Dr. Denise Renye: Whole Person Integration

12/25/2025

Wishing you a gentle and nourishing holiday season 🌿

May this time invite a little more ease, presence, and kindness toward yourself. As always, I’m grateful to walk alongside you in conversations that matter; about intimacy, relationships, consciousness, and what it means to feel more at home in your body and life.

12/24/2025

Clitmas is the holiday so many of us never got growing up:
a celebration of pleasure, curiosity, and connection.

Without shame attached.

For many, the journey back to pleasure isn’t about libido or “spicing things up.”
It’s about safety. Self-knowledge. And learning to feel again instead of performing.

With time, care, and attunement, it can remember pleasure too.

Wishing you a Clitmas filled with gentleness, exploration, and whatever pleasure honestly feels like for your body today ✨

12/23/2025

🎄✨ Merry Clitmas! ✨🎄

This holiday season don’t forget the most important gift your own pleasure Clitmas is a playful reminder that honoring your s*xual well-being is just as meaningful as any festive tradition 💛

Slow down check in with your body and celebrate yourself Light a candle savor a warm drink explore what feels good and give yourself the gift of presence joy and pleasure It’s not about doing it right it’s about tuning in laughing and enjoying the experience

Dive into Dr Denise Renye’s guide to celebrating Clitmas and embracing pleasure this holiday season https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/12/3/clitmas-the-holiday-of-pleasure

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Clitmas is a reminder that pleasure is not just a holiday indulgence. It is a practice. Give yourself the gift that keeps on giving: your own attention, your own joy, and your own Clitmas.

12/22/2025

Many people continue having painful s*x because they believe:

👉 It’s “normal”
👉 They should push through it
👉 Their partner will feel rejected if they stop
👉 Pain is just the price of intimacy

But pain is information.

When s*x hurts emotionally or physically, the nervous system is telling us something about safety, trauma, desire, or capacity.

Communication isn’t a barrier to s*xual connection but the bridge that makes pleasure possible.

If s*x has been painful: you deserve support, curiosity, and care.
You are not alone in this 🫶

Reach out today for information on starting a new path towards healing ❤️‍🩹

12/21/2025

It is not your partner's responsibility to regulate *your* nervous system.

In conflict, it’s easy to believe the other person must change first.
But repair begins when one nervous system shifts.

And then invites the other into safety.

A pause.
A breath.
A softer tone.
A hand that stays instead of withdrawing.

Regulation doesn’t erase hurt but it create the conditions where healing can happen.

Save this list for when you might need it 💛

12/18/2025

💛 The Holy Work of Deep Intimacy 💛

True intimacy is not just closeness, it’s a sacred practice of being fully yourself in connection with another. It asks for honesty, vulnerability, and presence, while honoring autonomy, freedom, and personal growth.

Deep intimacy is a balance of togetherness and space, closeness and independence, love and sovereignty. It’s about choosing each other again and again from freedom, not need. It’s about hearts that expand, not contract. 🌿

Discover how spacious love, conscious connection, and somatic awareness can transform your relationship:https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/11/1/the-holy-work-of-deep-intimacy-in-romantic-partnership

Most people seek and enjoy relationships that are convenient, comfortable, or familiar. These relationships can bring companionship, safety, and pleasure, and they serve many purposes in life. And many are content in them. Deep intimacy is different though. It is not convenient. It is not easy. It

12/11/2025

This is the honest truth about the holiday season...

Not every invite is an obligation.
Not every tradition is worth repeating.

When the nervous system is running on fumes, more stimulation does create more connection. It causes overload.

Serenity comes from noticing:
• What brings spaciousness?
• What brings stress?
• What does the body actually need?

Prioritizing calm isn’t withdrawing from the season:
it’s choosing a version of it that doesn’t cost well-being ✨

12/10/2025

It is common to think connection should just “happen.”But for many, connection requires learning a new relationship with the nervous system.When safety becomes real, communication opens.And repair feels possible.The relationship becomes something that can be returned to, rather than defended.If you or your partnership are in this unfolding,I offer therapy sessions that support steady, embodied connection.

12/09/2025

💛 Dating someone with secure attachment can feel like a breath of fresh air.

They’re steady, emotionally available, and consistent—someone who listens, validates, and supports you without drama. They enjoy closeness without feeling overwhelmed, respect your need for space, and handle conflict with calm, collaborative communication.

That said, even securely attached partners are human. They hold up a mirror to your patterns, gently encouraging growth and self-awareness. The result? Relationships that feel safe, trusting, and deeply connected—but still require effort and intentionality from both people.

Discover what it’s really like to date someone securely attached: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/10/20/what-its-like-to-date-a-securely-attached-partner

Someone with secure attachment can model for their partner what healthy, constructive communication, emotional regulation, and relational balance look like. They’re able to attend to their own needs because they have healthy boundaries , which means the relationship has intimacy and independenc

12/06/2025

It is common to think connection should just “happen.”

But for many, connection requires learning a new relationship with the nervous system.

When safety becomes real, communication opens.
And repair feels possible.

The relationship becomes something that can be returned to, rather than defended.

If you or your partnership are in this unfolding,
I offer therapy sessions that support steady, embodied connection.

You are invited to book a short connection call through the link in my bio.

12/04/2025

Being yourself should never require permission.
And yet, for many trans and nonbinary people, safety, acceptance, and dignity are still conditional.

Trans Awareness Week is a reminder to listen more closely, honor lived experiences, and create spaces where identity is not questioned, doubted, or debated.

Affirmation begins in the small moments:
language
tone
presence
curiosity.

Care that is consistent, not symbolic.

So to everyone claiming space in their identity: you deserve to be seen and safe 🤲

12/04/2025

💔 Dating someone with avoidant attachment can feel like an emotional rollercoaster.

They might seem distant, emotionally unavailable, or hard to reach—but it’s not about lack of care. For someone with avoidant attachment, closeness can feel overwhelming or unsafe, so they protect themselves by pulling back. This push-pull dynamic can leave their partner feeling unsure, unheard, or lonely even when physically together.

The good news? Avoidantly attached individuals can heal and grow. Their independence can bring stability, and with patience, self-work, and sometimes therapy, they can learn to stay present, open up emotionally, and build deeper trust and intimacy. ❤️

Understanding, patience, and consistent communication make all the difference.

Read my full guide to dating someone with avoidant attachment here: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/10/14/what-its-like-to-date-someone-with-avoidant-attachment

Because of the withdrawal, dismissal, or silence, the partner may start to question if their needs are “too much.” They may think to themselves, “Should I not have said that? Was I too honest and real? Why did they pull away? How can I make them come back?” Alternatively, they might wonder i...