Jay Reid Psychotherapy

01/13/2026

What does work to free yourself from feeling defective and undeserving today

01/11/2026

When our instincts to heal keep us stuck

01/10/2026

Find a Supportive Audience

01/08/2026

Sometimes our strongest instincts about how to heal from narcissistic abuse lead us astray

01/07/2026

Become the Hero in Your Own Story

01/06/2026

The survivor may conclude that what could hold them together could be more real than just the transmission of nuggets

01/05/2026

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling shaken, flooded, or suddenly convinced there was something wrong with you — even though nothing that dramatic just happened?

For scapegoat survivors, these moments aren’t random. They’re often triggered by subtle slights that set off a second, internal escalation where old conclusions about being defective or undeserving come roaring back.

In this video, I break down what’s actually happening in those moments, why your thinking can collapse so quickly, and how anger — which was once dangerous to express — is now trying to do something protective for you.

I’ll also show you how to separate what’s happening now from what belongs to the past, without invalidating your reaction or turning the blame back on yourself.

Get Your Free Tool to Handle Triggered Moments

Download the free worksheet below to help you separate what’s happening now from what belongs to the past — without turning against yourself.

https://lp.jreidtherapy.com/weekly-tool-jan-2-2026

Breaking the Scapegoat Spell Group Class

This work is hard to do alone. That’s why I’ve created a live, 8-week online course specifically for scapegoat survivors of narcissistic abuse.

https://lp.jreidtherapy.com/breaking-the-scapegoat-spell-group-page

https://youtu.be/563bVsTpnGQ

In this video, I break down what’s actually happening in those moments, why your thinking can collapse so quickly, and how anger — which was once dangerous t...

01/04/2026

How Therapy Helps You Trade Nuggets for Accompaniment

12/31/2025

Scapegoat children go on to unconsciously develop beliefs that keep them muted – and therefore safe

12/30/2025

Searching for nuggets from others

12/29/2025

If you grew up as the scapegoat child, survival often meant staying inside your parent’s reality.

That required doubting your own experience.

In this video, I explain:

● How scapegoat children learn to suspend disbelief in the narcissistic family “theatre”
● Why this adaptation made sense at the time
● How it quietly shapes self-doubt in adulthood
●What helps you begin leaving that theatre safely

I also share a free tool that helps you see where the old story still holds power and how to loosen it using the 3 Pillars of Recovery.

Watch the video and get your free tool to leave your Narcissistic Parent’s Theatre. 👇

If you grew up as the scapegoat child, survival often meant staying inside your parent’s reality.That required doubting your own experience.In this video, I ...

12/28/2025

Without the presence of a benign and available parent, the child's future is bleak