Gay Therapy Center

04/27/2026

The complex issues of feminity and masculinity play a key role in the development of every gay man. Why are gay men ridiculed in our society?

So how can gay men let go of these deeply internalized, negative societal messages? Here are some suggestions: https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2010/11/gay-men-and-feminity

04/26/2026

"Ghosting is avoidance driven by a fear of confrontation. We may tell ourselves that it is nicer not to tell someone that we don’t have chemistry. In reality, being ghosted hurts a lot more than the truth.

Why do we hurt others? Because we have our own hurts that we want to avoid. When we are feeling good about ourselves we rarely intentionally hurt people. Our compassion and kindness flows from how we are feeling about ourselves"

Read more on why we ghost & how to deal with it, from GTC Founder Adam Blum, here:

LGBTQ people have learned to be experts in hiding. We had to hide to survive, and ghosting is hiding.

04/25/2026

Do you have questions about whether therapy is right for you?

Schedule a free 15-minute call to learn more about how therapy works.

04/24/2026

Even today, over forty years after the beginning of the modern women’s movement, boys are terrorized by the threat of being labeled feminine.

If you grew up being perceived as “too feminine” then you may have internalized this cultural belief that feminine is bad. If so, it’s never too late to rewrite the script. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2015/05/gay-counseling-why-are-there-so-many-gay-hairdressers

04/24/2026

Are you and your partner thinking about opening up your relationship to additional s*xual partners? Here are some considerations that may help you get ready: https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/how-to-decide-to-have-an-open-lgbtq-relationship/

04/23/2026

Are you frequently exhausted when you come home from the office? Do you resent how much time you spend at work? Do you worry that you are neglecting the rest of your life? Do the weekends--when you get to have them--feel like recovery time rather than discovery time? In my private practice I hear a lot about the pain of work overtaking life.

Life can feel hopeless and meaningless when all you do is work, eat, commute, and do your laundry. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2011/04/gay-psychotherapist-do-you-work-all-the-time

04/22/2026

Our expert therapists offer individual gay therapy and gay couples or marriage counseling.

If you’re single, you may wonder if you’ll ever have a relationship that makes you happy. Things have gone wrong in your relationships so many times. You’ve had enough pain. You want something better.

If you are looking for gay couples counseling we know that you’re struggling in your relationship. It may be because your partner hooked-up with someone, conflicting s*xual desires, fights that never get resolved, or you can’t agree on rules for an open relationship.

You want to be closer to your partner and feel the love between you more strongly. We can help!

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04/22/2026

Many folks in the LGBTQ community grow up internalizing messages from our culture that being q***r is bad and there is something deeply wrong with them. For this and a number of other reasons, loneliness is very common in the gay community. In this video, Gay Therapy Center Director Adam Blum shares some ways to deal with that sense of isolation and tips for making friends as an adult.

https://youtu.be/3z6fyZ_Prts

04/21/2026

When you fight with your partner it can feel like he or she is the enemy. Couples can get momentarily trapped in a belief that the person they love is evil, intent on doing them harm. Unless you are in love with a sociopath, your partner is not evil. But I understand that’s how it feels when you are in a cycle of fighting. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2013/11/gay-psychologist-how-to-stop-fighting-with-your-boyfriend

04/21/2026

In some ways, asking the question “what else will make me happy?” is luxurious. It means that the more basic needs of money and love have been met. It’s a good problem to have, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t a difficult and unsettling feeling, and it can cause depression and anxiety.

To answer the question you need to move beyond the central preoccupations of our culture. The loudest voices tell us that happiness is a matter of finding love, work, s*x, and money.

But if you want to increase your happiness, I advise you to focus on what research tells us makes us most happy. And that means feeling connected to something bigger. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2016/24/gay-therapist-happiness-connected

04/20/2026

You are not a saint. No one expects you to be happy when your partner is moody or distant. Typically we get angry about it because we think we are being blamed for doing something wrong.

And no one likes criticism in relationships. No one.

However, with great communication or great couples counseling, we can start to learn more about our own, and our partner’s, parental triggers.

https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2018/28/why-is-my-partner-so-annoying

04/19/2026

"For 33 years, National Coming Out Day has been observed on October 11 as a celebration of q***r courage and visibility. It’s a day of empowerment for LGBTQ+ folks to come out of “the closet” and take pride in living comfortably at whatever level of openness that might be, whether that’s self-discovery or publicly defining your s*xuality.

Since its inception, National Coming Out Day has also been an invitation to rail against the bastion of a largely cisgender- and heteros*xual-dominated society."

Read more on what coming out means in 2021, featuring GTC's Adam Blum, here:

Fift-seven anti-LGBTQIA+ bills have been passed in the U.S. so far this year. They range from bills banning gender-affirming healthcare for minors to bills giving businesses the right to turn people away because of their s*xual orientation or gender identity.