Simple Modern Therapy

Simple Modern Therapy Simple Modern Therapy exists to provide you with inspiration, guidance and hope to Love Your Life, and Yourself. Walk this modern path, simply.

When you spend your energy “smoothing things over,” you aren’t actually mending things. You are just delaying the inevit...
03/26/2026

When you spend your energy “smoothing things over,” you aren’t actually mending things. You are just delaying the inevitable friction that leads to growth.

Buffering is a lonely game. It’s the split-second decision to jump in, explain, excuse or apologize for their behavior with the hope that no one will feel the discomfort of it.

The part we don’t talk about:
You aren’t doing it for them. You’re doing it because you can’t handle the embarrassment of their under-functioning. You are curated. You are careful. And you are INCREDIBLY tired.

Real talk… by absorbing the impact, you are robbing your partner of the only thing that might actually change them: consequences.

In my practice, I see it every day: a partner who is “the glue,” “the rock,” the one who “keeps it all together.”We call...
03/19/2026

In my practice, I see it every day: a partner who is “the glue,” “the rock,” the one who “keeps it all together.”

We call it being a “supportive partner.” But if we’re honest? It’s Emotional Scaffolding.

Scaffolding is the invisible, high-stakes labor you do to keep your partner’s life—and their image—from collapsing. You aren’t just doing the dishes; you are managing their reputation, their family dynamics, and their emotional regulation.

The signs of the Scaffolding Trap:

You “prep” people for your partner’s mood before they walk into the room.

You handle the “hard things” because they “just aren’t good at that.”

You edit your own needs to avoid the structural collapse of the relationship.

The hard truth? When you provide the scaffolding, your partner never has to develop their own structural integrity. You’ve traded your desire for them for a position as their project manager.

You cannot be an equal partner to someone you are constantly “upholding.”

03/17/2026

You aren’t “Helping” Them. You’re Hindering Both of You.

When you over-function by constant reminders, you aren’t being a “supportive partner.”

You are providing a service that stops your partner from having to deal with the natural consequences of their own inaction.

The Truth: You are managing your own anxiety about their forgetting, and carrying the mental load for both of you.

We’ve been taught that “keeping the peace” is a virtue. We’ve been told that bringing heavy topics to the dinner table o...
03/05/2026

We’ve been taught that “keeping the peace” is a virtue. We’ve been told that bringing heavy topics to the dinner table or the group chat is “too much”.

But as a therapist, I see the bill that comes due for that silence.

When we collectively agree to ignore the devastating or the immoral, we aren’t actually protecting our relationships. We are creating a Relational Bypass. We are trading true intimacy for a fragile, polite pseudo connection.

That silence isn’t “peace.” It’s a facade.

Healing isn’t about “fixing” who you are. It’s about returning to the person you were before the world told you who to b...
03/03/2026

Healing isn’t about “fixing” who you are. It’s about returning to the person you were before the world told you who to be.

At Simple Modern Therapy, we hold space for the adult you’ve become and the child you once were. Because we believe that the most profound growth happens when we finally honor both.

Swipe through to meet the “whos” behind our healing work.

Ready to reconnect with yourself? Tap the link in our bio to meet your match.

In the Chinese Zodiac, 2026 is the Year of the Fire Horse—a cycle defined by high speed, radical autonomy, and the coura...
02/19/2026

In the Chinese Zodiac, 2026 is the Year of the Fire Horse—a cycle defined by high speed, radical autonomy, and the courage to break free from the chains that no longer hold us.

At Simple Modern Therapy, we know that high energy can either lead to burnout or breakthrough. Our 2026 Roadmap is designed to help you harness that heat, whether you’re navigating the complex terrain of a faith transition, reclaiming your erotic integrity, or finding a “collaborative gallop” in your relationship.

You were never meant to stay small or stay silent. This is the year to find your stride. 🐎✨

What intentions are you setting for 2026? Let us know in the comments. 👇

📍 Located in the 9th & 9th District, Salt Lake City
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124 S. 400 E. Ste 230
Salt Lake City, UT
84111

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Tuesday 9am - 5pm
Wednesday 9am - 5pm
Thursday 9am - 5pm
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