Heather Atles Relationship, Sex, & Intimacy Coaching

01/19/2026

😬 Ever been in a relationship where one of you wants s*x more than the other?

That’s called a desire discrepancy—aka mismatched libido—and it’s way more common (and less shameful) than we’re led to believe.

On Jan 30 at Ignite After Dark in SF, I’m giving a 5-minute talk on how couples can navigate mismatched desire without pressure, blame, or giving up.
It’s honest, hopeful, a little funny, and full of what I’ve learned as a s*x & intimacy coach (and as a former higher-desire partner myself).
If you’ve ever asked, “What’s wrong with our s*x life?” — come find a better question.
🎤 Ignite After Dark�
📍 San Francisco · Jan 30, 7pm�
🎟️Tix: https://heyupto.com/t/e1D96Lwz2skQY


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10/01/2025

Welcome to the Self Love Club 💖
If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thought,
“I’ll love my body when...” — this is for you.
Join me for BodyPositive, a joy-filled workshop on October 4 at beautiful Lupin Lodge (yep, the one with the hot tub, pool, tennis & trails 🌲💦).
💃 Come shake off self criticism 
🌞 Soak up sun and self-love
💬 Laugh, move, connect, and celebrate your amazing body — just as it is
No shaming. No fixing. Just FREEDOM.
✨ Use code ShamelessFriends for $10 off your ticket!
🎟️ Grab yours now — link in bio
Come as you are. Leave feeling like more of yourself than ever. 💕

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09/29/2025

Join me Saturday, October 4. 👇🏼
BodyPositive is happening at Lupin Lodge — and it’s more than a workshop.
It’s a full-on celebration of body freedom, radical self acceptance, and joyful embodiment — with a pool side bbq, karaoke Friday, a masquerade dance party, and permission to be exactly as you are.

💖 Workshop + day pass = $35 (normally $45 for day pass alone!)
🛖 Optional camping & yurts available
🎟️ Sign up → link in bio

09/22/2025

What if you didn’t have to love your body to feel at home in it?

In a world that trains us to critique, hide, or fix our bodies, simply feeling at ease in yourself is powerful.

🌀 BodyPositive: A Somatic Workshop

Friday, Oct 4 | 4–5:30 PM
Lupin Lodge | Los Gatos, CA

This 90-minute experience invites you to reconnect with your body — gently, playfully, and on your own terms.

We’ll use movement, reflection, and simple somatic practices to loosen the grip of shame, invite presence, and reclaim your body as a place of wisdom and belonging.

🌲 Your ticket includes a full day pass to enjoy Lupin's redwood-soaked grounds — hot tub, sauna, pool, trails, and café.

🛖 Yurt stays are available if you want to make it a mini-retreat.

✨ Come exactly as you are — no pressure, no performance. Just space to breathe, move, and be.

🎟️ Save your spot here:
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BodyPositive is a workshop designed to melt shame, reclaim your story, and nurture radical body compassion.

09/12/2025

Feeling disconnected doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you.
It means you’re human.
This Saturday, join me at Lupin Lodge for a workshop to feel more alive, connected, and real — in your body, in community, and in nature.
📍 Lupin Lodge (Los Gatos)
📆 Sat Sept 13
🎟️ Link in bio — Use code FEELREAL for $10 off
🛖 Optional overnight accommodations, (turn it into a mini retreat!)
Come solo or bring a friend — either way, you’ll be met.
I’d love to see you there. ❤️

09/07/2025

Hey loves, The Connection Lab is happening next weekend!
If you’ve been thinking about coming (or you’re just now hearing about it), I’d love to have you there.

It’s a cozy, experiential workshop at Lupin Lodge — we’ll slow down, connect for real, and soak in the hot tub, nature, and good humans. There’s even a quirky little open-mic cabaret that night.

If you wanna come, you can use code ShamelessFriends for $10 off — and seriously, if $$ is a thing, hit me up--NTAFLOF!

Hope to see some of you there 💫

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-connection-lab-from-small-talk-to-soul-talk-tickets-1560211397289?aff=oddtdtcreator.

08/22/2025

What if connection didn’t have to be so... effortful?
What if you didn’t have to “perform” to be seen?
Or fill silences to be liked?
Or shrink parts of yourself to make others comfortable?

That’s what The Connection Lab is all about.

🌀 It’s not a lecture.
🌀 It’s not about networking, fixing, or communication hacks.
🌀 It’s a fun, guided space to explore what happens when we listen, speak from the heart, and make room for the magic that happens when humans meet without the masks.

If you’ve been longing for more meaningful conversation, or just want a space to show up without pressure — this is for you.

✨ The Connection Lab: From Small Talk to Soul Talk
📍 Lupin Lodge, Los Gatos
📆 Friday, September 13
🕒 Workshop: 3:00–4:30pm (arrive early, stay late)
🎟 $45 (includes full day at Lupin: trails, sauna, pool, hot tub)
🌙 Optional: Dinner + our cozy, quirky Low Expectations Cabaret

Need a discount? DM me — no one turned away for lack of funds.

🧡 Details + sign up:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-connection-lab-from-small-talk-to-soul-talk-tickets-1560211397289?aff=oddtdtcreator

Let’s make space for the kind of connection that doesn’t ask you to shrink.

Where curiosity, courage, and presence spark something real.

07/22/2025

I was fortunate enough to see Andrea Gibson open for Ani DiFranco a few years ago at the Fillmore. I love this poem and it's sweet reminder that what we pay attention to shapes our reality.
Sending you all LOVE.

06/04/2025

Last chance! 👇

THIS SATURDAY 💫

Redwoods 🌲
Hot tub 🔥
Presence over perfection 💛
And a whole lot of space to just be you.

✨ The Art of Showing Up Shamelessly
📍 Lupin Lodge, Los Gatos
🕒 3–4:30pm workshop + full day on the land
🎟 $35 — yurts close tomorrow (June 4!)
🛖 Tent & RV spots still open
💸 Need a discount? Just DM me.

This isn’t about performing. It’s about showing up — shamelessly, joyfully, fully.

Link in bio
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-art-of-showing-up-shamelessly-workshop-tickets-1366514113499?aff=oddtdtcreator