.

Note For People Who Dislike The Video Description: I wrote it. It’s not automatically generated. I am describing myself for people who are blind or low vision so they know what’s happening in the video. I am fat. I am also tall. Both of these are neutral descriptive adjectives. Telling me I’m being “mean to myself” by acknowledging my fatness is a projection of your anti-fat beliefs.

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04/23/2026

How to say no to people pushing you to try medical cannabinoid.

By follower request. If you need a boundary phrase, I’m looking for topics related to disability and mental health for upcoming content. Please ask in the comments and I might make a video about it!

The four phrases in this video (so you can save them to memorize and use):

I’m happy with what I’m doing.

I’m not looking for suggestions on my health right now. But I did want to ask you about [total topic switch]?

I love how much you love me and I know you’re trying to be supportive. You have brought up medical cannabinoid in multiple times even though I’ve told you I am not interested in that. Please don’t bring it up again.

I already said no. I’m not going to change my mind. Please stop asking me about medical cannabinoid.

For more boundary phrases, I wrote a whole book of them called SAY THE THING. Published by Hay House, it is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback wherever books are sold.🧡

Description For People Using A Screen Reader: Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair. She is wearing an orange and blue floral shirt and sitting against an indoor white wall speaking directly to the camera.

Note For People Who Dislike The Screen Reader Description: I wrote it. It’s not automatically generated. I am describing myself for people who are blind or low vision so they know what’s happening in the video. I am fat. I am also tall. Both of these are neutral descriptive adjectives. Telling me I’m being “mean to myself” by acknowledging my fatness is a projection of your anti-fat beliefs.

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04/22/2026

I have a lifetime of boundary practice.

My religious extremist parents were wrong about A LOT.

But I have benefited from them teaching me to stick to what I believe no matter what other people say or do.

My boundaries as an adult are based on my values of generosity and compassion. I will act accordingly even when metaphorical candy is shaken in my face.

I share more about my childhood in my boundary book SAY THE THING. Published by Hay House, it is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback wherever books are sold.🧡

Description For People Using A Screen Reader:
Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair. She is wearing an orange tank top and sitting on a brown couch against an indoor white wall speaking directly to the camera.

Note For People Who Dislike The Screen Reader Description: I wrote it. It’s not automatically generated. I am describing myself for people who are blind or low vision so they know what’s happening in the video. I am fat. I am also tall. Both of these are neutral descriptive adjectives. Telling me I’m being “mean to myself” by acknowledging my fatness is a projection of your anti-fat beliefs.

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04/21/2026

If you’re not drinking and people ask “why?” stick to short answers.

My favorite response is: I don’t want to.

I don’t need to make an excuse.

I don’t need to give a reason like prescription meds, pregnancy, work tomorrow, trying to quit, or anything else.

If I don’t want to, that is enough.

There’s a whole chapter of boundary phrases for when people comment on your recreational substance use in my book SAY THE THING. Published by Hay House, it is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback wherever books are sold.

Description For People Using A Screen Reader:
Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair. She is wearing a white tank top under pink and orange floral overalls. Kami is sitting against an indoor white wall speaking directly to the camera.🧡

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04/20/2026

If you use medical (censored word that begins with the letter C that is often depicted online with the leaf 🍃 emoji), here are three phrases to reply to haters.

One. I think you’re conflating recreational use for fun and medical use for function. They’re not the same thing.

Two. If you’re open to learning something new, I’m happy to send you some information. Science has come along way since we were in high school.

Three. This is prescribed by my doctor. I use it every day to function.

There’s a whole chapter of boundary phrases for when people comment on your recreational (or medical!) substance use in my book SAY THE THING. Published by Hay House, it is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback wherever books are sold.

Description For People Using A Screen Reader:
Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair and a pink headband. She is wearing a white tank top under pink and orange floral overalls. Kami is sitting against an indoor white wall speaking directly to the camera. The words “How to reply to haters if you use medical leaf emoji” are on screen.🧡

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04/17/2026

Six responses to “You’re just doing it for attention!”

I’m not wearing bandages on my face for attention but even if I was, that’s not a bad thing! Attention is a normal human need!!

One. Humans need attention. That’s normal.

Two. I’m not but even if I was, why do you care?

Three. Attention as a normal human need like physical touch or food. It’s okay to seek and receive attention.

Four. There’s enough attention to go around. You can have some too.

Five. It’s not okay to try to shame me for getting my human need for attention met.

Six. I guess it worked because here you are!

For more boundary phrases get my book SAY THE THING. Published by Hay House, it is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback wherever books are sold.

Description For People Using A Screen Reader:
Kami is a fat white woman with short messy sandy hair. There is a noticeable bandage across her right eyebrow. She is wearing a pink tank top sitting against an indoor white wall speaking directly to the camera.🧡

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04/16/2026

What if a child asks, “What happened to you?”

If you have something about you that you’ve gotten questions about at least twice, it’s time to prepare a response.

If you’re a wheelchair user and a child asks, you could reply:

I picked wheels instead of legs so I could go faster.

Walking makes me tired so I use a wheelchair.

It makes me sad to talk about it so I’m not going to.

If you have prominent scars and a child asks, you could reply:

Some people have spots and I have stripes. Bodies can look different.

It’s a scar. I got really hurt a long time ago but I’m okay now.

That’s a great question for your parents to answer.

If you use a cochlear implant or hearing aids and a child asks, you could reply:

It’s a machine that helps my ears work.

They are hearing aids to help me hear what people are saying.

I don’t answer questions about my body.

For more boundary phrases, including a chapter on body and disability comments, get my book SAY THE THING. Published by Hay House, it is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback wherever books are sold.

Description For People Using A Screen Reader:
Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair. She is wearing an orange tank top sitting against an indoor white wall speaking directly to the camera.🧡

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04/15/2026

My favorite reply when I don’t want to share why I have bandages on my face:

It’s not an interesting story.

For more topic specific boundary phrases, including a chapter on body and disability comments, get my book SAY THE THING. Published by Hay House, it is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback wherever books are sold.

Description For People Using A Screen Reader Written By Kami (Not Automated):

Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair. There are two bandages on her face across her right eyebrow. She is wearing an orange t-shirt and maroon overalls sitting in her parked car drivers seat speaking directly to the camera.🧡

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04/13/2026

Five responses to, “What happened?” when you have self-inflicted scars.

Thank you to my Instagram followers Reid Helen and Hannah for your help with this one!

If they ask, “What happened to your arms?”

One: They’re scars from a long time ago.

Two: I got hurt but I’m better now.

Three: I got in a fight with a porcupine. Good thing I won!

Four: They’re from a car accident.

Five: I don’t like talking about it.

Six (a bonus reply that someone I knew in high school used to say because she wanted to make people feel uncomfortable for asking): They’re ritualistic.

For more topic specific boundary phrases, including a section on scars, get my book SAY THE THING. Published by Hay House, it is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback wherever books are sold.

Description For People Using A Screen Reader:
Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair. There are two bandages on her face across her right eyebrow. She is wearing an orange t-shirt and maroon overalls while sitting on her living room couch speaking directly to the camera.🧡

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04/10/2026

The story of what happened to my face: a subcutaneous cyst.

Basically an infection under the skin that forms a balloon like pocket of gross until drained.

The part I’m still shocked about is how fast this occurred? From nothing Friday to eye-swollen-shut Monday. Wild.

Description For People Using A Screen Reader:
Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair. She is wearing an orange tank top sitting outside against the fence with two bandages on her right eyebrow speaking directly to the camera.🧡

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