01/01/2020
The New Year is upon us, which means it’s time to make a resolution or two. So what will it be this year: lose weight, again; promise yourself a change of job, again; earn more money, perhaps?
The truth is, most of us will do the same thing we always do: set some goals that will be forgotten about by the 7th January, or thereabouts. So this year, I’m proposing something different. And the goal-setting gurus will hate me for it.
The reason we don’t stick to our resolutions and don’t fulfill our goals is that they’re not SMART–specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely.
And while there is a lot of truth in that–for me–it’s only half the story.
So this year, I’m throwing the rulebook out the window and offering you an alternative pathway.
Do nothing. Don’t set any resolutions or goals.
And if you must set a resolution, then make it this: Give up wanting anything to happen in the New Year. If you have to set a goal, set a goal to set no goals.
If you don’t want to find yourself in precisely the same position this time next year, thinking the same thoughts and feeling the same feelings, do this instead:
Don’t rush forward in a panic to set resolutions or a list of goals you can start on New Year’s Day. Forget all that and enter the New Year in a mode of being absolutely present and absolutely positive about how great it’s going to be.
If you do this and endeavor to maintain this approach, you’ll end up doing everything you’re supposed to as and when it’s supposed to be done.
Stop the “I must” thought mill turning over all the things you should have done this year that you’ll “definitely do next year.”
Enter the New Year with zero pressure on your back to do anything other than remain open to the possibility of your potential, receptive to change, and ready to show compassion to yourself for your shortcomings.