Dr. Denise Renye: Whole Person Integration

01/29/2026

As*xuality is valid. Full stop. 💜
In a culture that over-centers s*x, as*xuality is often misunderstood. But being ace isn’t a phase, a problem, or a lack—it’s a natural orientation on the wide spectrum of intimacy, desire, and connection.

Curious about what as*xuality really is and how aces build fulfilling relationships on their own terms?
👉 Read the full article here: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2022/11/9/as*xuality-is-aces

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In the hypers*xualized culture of the U.S., as*xuality is not discussed much but it still exists. Around 1% of the population , perhaps more, are as*xual (or “aces”) according to the As*xual Visibility and Education Network. As*xuality is not celibacy. Celibacy is a choice to abstain from s*xual...

01/29/2026

Clarity often comes after the body settles.

When the nervous system feels supported, intuition tends to speak more quietly.

It doesn’t demand immediate action or certainty.
It instead allows space for reflection, curiosity, and choice.

Dysregulation, on the other hand, often feels urgent and compelling, as if something must be decided right now.

Learning to tell the difference takes time, practice, and compassion for the body’s protective responses.

Therapy can offer a space to slow down, build regulation, and listen more carefully to what your body is actually communicating.

Inquire for more information around starting therapy ✨

01/26/2026

Emotional maturity isn’t about always knowing the “right” thing to say.
It’s about staying present when things feel messy.

A lot of us learn language, frameworks, and insight from the internet and social media.
And that can be genuinely helpful.
But emotional maturity isn’t built through information alone.

It’s built in real-life relationship moments:
when emotions are present,
when things feel messy,
when there’s no script to follow.

It looks like pausing instead of reacting.
Staying present instead of shutting down.
Returning to the conversation instead of disappearing.

These are lived skills, not just learned concepts.
And they’re often developed in relationship, not in isolation.

Therapy can be one place where those skills are practiced safely... beyond theory and into experience 🤲

01/24/2026

You’re allowed to leave behind what kept you safe once, but keeps you tense now.

Many coping patterns form because they *worked*.
They helped you stay connected, protected, or intact in earlier seasons.

But when the nervous system starts to experience more safety, those same strategies can begin to feel exhausting instead of necessary.

Growth doesn’t always mean adding more insight or effort.
Sometimes it looks like releasing pressure, softening vigilance, and trusting what no longer needs to be held so tightly.

Share this wit someone who might need it 💛

01/24/2026

Secure attachment doesn’t mean avoiding conflict.
It means staying in relationship through it.

Language matters... especially when emotions are high.

Which phrase are you practicing lately?

01/20/2026

S*xual freedom begins where your inner child feels safe to play. ✨
When early conditioning teaches us to hide our needs, our s*xuality often goes with it. Inner child work can gently restore creativity, curiosity, and embodied pleasure—without shame.

Ready to explore the connection between healing, play, and s*xual freedom?
👉 Read the full article here: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2022/11/2/how-do-s*xual-freedom-and-the-inner-child-relate-to-each-other

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By looking within and doing inner child exploration, you may become curious about s*xuality, s*xual needs, and what is pleasurable for you, which are all important and essential to a healthy and thriving s*xual self. Why does this happen? As I mentioned in my previous post , creativity and s*xualit

01/17/2026

Slowing down is often misunderstood as avoidance.

But for many nervous systems, slowing is what allows connection to stay intact, especially during winter ❄️

Shorter days, colder weather, and end-of-year fatigue all place greater demands on the body.
When resources are low, speed can overwhelm regulation and turn simple interactions into conflict or shutdown.

Slowing down creates containment.
It gives the nervous system time to settle, making listening, empathy, and repair more accessible.

In winter, rest and pacing aren’t indulgent.
They’re relational skills.

If relationships feel harder to navigate this season, that’s not a personal failing. It may be your body asking for a different tempo.

If you need support around this, my door is always open.

01/15/2026

Love doesn’t just happen; it’s revealed through inner work.
What if feeling “loved in so many ways” is the result of deep, unseen healing? 💫
Discover how depth-oriented therapy clears old wounds and makes space for fuller, freer love.

👉 Read the full article here: The Hidden Work Behind the Experience of Love https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/12/5/the-hidden-work-behind-the-experience-of-love

In a sense, depth work is the slow art of clearing the mind and heart, of excavating the unconscious to create fertile ground for connection. When this work is done, the moments of beauty, like hearing someone recognize the love in their life, shine all the brighter.

01/14/2026

When the nervous system feels safe, intimacy shifts out of performance and into presence.

This is why “trying harder” so often backfires.
The body doesn’t open through effort.
It opens through regulation.

When we’re attuned, relaxed, and not bracing for outcome, sensation becomes easier to access, boundaries feel clearer, and connection can actually land.

Desire isn’t something to achieve.
It’s something the nervous system allows.

If you’re noticing pressure where you want closeness, that is not a failure.
It IS information. Now what you do with that information is up to you.

01/13/2026

Not all bids for safety make sense in hindsight.

But they make sense to a nervous system shaped by experience.

Nothing here means you’re “too much” or doing intimacy wrong.
It means your body is communicating.

Support is available when you’re ready 🤲

01/12/2026

Conflict often isn’t a communication problem... It’s a regulation problem.

When both bodies feel unsafe, even kind words can sound like attacks.
When safety returns, repair becomes possible again.

What helps isn’t saying the perfect thing, it’s helping the nervous system settle enough to stay present.

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01/10/2026

Escape the scroll and enjoy some of what nature has to offer ✨

When we slow our pace, the body feels safer.
Regulation often begins with fewer demands and more presence 🙏