Leslie Ellen Mathews JD, MSW

Leslie Ellen Mathews JD, MSW Helping women untangle the legal, emotional, and identity knots of divorce. Divorce can unravel everything—but it can also remake you.

With a background in law and a Masters in Social Work, I offer strategic and soulful support through The LooM Life—guiding you to peace, power, and clarity. With both a JD and MSW, I guide women through the emotional, logistical, and legal overwhelm of divorce. Through The LooM Life, I offer strategy, support, and soul as you untangle what was and reweave what’s next.
👉 Book a free consult to learn how we can work together. Strategic & soulful coaching by a lawyer-turned-therapist.

As a woman who has been through divorce, this is what I swear by now:Not chemistry.Not potential.Definitely not “he just...
03/01/2026

As a woman who has been through divorce, this is what I swear by now:

Not chemistry.
Not potential.
Definitely not “he just needs time.”

I swear by how my body feels.

After divorce, you replay everything.

The fights.
The apologies.
The nights you felt crazy for even bringing something up.

I used to call it overthinking.

That tight chest before hard conversations.
That pit in my stomach when he’d pull away.
That wired feeling after we “resolved” something.

I told myself it was anxiety. Stress. Hormones.

No.

It was information.

Now when I’m dating, I watch:

Can I relax around him?
Do I feel steady the next day?
Or am I spun out, overanalyzing every text?

Healthy relationships do not require detective work.

Here’s the distinction most of us were never taught:

Anxiety feels loud.
Urgent.
Spiky.
“I need to fix this now.”
“I need to send the long text.”
“I need reassurance immediately.”

Intuition is quieter.

It doesn’t scream.
It doesn’t rush.
It doesn’t demand action in the heat of the moment.

It sits there.
It stays.
It doesn’t leave.

Anxiety says: do something right now.
Intuition says: notice this.

Divorce taught me this:

Love should not feel like survival.
Dating should not feel like endurance.
Peace is not boring.

If you feel confused more often than calm, pay attention.
If your nervous system feels jacked up more than settled, pay attention.
If you have to convince yourself it’s fine, pay attention.

That’s not drama.

That’s wisdom your body earned.

I work with women navigating divorce, separation, and dating after heartbreak — helping them tell the difference between anxiety and intuition so they can rebuild self-trust.

If this resonates, book a session with me.
Scheduling and website link are in my bio.

February may have not gone the way you planned. That doesn't mean you're behind.Before this month closes, give yourself ...
03/01/2026

February may have not gone the way you planned. That doesn't mean you're behind.

Before this month closes, give yourself permission to set down the plans that didn't happen, the survival version of yourself you've been holding onto long past her expiration date, and the quiet belief that everyone else is somehow further along.

You're not late. You're just ready for something lighter. 🤍

02/28/2026

When's the last time you used yours?

You hold space for everyone else's breakthroughs, but your own message is still sitting in your drafts.

What if the people who need you most can't find you because you haven't pressed record yet?

Press Record is a 6-week live program designed for therapists and coaches who are ready to launch their own podcast.

Your voice deserves to be heard too.

Spring cohort starts March 26th. Link in bio to join.

Ready?Stop listening to what they say.Start watching what they do.Not romantic.Not cinematic.Not exciting.But accurate.W...
02/28/2026

Ready?

Stop listening to what they say.
Start watching what they do.

Not romantic.
Not cinematic.
Not exciting.

But accurate.

When you’re in love…
Trying to save a marriage…
Dating after heartbreak…

Words feel good.

“I’ll do better.”
“I didn’t mean it.”
“I just need time.”
“You’re the only one.”

Okay.

Now what actually changed?

If you are constantly confused in your relationship, that confusion is information.

Repair is possible when there is real effort.

Not once.
Not for a week.
Not when they’re afraid you’ll leave.

Real repair looks like:
• Consistent follow-through
• Ownership without being cornered
• Behavioral change that lasts beyond the crisis
• Growth that doesn’t depend on your exhaustion

Release looks different.

It’s when you can predict the apology script.
When you’re bending yourself into a pretzel to keep the peace.
When you’re doing all the “self work” and they’re doing… vibes.
When it’s the same fight every three weeks.

If the apology is strong but the behavior is the same, that’s the loudest information of all.

The pattern is almost always this:

You saw it.
You felt it.
You talked yourself out of it.

Because hope is loud.
Chemistry is loud.
Potential is loud.

Patterns are quiet.

But they don’t lie.

I work with women navigating repair, separation, and dating after heartbreak — helping them discern what’s struggling and what’s unsafe.

If you need clarity around whether to repair or release, book a session with me.
Scheduling and website link are in my bio.

02/27/2026

Here’s the part no one says clearly enough:

Love shouldn’t feel like survival.

Yes, attachment wounds are real.
Yes, nervous systems can learn new patterns.
Yes, relationships can grow.

But not if you’re the only one doing the inner work.

In this episode, I talk honestly about something that matters deeply — knowing the difference between compassion and self-abandonment.

You can hold space for someone’s healing
without sacrificing your own peace.

You can be loving
without betraying your alignment.

And sometimes the most powerful manifestation isn’t getting him to stay.

It’s choosing yourself.

Click the link to watch the full episode.
It’s available on my podcast and YouTube:
https://www.pullingthreadspodcast.com/

https://www.youtube.com/

02/27/2026

When your partner is activated, your nervous system will want to rise to meet it.

Volume meets volume.
Sharp meets sharp.
Defense meets defense.

And suddenly you’re both escalated.

Mindfulness during conflict means staying present in your own body while someone else is dysregulated.

That looks like:
• Slowing your breathing intentionally
• Softening your tone instead of raising it
• Keeping your pace steady
• Responding to content, not energy
• Naming what’s happening instead of attacking

Co-regulation doesn’t mean tolerating disrespect.
It means refusing to let activation take over the room.

Emotional containment is power.
It prevents hours of repair later.

I teach couples how to stay regulated in hard conversations so conflict builds security instead of eroding it.

If you want to strengthen your nervous system in relationship, book a session with me.
Scheduling and website link are in my bio.

The question isn't "Am I ready?"⁠⁠The question is "How long am I going to keep waiting for a feeling that isn't coming?"...
02/26/2026

The question isn't "Am I ready?"⁠
⁠
The question is "How long am I going to keep waiting for a feeling that isn't coming?"⁠
⁠
If podcasting has been living rent-free in your head, this is your sign. Literally.⁠
⁠
Spring cohort starts March 26. ⁠
⁠
Small group. Big results. Link in bio to join.⁠
⁠

The question isn't "Am I ready?"The question is "How long am I going to keep waiting for a feeling that isn't coming?"If...
02/26/2026

The question isn't "Am I ready?"

The question is "How long am I going to keep waiting for a feeling that isn't coming?"

If podcasting has been living rent-free in your head, this is your sign. Literally.

Spring cohort starts March 26.

Small group. Big results. Link in bio to join.

02/26/2026

At some point, this stops being about him.

It becomes about you.

About whether you can stay grounded when he pulls back.
About whether you abandon yourself trying to keep the connection alive.
About whether this dynamic aligns with the life you’re trying to manifest.

Attachment isn’t just psychology.
It’s nervous system regulation.
It’s identity work.
It’s deciding who you are in love.

In this episode, I talk about the difference between dismissive and fearful avoidant attachment — and why knowing the difference matters.

Because clarity is power.

And when you understand what’s actually happening, you stop personalizing every shift in energy.

You get to choose from alignment instead of fear.

Click the link to watch the full episode.
It’s available on my podcast and YouTube:
https://www.pullingthreadspodcast.com/

https://www.youtube.com/

02/26/2026

5 things I wish more women understood before divorce:

Mindfulness will not fix a relationship that lacks emotional safety.
Breathing exercises cannot compensate for chronic disrespect.

Regulation is not the same as tolerance.
Calming your nervous system does not mean accepting mistreatment.

Growth requires accountability from both people.
If only one partner is doing the work, the dynamic stays imbalanced.

Emotional safety is built through consistency, not apologies.
Follow-through matters more than promises.

You cannot regulate your way out of someone else’s refusal to take responsibility.

Mindfulness is powerful.
It creates clarity.
It strengthens discernment.

But it is not meant to keep you in unsafe dynamics.

I work with women navigating repair, discernment, and major relational decisions from a grounded, regulated place.

If you need steady support while evaluating your relationship, book a session with me.
Scheduling and website link are in my bio."

Mindfulness will not fix a relationship that lacks emotional safety.
Breathing exercises cannot compensate for chronic disrespect.

Regulation is not the same as tolerance.
Calming your nervous system does not mean accepting mistreatment.

Growth requires accountability from both people.
If only one partner is doing the work, the dynamic stays imbalanced.

Emotional safety is built through consistency, not apologies.
Follow-through matters more than promises.

You cannot regulate your way out of someone else’s refusal to take responsibility.

Mindfulness is powerful.
It creates clarity.
It strengthens discernment.

But it is not meant to keep you in unsafe dynamics.

I work with women navigating repair, discernment, and major relational decisions from a grounded, regulated place.

If you need steady support while evaluating your relationship, book a session with me.
Scheduling and website link are in my bio.

02/25/2026

If you’ve been meaning to listen… this is your gentle nudge.

Maybe he just pulled back.
Maybe you’re trying so hard to stay regulated and not spiral.
Maybe you’re exhausted from holding it all together.

You don’t have to navigate this alone.

This episode is a grounded, honest conversation about avoidant attachment, nervous system safety, emotional regulation, and what alignment in love actually looks like.

No drama.
No man-bashing.
Just awareness and compassion.

Sometimes growth isn’t loud.
It’s noticing the pattern without shaming yourself.

Click the link to watch the full episode.
It’s available on my podcast and YouTube:
https://www.pullingthreadspodcast.com/

https://www.youtube.com/

02/25/2026

You don’t rush intimacy.
You pace yourself.

You keep your life full.
You don’t rearrange it around potential.

You notice patterns instead of clinging to promises.
You observe behavior instead of overvaluing words.

Secure dating means:
• You don’t chase mixed signals
• You don’t explain away inconsistency
• You don’t confuse chemistry with compatibility
• You let actions reveal alignment

When your nervous system is regulated, confusion feels like information — not a challenge to overcome.

Alignment feels calm.
Not chaotic.
Not urgent.
Not performative.

If you want to date from security instead of anxiety, I can help.

Book a session with me.
Scheduling and website link are in my bio.

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