Kim Tsui Holistic Counseling & Coaching

10/30/2024

Wow, a wonderful feelings list and body sensations list.

Also, I'm grateful that I completed the weeklong The Hoffman Process program in 2019. It was really life changing for me.

10/14/2024

Parts of us learn to adapt to our caregiver's needs and behaviors in order to survive our childhood. Parts such as Inner critics, people pleasers, or conflict avoidance. As we grow up, we can witness, appreciate, update, and liberate these parts; and become more fully our true Selves.

CRAZYWISE Conversations: Gabor Maté – Authenticity vs. AttachmentGabor Maté, M.D. takes a special interest in early childhood trauma and the potential lifelo...

08/27/2024

03/12/2024

Gabor Mate talks about how children have two survival needs--attachment to caregivers and authenticity.
https://youtu.be/l3bynimi8HQ?feature=shared

Early on, protective parts of us need to "people please"/stay alert/repress/etc. to maintain our connection (attachment) with our caregivers. The unintended consequence is that we often can't be truth (authentic) to ourselves or others.

CRAZYWISE Conversations: Gabor Maté – Authenticity vs. AttachmentGabor Maté, M.D. takes a special interest in early childhood trauma and the potential lifelo...

09/20/2023

"If you wish to give your children the best possible gift, the best possible entry into life, remove your shadow from them.

To give them a clean heritage, psychologically speaking, is the greatest legacy."

-Robert A. Johnson

01/06/2023

Maintaining a real and meaningful connection + practicing healthy communication and conflict…

REQUIRES:

•growing and healing as individuals: have you two explored your past and what is impacting you and your patterns? healing our pasts allows us to be the best we can for each other

•emotional mastery: recognizing and owning our triggers, how we handle our own emotions, how we express them to each other. (Your emotions can be a point of bonding between you, rather than a place of destruction)

•having hard conversations: you cannot have real intimacy if you cannot share and speak your truth with each other. we must be able to face harder moments with each other and hear each other out. but focus on having “hard conversations” where you create a safe space for each other.

Question: are you both a safe landing for each other emotionally? Meaning, you embrace each other in these harder emotions and conversations?

If you want to create more closeness and better embrace these harder moments, please take advantage of the free & live Marriage WebClass we’re hosting on August 17th!

It will guide you in: handling hard conversations, creating a safe space for each other’s emotions, and communication that creates closeness.
(Link in bio to sign up!)

We are here for you all to become the best partners you can be. Let’s normalize “the work.”

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12/20/2022

Reposting an oldie but goodie about how social conditioning (and programming) can happen. How have your parts been conditioned to perform jobs /roles that you are automatic? When we become conscious / aware, we start to have choices.

https://fb.watch/hx-0aUZkv8/

12/07/2022

A wonderful IFS meditation from the book, No Bad Parts --

This guided meditation is from the audio program Greater Than the Sum of Our Parts and is adapted from a practice featured in Dr. Schwartz's book, No Bad Parts:…