Dr. Denise Renye: Whole Person Integration

11/21/2025

📱💔 Is technology keeping you from real connection in your relationship?

In our digital age, screens can be more than tools—they can become shields, helping us avoid difficult conversations, emotional intimacy, and even presence with our partners.

In my latest article I share how scrolling, notifications, and constant digital distraction can create distance, and offers practical ways to turn toward each other instead of tuning out:

✨ Create device-free zones
✨ Notice the urge to check out
✨ Name the discomfort
✨ Practice micro-moments of presence

Choosing presence—even in small ways—builds trust, deepens intimacy, and reminds us that connection isn’t about perfection, it’s about willingness.

Read the full article here:https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/9/25/how-technology-can-be-an-avoidant-tactic-in-romantic-relationships

Presence requires slowing down enough to notice what is happening inside and between you and your partner. That can feel uncomfortable. When conflict arises, when intimacy deepens, or when needs are unmet, being present might stir fear of rejection, shame, or inadequacy. Picking up a phone or turnin

11/19/2025

S/xuality is not just psychological... it’s physiological.
The nervous system shapes desire, arousal, trust, and pleasure.

So when shame, hypervigilance, or past trauma is present, s*x may feel confusing, inconsistent, or hard to access.

This isn’t dysfunction.
This is the body protecting itself.

Healing begins with safety — not pressure.

For somatic support in this area, reach out ✨

11/18/2025

This is the truth around somatic consent 👇

We’re so often taught to go along, to be agreeable, to prioritize someone else’s comfort over our own.

Somatic consent is the slow return to what the body actually wants.
Not what’s expected.
Not what’s familiar.
Not what keeps the peace.

It takes time to rebuild that trust internally.
And it’s completely worth doing.

If this speaks to your work or your relationships, save this for later.
Your body is allowed to lead ✔️

11/11/2025

🍷 Does alcohol increase the risk of infidelity?
Not cause it — but it can lower inhibitions, cloud judgment, and create openings for boundary-crossing behavior.

In her latest article, psychologist and s*x therapist Dr. Denise Renye explores the complex relationship between alcohol, intimacy, and betrayal — and what couples can do to prevent harm and begin healing if trust is broken.

💬 “Alcohol may blur the line between short-term desire and long-term commitment.”

🔍 This piece unpacks:
• How alcohol impacts s*xual decision-making
• Why emotional avoidance can lead to risky behavior
• The shame-guilt cycle tied to drinking and secrecy
• Practical ways couples can protect trust and navigate alcohol use together

✨ Infidelity isn’t caused by alcohol — but understanding its role can help individuals and couples make more conscious, connected choices.

🔗 Read the full article: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/9/23/the-connection-between-alcohol-use-and-infidelity

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Understanding how alcohol can influence infidelity is important for both prevention and repair. Couples may benefit from open, compassionate conversations about how alcohol affects each partner’s choices and comfort level. Setting clear agreements around alcohol use in social or private settings c...

11/06/2025

🌈 How do you define your s*xual orientation — and what if no single label feels quite right?

In her latest article, psychologist and s*x therapist Dr. Denise Renye invites us to explore the evolving landscape of s*xual identity and the language we use to describe it.

💬 “Labels are tools, not cages.”

Terms like bis*xual, pans*xual, q***r, and fluid can offer visibility, belonging, and self-understanding. But for many, especially those whose attractions extend beyond the gender binary, these labels can also feel too limiting.

✨ Dr. Renye reflects on how our identities are expansive, personal, and often shifting — and why the freedom to define (or undefine) ourselves matters more than fitting into a specific category.

🔗 Read the full piece: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/9/15/beyond-the-binary-rethinking-labels-and-s*xual-orientation

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What matters most is agency, the freedom for each person to choose whether, how, and when to use a label, without being confined by it. As our understanding of gender and s*xuality continues to expand, so too must our language. We can honor the history and significance of terms like bis*xual while a

11/06/2025

In conflict, attachment wounds speak LOUD.

Anxious attachment seeks closeness.
Avoidant attachment seeks space.
Disorganized attachment wants both — and feels torn.
Secure attachment stays curious and connected.

Knowing which voice is yours helps turn reactivity into regulation.

Relearn what safety feels like inside The Childhood Healing Course 👉 link in bio

11/04/2025

Ever felt someone’s calm start to soften your own anxiety?

That's what co-regulation feels like.
The nervous system syncs to safety.

And safety is communicated, not through just words but through breath, tone, and presence.
When one nervous system calms, another learns it’s safe to do the same.

And if you're not quite there yet with your partner, it's entirely possible! Reach out today if you have questions 🙏

11/04/2025

When there's an outburst from your partner, you must remember:

There is more than just you and them in the room.
There's their past trauma, and there's your past trauma as well.
And there are the ghosts of each of your families, echoing old patterns and stories.

Snapping at a partner, shutting down, crying in traffic... it’s all nervous system language.

And the sooner you realize this, the sooner you'll be able to tend to it.

11/01/2025

Ever dated someone who made you feel calm… and didn’t know what to do with it?

That’s what secure love feels like: steady, reliable, and sometimes unfamiliar.

If it's feeling unfamiliar and making you a little uncomfortable... you're not alone.
This often happens when a person with an insecure attachment style begins a relationship with a securely attached partner.

Need help navigating this? My door is always open for consultations🚪

10/31/2025

If you’ve ever been called “controlling,”...
it's impacting those around you, as well as yourself.

You might actually just be scared.

Scared of uncertainty.
Scared of being misunderstood.
Scared that if you stop managing everything, it’ll all fall apart.

You’re not at all broken.
You're carrying an old survival pattern that can finally rest.

Start unpacking childhood patterns inside my Childhood Healing course - check my link to learn more 🔗

10/28/2025

🌱 What if ancient creation myths weren’t just stories of the past — but blueprints for healing, intimacy, and self-discovery?

In her latest reflection, trauma-informed psychologist and s*x therapist Dr. Denise Renye shares insights from a powerful lecture on Old Testament creation myths — not as theology, but as psychological symbols for the birth of consciousness.

✨ Two creation stories:
One rooted in order and separation.
The other, in desire, intimacy, and the limits of knowledge.
Together, they mirror the deepest tensions we all navigate — boundaries vs. belonging, structure vs. longing, safety vs. erotic expansion.

💬 “Trauma disrupts coherence. Healing is re-creation.”

Dr. Renye beautifully weaves mythology, s*xuality, and depth psychology to explore how desire is not the fall from grace, but the awakening of consciousness itself.

🔗 Read the full article here:https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/9/14/the-creation-of-consciousness-what-old-testament-myths-teach-us-about-s*xuality-and-healing

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As Jungians have long said, myths are not “out there,” they live in us. And when we work with them psychologically, we discover not only the story of human origins, but the story of our own becoming.

10/27/2025

Healthy boundaries don’t push people away.
They create the conditions for mutual respect and repair.

They keep relationships balanced, not brittle.
They’re what turn emotional safety from theory into practice.

Therapy can help you build boundaries that protect and connect. If you're interested in getting started building better boundaries, reach out for a consultation today 💛