Leslie Ellen Mathews JD, MSW

Leslie Ellen Mathews JD, MSW Serving women ready to stop surviving love and start feeling safe in it. Relationship Clarity | Divorce Healing
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Divorce can unravel everything—but it can also remake you. With both a JD and MSW, I guide women through the emotional, logistical, and legal overwhelm of divorce. Through The LooM Life, I offer strategy, support, and soul as you untangle what was and reweave what’s next.
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03/31/2026

This episode is live… and it’s one to listen to when you have a little space.

We talk about something simple that most people don’t experience enough:

Being listened to without interruption.
Without advice.
Without someone trying to fix you.

And what that actually does for your emotional regulation, your clarity, and your sense of self.

So many women slowly lose their voice in relationships.
This conversation is about what helps them find it again.

You can listen on the podcast or watch on YouTube.

Click the link to watch the full episode

https://www.pullingthreadspodcast.com/

https://www.youtube.com/

03/31/2026

I didn't build Press Record because podcasting is trendy.

I built it because I kept meeting therapists and coaches who had genuinely important things to say, and they were saying them to an empty room.

Not because they weren't good enough. Not because their ideas weren't valuable. But because nobody had ever helped them figure out how to show up and be heard.

That's the gap I wanted to close.

Six weeks. A small, supported group. And you, recording and publishing, for real this time.

Next cohort is almost here. We’ll start tomorrow. Link in my bio to join us.

You can love someone and still be stuck.You can love someone and still be shrinking.You can love someone and still be lo...
03/31/2026

You can love someone and still be stuck.

You can love someone and still be shrinking.

You can love someone and still be losing yourself one compromise at a time.

Love is not the question.

The question is: does this relationship allow you to be whole?

Because “I love him” is not a reason to stay. It’s an emotion. And emotions without safety, honesty, and mutual respect will keep you spinning in the same cycle wondering why love never feels like enough.

If you recognized yourself in any of these slides, that awareness matters. It doesn’t mean you need to blow up your life tomorrow. It means you’re starting to see clearly. And clarity, even when it’s uncomfortable, is always the first step toward something better.

I work with women every day who are navigating exactly this. The ones who love deeply but have started to realize that love alone isn’t holding things together. If that’s you, I’m here when you’re ready.

Save this. Share it. Come back to it.

And follow .loom.life for more on relationships, regulation, and building a life that actually feels like yours.

03/30/2026

You’re allowed to take your time with what you’re feeling.

Even if you’ve said it before.
Even if it doesn’t make sense to anyone else yet.

One of the most meaningful parts of this conversation was this:

You don’t have to be ready just because someone else thinks you should be.

That’s where self-trust starts to rebuild.
When you stop rushing yourself… and start listening inward.

Let this be a slower listen.

You can listen on the podcast or watch on YouTube.

Click the link to watch the full episode

https://www.pullingthreadspodcast.com/

https://www.youtube.com/

This is the one that gets me every time.Not "I learned how to use Spotify for Podcasters" (though they did).But the conf...
03/30/2026

This is the one that gets me every time.

Not "I learned how to use Spotify for Podcasters" (though they did).

But the confidence. Voice. Direction.

Those are the things I built this program around. Because I've seen what happens when a therapist or coach finally feels certain about what they have to say and who they're saying it to.

They don't just launch a podcast. They show up differently. In their practice, in their content, in the way they talk about their work.

That's what Press Record is really about.

Next cohort starts soon. Link in bio if you're ready. 🎙️

03/30/2026

Safe love might feel boring at first…
but what if it’s actually your nervous system healing?

If you’ve just come out of a breakup or divorce, your body is used to intensity, unpredictability, and emotional highs and lows. That pull you feel toward chaos? That’s not chemistry. That’s conditioning.

For the first 30–90 days in a new relationship, safe love can feel… quiet.
No anxiety spirals.
No guessing games.
No emotional rollercoaster.

And your brain might label that as “something’s missing.”

But what’s actually happening is a nervous system reset.

You are detoxing from survival mode.
You are recalibrating from anxious attachment.
You are learning what emotional safety feels like in real time.

This is one of the most important parts of healing after divorce or breakup:
learning to tolerate peace without trying to sabotage it.

Because safe love isn’t boring.
It’s unfamiliar.

And unfamiliar can feel uncomfortable… until it becomes secure.

✨ If you’re navigating dating after divorce, trying to understand attachment styles, or wondering why healthy love feels “off”… you’re not alone.

Save this for when your nervous system tries to convince you that chaos = chemistry.

“Can we just move on… can we change the channel?”That line stayed with me.Because a lot of women hear that in quiet ways...
03/29/2026

“Can we just move on… can we change the channel?”

That line stayed with me.

Because a lot of women hear that in quiet ways. From people who care about them… and still don’t know how to sit with what’s hard.

This conversation is about what happens when you don’t feel safe to say what’s really on your mind.

And how that shapes your nervous system, your voice, and the way you show up in relationships.

If you’ve ever felt rushed through something you weren’t done processing… this one will meet you there.

You can listen on the podcast or watch on YouTube.

Click the link to watch the full episode

https://www.pullingthreadspodcast.com/

https://www.youtube.com/

She came into Press Record knowing what she wanted: a podcast, a YouTube channel, a way to repurpose her content.She jus...
03/29/2026

She came into Press Record knowing what she wanted: a podcast, a YouTube channel, a way to repurpose her content.

She just does not quite knowing how to get there yet.

Six weeks later she had all of it.
What gets me every time isn't just the launch. It's everything that comes after.

The newsletter content. The YouTube channel. The private community. The episodes already queued up and ready to go.

That's what a sustainable system looks like. And it started with one decision to not figure it out alone.

Next cohort is coming up on April 1st. If this sounds like where you want to be six weeks from now, register through the link in my bio.

Check out Melissa’s podcast in You Tube:

Not every difficult relationship is just “triggering your wounds.”Sometimes the relationship is simply misaligned.Growth...
03/29/2026

Not every difficult relationship is just “triggering your wounds.”

Sometimes the relationship is simply misaligned.

Growth requires reflection and regulation, yes — but it also requires mutual compatibility, emotional safety, and shared values.

If you’re constantly trying to decide whether it’s your trauma or the relationship, pay attention to patterns like these:

• Your core values are incompatible
• Emotional safety never feels stable
• Conflict leads to shutdown instead of repair
• You feel relief when you imagine leaving
• You feel smaller instead of supported
• You are the only one invested in growth
• You keep waiting for potential instead of experiencing consistency
• You feel spiritually centered alone but dysregulated together

Healing attachment wounds doesn’t mean tolerating a relationship that continually destabilizes you.

Secure relationships still include challenges.

But they also include repair, emotional availability, and shared responsibility for growth.

Sometimes the most regulated decision you can make is recognizing:

This isn’t just triggering me.

It’s not aligned.

Save this if you’ve ever struggled to tell the difference between a trigger and a misaligned relationship.

Emotional availability is rare.And some of you are still calling the bare minimum “potential.”Responding to a text occas...
03/28/2026

Emotional availability is rare.

And some of you are still calling the bare minimum “potential.”

Responding to a text occasionally is not emotional availability.
Being charming on a date is not emotional availability.
Saying they “want something serious someday” is not emotional availability.

Emotional availability shows up in consistent behavior, not just words.

It looks like:

• Following through on what they say
• Being able to talk about feelings without shutting down
• Staying present during conflict instead of disappearing
• Taking responsibility instead of deflecting or blaming
• Showing curiosity about your inner world

That’s responsiveness.

And responsiveness is one of the strongest markers of secure attachment.

Too many people stay attached to someone’s potential while ignoring the reality of their behavior.

But relationships aren’t built on potential.

They’re built on emotional presence, reliability, and accountability.

If you’re dating right now, remember:

You’re not asking for too much when you want emotional availability.

You’re asking for the foundation of a healthy relationship.

Tell me in the comments:

What is one sign of emotional availability that matters most to you?

03/27/2026

Every cohort teaches me something.

This one reminded me that the podcast is never really the hard part. The hard part is believing your voice deserves to be heard.

Every single person in this cohort had that moment of doubt. And every single one of them published anyway.

That's the work. And I get to watch it happen every time.
If you've been sitting on the idea of starting a podcast, the next cohort is almost here.

Registration extended until April 1st. Small group. Six weeks. Real launch.

Link in bio. 🎙️

03/27/2026

If this week felt heavy, this is something to sit with:

You don’t have to solve everything right now.

A lot of what we talked about in this episode comes back to that. Burnout, overwhelm, disconnection… they often come from trying to hold too much at once without space to process it.

Even a few minutes of slowing down can shift your emotional regulation and bring you back into yourself.

Not to fix everything.
Just to reconnect.

That’s where real personal growth starts.

Click the link to watch the full episode

https://www.pullingthreadspodcast.com/

https://www.youtube.com/

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