Heather Nuss, MA, LMFT

06/08/2020

In her article, The Four Bodies, Jacquelyn Ogorchukwu explains, “Definitions of trauma are based on eurocentric experiences, and so it makes sense that racism is not recognized as a form of abuse. Black people have been dehumanized for centuries. When you are able to strip an entire community of it’s human qualities, it becomes that much easier to neglect the fact that the community experiences pain. In truth, our experiences are real, our trauma is real, and the healing we deserve is real.”

When BIPOC tell you that they are hurting, believe them.

When BIPOC say they are tired, believe them.

When BIPOC express that they are enraged, listen.

As a society, we often talk about racism, but rarely ever do we talk about how it affects the health of our people. I call racism “the…

06/01/2020

Black lives matter. If you are struggling to understand why that statement is important or with how to address and fight racism, please take some time to read about the history and pervasiveness of white supremacy. This fight is not over. Thank you to for gathering these resources and creating the image.

08/09/2019

"Most people believe a connection is something they earn by being 'good enough' when it is really something they develop by being willing enough."

https://forge.medium.com/if-connection-is-our-core-human-need-then-why-are-we-so-bad-at-it-a904ae486a48

The biggest problem in most people’s lives is trauma, and trauma is what creates a damaged ability to connect with others.

08/08/2019

Want a surefire way to shift your perspective? Begin a daily practice of acknowledging the tiny (or giant) delights of your day. Write down 3-5 things that you enjoyed over the course of the day.

It can be something as small as how good your toast smelled this morning...or the cute wiggle of a Corgi's butt that you saw on your way home from work.

Over time, this practice will cultivate presence and joy, even if nothing else has shifted in your life. If nothing else, do it because...SCIENCE says so!!

A growing body of research shows keeping a log of what you are thankful for can lower stress, help you sleep better, and may even reduce the risk of heart disease. But it's not for everyone.

08/05/2019

"We pay dearly for our failure to process our feelings. Our minds grow unoriginal from a background fear about their contents. We grow depressed about everything because we cannot be sad about something."

In order to be calm and at ease with ourselves, we need regular periods where we do something rather strange-sounding: process our emotions. Here is a guide ...

10/15/2018

"To be human is to be lost in the woods. None of us arrive here with clear directions on how to get from point A to point B without stumbling into the forest of confusion or catastrophe, or wrongdoing. Although they are dark and dangerous, it is in the woods that we discover our strengths." - Elizabeth Lesser

09/28/2018

Have you been wondering if dating apps might offer new possibilities in your love life? Check out this thought provoking Pros and Cons list:

In my work as a mental health counselor and relationship consultant, I get asked a lot about my thoughts around dating apps and dating websites, and whether or not I believe they are effective in...

09/21/2018

A series of untranslatable words about love:

09/20/2018

Let's work together to end mental health stigma!

Every day, in every possible way, we need to stand up to stigma. If you’re not sure how, here are some ways our Facebook community responded to the question: “How do you fight stigma?”

09/17/2018

09/12/2018

Celebrating sensual femininity today, with this Janelle Monae masterpiece! What do you love about your femininity? And this question isn't only for women...

"PYNK," "I Like That," “Make Me Feel" & "Django Jane” available now: https://janellemonae.lnk.to/dirtycomputer Janelle Monáe with Special Guest St. Beauty “D...