Caregiving4People

03/06/2026

Glen Campbell (Official) The most multi-talented musician ever! Loved him and it was such a shame that Alzheimers disease took him from us. God bless his family.
https://americansongwriter.com/the-tragic-story-behind-the-last-single-glen-campbell-ever-released/

By the time “I’m Not Gonna Miss You” was released, Campbell’s memory was quickly deteriorating. But Raymond reportedly wrote down things Campbell said to him, even as Alzheimer’s was progressing, using those words to write “I’m Not Gonna Miss You”.

“It’s heartbreaking to hear,” his wife Kim Woollen said at the time. “On the other side, he’s saying, ‘Don’t worry about me. I’m gonna be OK. You’re the one who’s gonna have a hard time.’ And it’s true because he doesn’t know the pain we’re going through. It is heartbreaking every single day. Sometimes, I’m really depressed.”

02/12/2026

Don’t be fooled, things like attention can feel like love but the real love is in the consistency ❤️

06/13/2025

Jim Carrey once said: Grief is not just an emotion—it’s an unraveling, a space where something once lived but is now gone. It carves through you, leaving a hollow ache where love once resided.

In the beginning, it feels unbearable, like a wound that will never close. But over time, the raw edges begin to mend. The pain softens, but the imprint remains—a quiet reminder of what once was. The truth is, you never truly "move on." You move with it. The love you had does not disappear; it transforms. It lingers in the echoes of laughter, in the warmth of old memories, in the silent moments where you still reach for what is no longer there. And that’s okay.

Grief is not a burden to be hidden. It is not a weakness to be ashamed of. It is the deepest proof that love existed, that something beautiful once touched your life. So let yourself feel it. Let yourself mourn. Let yourself remember.

There is no timeline, no “right” way to grieve. Some days will be heavy, and some will feel lighter. Some moments will bring unexpected waves of sadness, while others will fill you with gratitude for the love you were lucky enough to experience.

Honor your grief, for it is sacred. It is a testament to the depth of your heart. And in time, through the pain, you will find healing—not because you have forgotten, but because you have learned how to carry both love and loss together.

06/08/2025

This should be hung in every dementia care home and in hospitals where there are patients with dementia.
If I get dementia, I’d like my family to hang this wish list up on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.
And I would add one more:
Every time you enter the room announce yourself.
“Hi Patrick- it’s -your name-.”
NEVER ask- Do you know who I am??? That causes anxiety.
1. If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality.
2. If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. I’ll be much happier for it.
3. If I get dementia, don’t argue with me about what is true for me versus what is true for you.
4. If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.
5. If I get dementia, and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed myself.
6. If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.
7. If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am.
8. If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends.
9. If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.
10. If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me.
11. If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated.
12. If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. Even now if I don’t eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.
13. If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.
14. If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault, and you’ve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live.
15. If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often.
16. If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.
17. If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing within earshot.
18. If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original place.
19. If I get dementia, don’t exclude me from parties and family gatherings.
20. If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes.
21. If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.”
ᴄᴏᴘʏ ᴀɴᴅ ᴘᴀsᴛᴇ in Honor of someone you know or knew who has dementia. In Honor of all those I know and love and lost who are fighting Dementia/Alzheimer’s.

03/29/2025

So true! ❤️

12/14/2024

My conversations with patients near the end of their lives.

09/30/2024

LIFE, LOVE, LAUGHTER, LABOR & LISTENING. LIVING WITH LOVE BRINGS JOY! LOVE IS WHAT WE ALL NEED!

09/23/2024

"Be kind to your neighbor. Just show kindness. Don't hate. The word hate should be out of the dictionary." - Marilyn Wright on her and her twin sister Madelyn Casper's 102th birthday!
Can we get an Amen? ❤️

Twin sisters Marilyn Wright and Madelyn Casper, who were born in 1922, are marking their 102nd birthday together.