Gay Therapy Center

03/20/2026

For most men, the first half of life is about building a life and building the world. The external takes most of our energy and commitment.

In the second half of life, men often start to pay more attention to the internal realm to figure out what is within that sustains and inspires us.

The roadmap, which was so clear during the first half, is more confusing and diffuse in the second half. The instructions for the first half essentially came down to: make money, make love. Who will give us the marching orders for the second half? https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2014/08/gay-men-in-mid-life-now-what

03/20/2026

As a gay man you have already spent years judging your sexuality. That didn't make you any happier. You've probably already learned a lot about unpacking society's arbitrary rules about attraction. Use those lessons to unlearn any self-reproach you have about whom you find beautiful.

https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2013/08/why-am-i-attracted-to-younger-gay-men

03/19/2026

Gay Men in Open Relationships: What Works?

Hint: It will take a lot of work.
https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2018/01/gay-men-in-open-relationships-what-works

03/18/2026

The process of therapy also commonly asks us to move out of our normal comfort zone. Some days therapy might be described like this:

"Don't just do something: grieve."

Yes, we can grieve the loss of loved ones but we can also grieve what happened to us as kids or the loss of a deeply held personal dream. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2013/02/lgbt-counseling-go-ahead-grieve

03/18/2026

Many folks in the LGBTQ community grow up internalizing messages from our culture that being q***r is bad and there is something deeply wrong with them. For this and a number of other reasons, loneliness is very common in the gay community. In this video, Gay Therapy Center Director Adam Blum shares some ways to deal with that sense of isolation and tips for making friends as an adult.

https://youtu.be/3z6fyZ_Prts

03/17/2026

Adam D. Blum, MFT, the Founder and Director of the Gay Therapy Center, offers advice about how to have a successful open gay relationship in this 8-minute video.
https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2016/23/gay-open-relationships-video-blog-1

03/17/2026

It takes time to develop trust in yourself especially when you are used to feeling good only when you get approval from others.

Maybe it’s time for you, and everyone else, to see who you really are. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2015/04/gay-counseling-gay-guys-do-you-feel-alone

03/16/2026

Dear Adam,

My husband and I are thinking about opening up our relationship. We agree that as long as we don’t have to hear about the other guys we play with, we’ll be fine. We also know that if we get the details we’ll be jealous and angry. In your experience does this strategy work for gay couples?

Signed,
Ready in Reno

https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2016/23/does-dont-ask-dont-tell-work-in-open-gay-relationships

03/15/2026

"Our bond has unique value to both of us. We enjoy blasting forehands on the tennis court, discussing love and heartache and crying with laughter. But also, our friendship has helped us open up other worlds that felt closed off before. It’s like getting a passport to a new country."

These relationships can help us be more free to be you and me.

03/14/2026

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https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/free-online-class/

03/13/2026

What are we projecting onto masculine men? Why do so many of us share a longing for protection, domination and validation? https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2016/18/gay-therapist-reflections-on-masculinity

03/13/2026

Gay men often have a special relationship with their mothers. Typically mothers are the first or only person to accept their son’s more “feminine” interests. She might have provided a place for you to develop the real you, rather than the false self that needed to butch it up at school.

Your mother may also be the inspiration for your interest in the domestic arts. Or she may have been the first person to teach you about vulnerability and tenderness.

So what happens when our mothers die?

https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2018/9/gay-men-losing-their-mothers