11/05/2020
Again, it has been a minute that I have stopped by and posted anything. (Its not too Long)
So, 2020 what a crazy year it has been, who would have ever thought there would be a toilet paper shortage NOT ME. COIVID-19 the corona virus what the heck was that about. So after 24 years of being a Medic, and now a Funeral Director Embalmer, and yes a Motorcycle Hearse driver this has a direct effect on my day to day activities.
What I have learned the last 5 years is you are never ready to meet the Funeral Director, but they are there to help you navigate the process of celebrating the life of your loved one, so lean on them and let them help, lean on your friends and Family, when they say what can I do, give them your list!!! If they didn't want to help they would have just sent you a card, LET THEM HELP.
Something else that happens everyday, I meet with families making final arrangements, some are a little easier because they have a pre-need funeral plan in place, and some are even fully funded. Some have a plan and that is a BIG help.
2020 has been a Giant Monkey Wrench in our lives this year, and it has hit some a little harder than others, one thing we can learn from this is HAVE A PLAN. Have the Talk of a Lifetime, if you are lucky enough to be around friends and Family during the holidays have the Talk. or get on a Zoom call, with those you love and let them know what those plans are...
TWO things, First Direct cremation is a thing, it allows for the disposition of the remains(the body) it DOES NOT allow for the disposition of the grief, for that you need to come together and share those memories and stories of your loved ones. So yes it may leave the process settled so your family does not have to worry about it?? But it does not serve the same purpose that a funeral does, there is still a reason we still have funerals and have not contracted with Amazon to provide for the disposition of our Earthly remains.
Second nd this is for the KIDS, don't say "I don't want to talk about that" talking about it will not prevent it from happening, and it will NOT cause it to happen. So when Mom and Dad comes to you and says, "Here is what I was thinking" LISTEN TO THEM. Help them, you may have some resources they might have thought of, you may be able to help them with a bigger down payment on their service, you may not like their choice of caskets... neon yellow is not a color, you may be able to help them shop around, you may know someone who knows someone.
Sorry it got a little Long feel free to share, copy and past, or repost or what ever you need to help folks "HAVE THE TALK"