Gay Therapy Center

02/18/2026

Do you find yourself struggling with perfectionism? Perfectionism is pretty common for LGBTQ+ people. Adam Blum, Founder and Director of the Gay Therapy Center, discusses some tips he’s found helpful with his therapy clients to overcome perfectionism.
https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/recovering-from-gay-perfectionism2/

02/18/2026

Are you tired of fighting with your partner? Every relationship has its ups and downs, but feeling like you're always fighting with your partner is exhausting. When we look under the surface of what the fight seems to be about, we can actually understand a lot more about where the hurt is coming from.

Here's a tip on how to cut down on fights, from the Director of the Gay Therapy Center, Adam Blum. https://youtu.be/1xkATVQevrg

02/18/2026

Are you curious about exploring kink, open, or poly relationships?

I (Adam Blum, Founder of Gay Therapy Center) spoke with Jeremy Sanders, MFT, a psychotherapist at Gay Therapy Center who specializes in working with clients who are interested in alternative s*xual relationships. Here are some highlights from our wide-ranging conversation.
https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/navigating-kink-open-and-poly-relationships-with-your-long-term-lgbtq-partner/

02/17/2026

One of the five pillars of self care is:

★ Becoming Curious.

Another way to say this is learning to track yourself. This means slowing down enough to occasionally notice our interior dialogue, in addition to our behaviors. By cultivating curiosity we get more raw data about what is actually true about ourselves. Without awareness, change can’t occur. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2014/06/gay-therapist-five-things-gay-men-can-do-to-feel-bette

02/16/2026

Narcissists often are extremely charming, bright, and attractive. I call them "shiny". Around them we can feel excited, more alive, entertained, and flattered that these shiny people chose us. While narcissists can make a charming first impression, they can be challenging to love. They tend to have trouble empathizing with others and so loving them in the context of a long term relationship can feel lonely.

https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2012/04/do-you-love-a-gay-narcissist

02/15/2026

"Our bond has unique value to both of us. We enjoy blasting forehands on the tennis court, discussing love and heartache and crying with laughter. But also, our friendship has helped us open up other worlds that felt closed off before. It’s like getting a passport to a new country."

These relationships can help us be more free to be you and me.

02/14/2026

“I can’t express enough the benefits of therapy, because there’s so much opportunity to feel heard, seen, accepted, and really process all the varying emotions coming up,” Filocamo adds. “To truly expand out from feeling liberated but now living vibrantly in that space.” While 1:1 therapy is ideal, peer support groups can also help reduce isolation and foster community among people coming out later in life, she adds.

Are you looking for support as you navigate coming out later in life? Reach out today! https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/schedule-a-15-minute-consultation/

02/13/2026

According to Morin, "Erotically healthy people accept and appreciate their s*xual uniqueness rather than fear it or fight it."

You can continue to reduce your own shame quotient by understanding how much your s*xuality has in common with almost everyone else on the planet. When it comes to s*x, the answer to the question "Am I normal?" is usually "yes". https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2013/01/gay-therapist-explains-what-keeps-s*x-exciting-in-gay-relationships

02/13/2026

Bis*xuality doesn’t get as much attention as other s*xual orientations. Even le***an and gay people don’t often think about what it is like to be bis*xual.

So I sat down with Gay Therapy Center psychologist Sky Ellen Beaber, Ph.D to discuss her work and research on the under-discussed topic of bis*xuality. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2016/14/the-fear-of-bis*xuality

02/12/2026

Every week as a therapist, without fail, I hear stories of hurt feelings and painful miscommunication stemming from the use of technology. It’s obvious that many friends and boyfriends tend to share personal and difficult feelings through text and email.

Why? Because it is easier.

When he does respond, we know he’ll probably respond through technology. We’ll be alone as we read and he won’t see how vulnerable we look. What a relief that we can hide once more.
https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2015/02/gay-therapist-gay-men-and-texting

02/11/2026

You’ve heard it before. Modern life can be a lonely place.

Most people are struggling with this, but LGBT people can feel especially isolated.

It comes with the territory of being different. And you’ve always been different. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2015/17/gay-psychotherapist-isolation-and-the-lgbt-experience

02/11/2026

Many folks in the LGBTQ community grow up internalizing messages from our culture that being q***r is bad and there is something deeply wrong with them. For this and a number of other reasons, loneliness is very common in the gay community. In this video, Gay Therapy Center Director Adam Blum shares some ways to deal with that sense of isolation and tips for making friends as an adult.

https://youtu.be/3z6fyZ_Prts