Gay Therapy Center

11/20/2025

Dear Adam,

I have a great relationship with my boyfriend and we love each other very much. I want to have an open relationship but he is afraid I’ll leave him for another guy. How can I convince him that occasional hook ups are not a threat to our relationship?

Signed,
Open in Ottawa

https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2014/07/gay-counselor-want-an-open-gay-relationship-and-he-doesn

11/19/2025

Are you tired of fighting with your partner? Every relationship has its ups and downs, but feeling like you're always fighting with your partner is exhausting. When we look under the surface of what the fight seems to be about, we can actually understand a lot more about where the hurt is coming from.

Here's a tip on how to cut down on fights, from the Director of the Gay Therapy Center, Adam Blum.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1xkATVQevrg&t=6s&ab_channel=GayTherapyCenter

For more, visit our website: https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/Are you tired of fighting with your partner? Every relationship has its ups and downs, but f...

11/19/2025

When you didn't get enough of something as a kid, it can have lifelong consequences. If you're a gay man, you probably didn't get the validation you wanted and needed growing up. Luckily, there are ways to learn how to provide that validation for yourself.

Gay Therapy Center Founder and Director Adam Blum explains how here:
https://youtu.be/kRt9Jz4xpOg

11/19/2025

Gay Therapy Center Founder Adam D. Blum, MFT talks about how gay couples can repair their relationship after an affair.
https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2016/20/can-a-gay-relationship-survive-an-affair-video-blog

11/18/2025

Gay men often have a special relationship with their mothers. Typically mothers are the first or only person to accept their son’s more “feminine” interests. She might have provided a place for you to develop the real you, rather than the false self that needed to butch it up at school.

Your mother may also be the inspiration for your interest in the domestic arts. Or she may have been the first person to teach you about vulnerability and tenderness.

Perhaps you sometimes wonder how you will feel when your mother dies. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2018/9/gay-men-losing-their-mothers

11/17/2025

The complex issues of feminity and masculinity play a key role in the development of every gay man. Why are gay men ridiculed in our society?

So how can gay men let go of these deeply internalized, negative societal messages? Here are some suggestions: https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2010/11/gay-men-and-feminity

11/16/2025

"Most people don’t know that there is a ton of great research about relationships. There’s even some very fine academic research about LGBTQ relationships.

Based on laboratory studies from prominent scientists John Gottman, PhD. and Robert Levinson, PhD., here are five relationship truths that may surprise you."

Read more on 5 surprising truths about LGBTQ relationships from GTC Founder Adam Blum here:

You may not realize it, but good problem solving and conflict resolution is not that important in long-term relationships.

11/15/2025

Want to know more about our services? Read what over 500 people have said about our work here: https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/testimonials/

11/14/2025

It feels embarrassing to talk about self-approval. It sounds narcisstic.

But loving yourself is not self-indulgent. It doesn’t mean you stop loving and caring about others. It just means adding yourself to your inner circle of loved ones. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2014/10/gay-therapist-men-loving-themselves

11/14/2025

Are you and your partner thinking about opening up your relationship to additional sexual partners? Here are some considerations that may help you get ready: https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/how-to-decide-to-have-an-open-lgbtq-relationship/

11/13/2025

Are you frequently exhausted when you come home from the office? Do you resent how much time you spend at work? Do you worry that you are neglecting the rest of your life? Do the weekends--when you get to have them--feel like recovery time rather than discovery time? In my private practice I hear a lot about the pain of work overtaking life.

Life can feel hopeless and meaningless when all you do is work, eat, commute, and do your laundry. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2011/04/gay-psychotherapist-do-you-work-all-the-time

11/12/2025

Our expert therapists offer individual gay therapy and gay couples or marriage counseling.

If you’re single, you may wonder if you’ll ever have a relationship that makes you happy. Things have gone wrong in your relationships so many times. You’ve had enough pain. You want something better.

If you are looking for gay couples counseling we know that you’re struggling in your relationship. It may be because your partner hooked-up with someone, conflicting sexual desires, fights that never get resolved, or you can’t agree on rules for an open relationship.

You want to be closer to your partner and feel the love between you more strongly. We can help!

💚Check out our website + sign up for our email list: www.thegaytherapycenter.comOur expert therapists offer individual gay therapy and gay couples or marria...