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Not everyone finds magic in December 25th. And for many this day just…. f sucks. If you’re in that boat this year, we’r...
12/25/2025

Not everyone finds magic in December 25th. And for many this day just…. f sucks. If you’re in that boat this year, we’re here to tell you it’s ok ❤️.

If today feels complicated, heavy, or just different, you’re not alone. There’s no right way to do the holidays.

Whatever you’re feeling, wherever you are, however you’re spending today, we hope you find moments of peace and opportunities to take care of yourself.

Merry Christmas from our little crew to you 🤍

With love, 💚❤️🎄❤️💚
12/25/2025

With love, 💚❤️🎄❤️💚

12/23/2025

We talk a lot about holiday stress, but we don’t talk enough about holiday loneliness and how it shows up in ways people don’t expect.

You can be lonely in a relationship. Lonely at a crowded party. Lonely while everyone around you seems fine.
Loneliness isn’t always about being physically alone. Sometimes it’s about feeling unseen, unheard, or disconnected from the people right in front of you.

If that’s you right now, this one’s for you. You’re not imagining it, you’re not being dramatic, and you’re definitely not alone in feeling alone.

What does holiday loneliness look like for you this year? I’d love to hear in the comments… sometimes just naming it helps.

If this landed, save it or share it with someone who gets it. Let’s talk about the stuff nobody else wants to say out loud.

Saturday is the winter solstice—the darkest day of the year. What if instead of just surviving it, you honored it? For t...
12/18/2025

Saturday is the winter solstice—the darkest day of the year. What if instead of just surviving it, you honored it?

For thousands of years, humans have marked the winter solstice as sacred. Not because darkness is easy, but because it’s necessary.

Before seeds can grow, they rest in dark soil. Before dawn comes, we sit with the night. Before we move toward the light, we pause in the dark.

The solstice is a threshold moment. A turning point. A sacred pause.

And this year, instead of rushing through it or white-knuckling your way to “better days,” what if you used it as a ritual opportunity?

A moment to:

- Release what no longer serves you
- Rest without guilt or productivity
- Reflect on what this year asked of you
- Set an intention for what you want to grow toward

There’s no right way to mark the solstice. The point is simply to pause.

To acknowledge that you’ve been through a lot. That darkness has a purpose. That rest is sacred. That you’re allowed to let things go. That you get to choose what you want to grow toward.

The solstice reminds us: Everything turns. Seasons change. Darkness doesn’t last.
After Saturday, every single day gets a little bit longer. The light is returning—not just in the sky, but in you too.

If this year has been heavy, if the darkness has felt like too much, if you’re barely holding on—please know you’re not alone. And if you need support navigating this season or any season, we’re here.

Simple Modern Therapy | Salt Lake City
Licensed LMFTs | LGBTQ+ affirming | Trauma-informed care
Specializing in seasonal depression, life transitions, religious trauma & more.

12/16/2025

This Saturday is the winter solstice—the shortest, darkest day of the year. And if you’ve been struggling lately, there’s a reason. 🌑

December 21st marks the day we get the least amount of sunlight all year. In Salt Lake City, that’s about 9 hours and 20 minutes of daylight—compared to over 15 hours in summer.

And your brain? It’s feeling every minute of that darkness.

Here’s what’s happening:
When we don’t get enough sunlight, our brains produce less serotonin—the neurotransmitter that regulates mood, sleep, and emotional stability. Less serotonin = more depression, anxiety, and exhaustion.
At the same time, longer nights mean our bodies produce more melatonin, which makes us feel tired and lethargic even during the day.

Add cold weather (less time outside), shorter days (less social connection), and holiday stress (emotional exhaustion), and you’ve got a perfect storm for Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).

Here’s what you can do:
🌅 Get outside during daylight hours (even 10-15 minutes helps)
🏃 Move your body (exercise boosts serotonin naturally)
💡 Consider light therapy (10,000 lux light boxes can help—talk to your doctor)
🫂 Stay connected (isolation makes it worse)
🛏️ Maintain sleep routine (even when you’re tired, keep regular hours)
📞 Seek support (therapy, medication, or both—whatever you need)

After Saturday, every day gets brighter.

The hardest part about saying no to family isn’t finding the right words. It’s believing you’re allowed to. I’ve been se...
12/11/2025

The hardest part about saying no to family isn’t finding the right words. It’s believing you’re allowed to.

I’ve been seeing this pattern for years in my therapy practice: People come in knowing EXACTLY what boundary they need to set—but they’re paralyzed by guilt, fear, or the belief that protecting their mental health makes them selfish.

So let me say this clearly: If someone makes you feel guilty for having boundaries, that says everything about them and nothing about you.

Here’s what I notice happens when people finally set boundaries around holiday gatherings:
- Intense guilt. Second-guessing. “Am I being terrible?”
- Relief starts creeping in. “Wait...I actually feel lighter.”
- Clarity. “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”

The guilt you feel when you set a boundary? That’s not your moral compass. That’s conditioning. That’s years of being taught that your needs don’t matter as much as other people’s comfort.

But here’s the truth: People who truly love you want you to be WELL—not just present.
And if someone only values you when you’re performing, accommodating, or sacrificing yourself? That’s not love. That’s control.

You don’t owe anyone access to you at the cost of your peace. Not even family. Especially not family.

Your mental health isn’t negotiable. Your boundaries aren’t up for debate. And your worth doesn’t depend on how many people you can please.

If you need support setting boundaries—or healing from years of not having any—that’s what we’re here for.

Simple Modern Therapy | Salt Lake City
Licensed therapists specializing in boundaries, family dynamics, people-pleasing patterns & religious trauma, and of course, the LGBTQ+ community.

12/09/2025

Real talk: You don’t have to go to every holiday gathering.

New research shows that 75% of people said at least a few of their planned holiday gatherings feel more like an obligation than something they truly want to attend—and for Gen Z, it’s 89%.

Translation: Almost everyone feels this way. You’re not selfish. You’re not broken. You’re not “the difficult one.”

Here’s what I know as a licensed therapist…

If the thought of attending makes you feel:

Sick to your stomach
Exhausted before you even arrive
Anxious for days leading up to it
Resentful or trapped
Like you need to perform or hide parts of yourself

That’s your body telling you something.
Tense topics and expectation differences can make the holidays especially stressful, and setting boundaries can feel awkward—especially with loved ones—but it’s a helpful way to manage stress in the long run.

You’re allowed to:
- Say no without over-explaining
- Skip gatherings that consistently harm you
- Prioritize your mental health over someone else’s expectations
- Create new traditions that actually bring you joy
- Protect your peace, even if people don’t understand

This holiday season, give yourself permission to do less, skip more, and actually enjoy the parts you choose to show up for.

If holiday stress is impacting your mental health, we can help.
Simple Modern Therapy | Salt Lake City
Licensed LMFTs | LGBTQ+ affirming | Individual & couples therapy | Trauma Healing

Here’s the thing about perfectionism—it promises that if you just get everything right, you’ll finally feel worthy, love...
12/04/2025

Here’s the thing about perfectionism—it promises that if you just get everything right, you’ll finally feel worthy, loved, accepted. But that moment never comes. Because perfectionism isn’t actually about the decorations or the meal or the gifts.

It’s about the belief that you’re not enough as you are.

And that belief is a lie.

The truth? The people who love you don’t need you to be perfect. They need you to be present. They need you to be real. They need you to be you—messy, tired, human, and all.

This holiday season, what if you traded:

Perfection for presence?
Control for connection?
Performance for peace?
Impressing people for actually enjoying them?

You deserve to experience the holidays—not just execute them. You deserve rest, not just productivity.

You deserve to be loved for who you are, not what you achieve.

If perfectionism is stealing your peace, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

At Simple Modern Therapy, we help high-achievers, people-pleasers, and perfectionists break free from the “never good enough” cycle. We specialize in anxiety, relationship patterns, religious trauma, and helping people actually love their lives—not just perform them.

You are worthy of support. You are worthy of peace. You are worthy—period. ❤️

Accepting new clients in Salt Lake City
Licensed LMFTs | LGBTQ+ affirming | Individual & couples therapy

12/02/2025

To every perfectionist reading this: ❤️

I know the holidays can feel like everything has to be just right or you’ve somehow failed. The meal has to be flawless. The house has to look like it belongs in a magazine. The family photos have to be perfect.

But what if it doesn’t?

What if the cookies burn? What if someone says something awkward at dinner? What if the decorations don’t match? What if your family isn’t picture-perfect?

You’re still enough.

Perfectionism tells you that your value is conditional—that you have to earn love and acceptance through achievement. But that’s a lie. Your worth isn’t something you perform.

It’s something you already have.

This season, practice this:
✨ Let things be imperfect
✨ Say no without over-explaining
✨ Choose peace over perfection
✨ Actually enjoy the moment instead of documenting it

You don’t owe anyone a perfect holiday. You owe yourself permission to be human. 🎄

Struggling with perfectionism? At Simple Modern Therapy, we help high-achievers and people-pleasers break free from “never good enough” cycles.

Accepting new clients in SLC | Licensed LMFTs | LGBTQ+ affirming
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🍁Thank you for letting us be a part of your lives. For trusting us with your healing. For being on this journey with us....
11/27/2025

🍁Thank you for letting us be a part of your lives. For trusting us with your healing. For being on this journey with us. We love you! 🫶🏽

Comment below what you ate grateful for! 👇🏾

11/25/2025

This Thanksgiving, let’s talk about what’s really on the table—and what’s missing for millions of Americans. 🍂
42 million people are facing food insecurity right now. That’s 16 million children wondering where their next meal will come from. And in November, for the first time in 60 years, SNAP benefits were frozen—then cut in half. Even after courts ruled these actions unlawful, 94 million pounds of food aid were canceled.

Here’s what we know as licensed therapists specializing in trauma, anxiety, and systemic stress: Food insecurity isn’t just about hunger.
It’s about:

Chronic anxiety and hypervigilance around basic needs
Depression symptoms that intensify when survival feels uncertain
The cognitive load of choosing between rent, medications, or groceries
Parents sacrificing their own meals—and mental health—for their children
Developmental harm in children’s growing brains from toxic stress
Social isolation and shame that prevents people from seeking help

At Simple Modern Therapy, we believe loving your life starts with having your basic needs met. Self-care matters. But so does fighting for systems that support ALL of us—not just some of us.
If you’re struggling with food insecurity right now, know this:
✨ Your anxiety is valid
✨ Your stress is real
✨ You deserve compassion, not judgment
✨ There IS support available
Free Resources:
🔹 988 Su***de & Crisis Lifeline (call or text)
🔹 Utah Food Bank: utahfoodbank.org | 801-887-1221
🔹 National Hunger Hotline: 1-866-3-HUNGRY (1-866-348-6479)
🔹 SNAP Info & Applications: fns.usda.gov/snap
🔹 Feeding America Food Bank Locator: feedingamerica.org/find-your-local-foodbank
Being vibrantly ourselves—and showing up for our communities—is an act of resistance. 💜
If you found this helpful, please share it. Someone in your circle needs to see this today.

Let’s be honest:When someone demands access, obedience, or instant responses and calls it a “boundary”…they’re not tryin...
11/21/2025

Let’s be honest:
When someone demands access, obedience, or instant responses and calls it a “boundary”…
they’re not trying to build a healthy relationship.
They’re trying to manage their insecurities and their feelings by controlling you.
This type of behavior doesn’t promote safety.
It only creates smaller lives, smaller choices, and smaller versions of ourselves.
Real intimacy doesn’t require you to surrender your privacy, your autonomy, or your whole past as proof of loyalty.
Real intimacy is built on trust — not rulebooks, surveillance, or emotional hostage-taking.
If you’ve ever felt like you had to shrink so someone else could feel secure…
you deserve better.

And if you need help, we’re here for you. 🩷

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