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https://www.apa.org/topics/social-media-internet/health-advisory-adolescent-social-media-useSocial Media Is Near-Univers...
11/19/2025

https://www.apa.org/topics/social-media-internet/health-advisory-adolescent-social-media-use
Social Media Is Near-Universal for Teens
A very high proportion of adolescents use social media.
Because use is so common, small risks can have big public health implications.

1) It’s Not All Bad — There Are Benefits

2) Social media can foster social support, connection, and emotional intimacy — especially helpful for teens who feel isolated or stressed.

3) For vulnerable youth (e.g., those with mental health challenges), it may offer a space to connect and express themselves.

4) But — “using social media is not inherently beneficial or harmful.” Context matters (how they use it, what they see, their pre-existing vulnerabilities).

Serious Risks Exist

1.) Exposure to harmful content: This includes content that encourages self-harm, disordered eating, risk-taking, or violence.

2.) Cyberhate and online bullying: Discrimination, prejudice, harassment — these can be especially harmful, particularly for marginalized groups.

3.) Overuse concerns: Too much social media can interfere with sleep and physical activity, both of which are critical for healthy adolescent development.

4.) Risk of problematic use: There may be “problematic social media use” (behaviors that interfere with daily life), which can lead to more serious psychological issues over time.

5.) Social comparison: Particularly around appearance and beauty content, which can negatively affect self-esteem.

Gaps in the Evidence

~ The APA acknowledges that we don’t fully understand which types of social media content or usage patterns are most harmful — and what protective factors might help.

~ More research is needed, especially long-term studies, and better access to platform data to study impacts.

Recommendations (American Psychological Association’s 10 Key Guidelines)
Here are the advisory’s main recommendations for different stakeholders (teens, parents, policymakers, tech companies):

1.) Promote Social Support Use

2.) Encourage youth to use social media in ways that foster support, connection, and emotional closeness.

3.) Design According to Developmental Needs

4.) Social media platforms should tailor features, permissions, and alerts to adolescents’ developmental stage. Adult designs may not fit young users.

5.) Balance Monitoring and Autonomy

6.) For younger teens (early adolescence), parents/caregivers should monitor, discuss, and coach social media use. Over time, as digital literacy grows, give more autonomy — but still respect privacy.

7.) Limit Exposure to Harmful Behavior Content. Reduce access to content that encourages self-harm, disordered eating, violence, or other risk-taking.

8.) Platforms shouldn’t “push” users toward such content.

9.) Minimize “Cyberhate” Exposure. Limit exposure to content involving discrimination, hate speech, or bullying.

10.) Screen for Problematic Use

Clinicians, parents, and others should watch for signs of social media use that impair daily functioning or predict psychological harm.

~ Protect Sleep & Physical Activity

Social media use should not disrupt sleep routines or reduce physical activity — both are very important for healthy development.

~ Limit Social Comparison

Encourage teens to be mindful of content that triggers comparison, especially appearance-related content (beauty, body image).

~ Teach Social Media Literacy

Before (or when) teens use social media, they should get training in understanding how it works: recognizing risky content, understanding algorithms, assessing credibility, and identifying unhealthy patterns.

These competencies help them use social media more safely and meaningfully.

Research Investment

~ Significant, long-term research should be funded to better understand social media’s positive and negative effects.

~ Researchers should get better access to data (including from platforms) to do high-quality studies.

Why This Matters — Implications

For Parents/Caregivers:
Understand that social media isn’t automatically “bad,” but guidance and structure are important. Talk with your teen, set boundaries, and coach them in how to use it well.

For Teenagers:
Be mindful. Use social media in ways that support you (friendship, connection), but also be aware of content that might be harmful. Learn how to spot problematic patterns.

For Tech Companies:
There’s a responsibility to design platforms with adolescent development in mind: features, age-appropriate settings, content moderation, and safety protections.

For Policymakers & Researchers:
The advisory calls for actions: regulation, better safety standards, transparency from platforms, and more research to fill knowledge gaps.

This health advisory provides 10 recommendations to ensure that teens develop healthy social media practices.

10/20/2025

There’s a certain kind of ache that rejection awakens in us — an ache that feels far too big for the moment. A friend doesn’t reply to a message. A loved one grows distant. A colleague overlooks us. The pain that rises isn’t just disappointment; it feels like a door slamming on our worth.

For many, this isn’t simply about now — it’s the echo of something then.

When we were children, our hearts were shaped by how others showed up for us — or didn’t. Some of us learned early that love can be unpredictable. A parent was there, but distracted. Another left, emotionally or physically. Or love was given only when we behaved, performed, or stayed small.

This quiet loss is what psychologists call abandonment depression. It’s not a single event but a slow shaping of the heart around the fear that we’re not enough to be chosen.

So when rejection happens in adulthood, the old wound reopens. The body remembers before the mind can reason. We might suddenly feel small, anxious, desperate to fix or flee. What we’re really saying inside is:

“Please don’t leave me like they did.”

Spiritually, this wound can distort how we see God. If love has always been uncertain, we may unconsciously believe God’s love is too. We brace ourselves for rejection, even from the One who promised never to forsake us.

But Scripture tells a different story:

“Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.” — Psalm 27:10

The faith journey, at its heart, is a process of learning to trust the love that doesn’t leave. It’s a slow reparenting of the soul — letting God’s steadfastness become the new pattern that replaces the old absence.

Healing begins not with shame, but with compassion — noticing the child in us who still fears being left alone. Instead of silencing that part, we learn to sit beside it.

You might pray something like:

“Lord, help me see the little one inside me who still fears being left. Teach me to stay with them as You stay with me.”

Over time, love — consistent, patient, and real — rewires what trauma once taught. We start to notice that not everyone leaves. That not every silence means rejection. That love can endure even when it’s quiet.

The heart that once learned “love leaves” can, by grace, relearn “love remains.”
And this is the gospel in miniature: that the God who entered our human abandonment — who cried out, “My God, why have You forsaken me?” — did so to redeem our aloneness from within it.

When rejection stings, maybe the invitation is not to harden but to remember: this pain has roots, and God meets us at the root. The One who stays can help us rewrite the story — from I was left, to I am held.

Book recommendation: “When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection” by Dr. Gabor Maté is a book about ...
08/29/2025

Book recommendation:
“When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection” by Dr. Gabor Maté is a book about how chronic stress, emotional repression, and unresolved trauma can manifest physically as illness. Here’s a clear summary:

Main Premise:

Dr. Maté argues that our emotional health and physical health are deeply connected. When we habitually suppress our emotions—especially anger, grief, and stress—our bodies can “say no” by developing chronic illnesses such as cancer, autoimmune diseases, and other stress-related conditions.

Key Points:

Chronic Stress and Illness
Persistent stress weakens the immune system, alters hormones, and affects the nervous system, making the body more vulnerable to disease.

Personality Patterns Linked to Illness:

People-pleasing – Putting others’ needs first and ignoring your own.

Emotional repression – Avoiding conflict, suppressing anger, and denying pain.

Hyper-responsibility – Feeling responsible for everyone else’s well-being.

The Role of Childhood:
Early emotional experiences shape how we handle stress. Children who learn to silence their feelings often grow into adults who disconnect from their bodies—until illness forces them to pay attention.

The Body as a Messenger:
Illness is not a failure; it’s a signal. The body “says no” when the mind has been saying yes to too many demands.

Healing Requires Awareness:
True healing involves acknowledging and expressing emotions, setting boundaries, and living authentically rather than under constant self-imposed pressure.

Key Quote:

“When we have been prevented from learning how to say no, our bodies may end up saying it for us.”

Neuroscientist Anne-Laure Le Cunff discusses how to live freely in a goal-obsessed world by adopting an experimental min...
07/03/2025

Neuroscientist Anne-Laure Le Cunff discusses how to live freely in a goal-obsessed world by adopting an experimental mindset to combat cognitive overload and productivity pressure. She identifies the "Maximalist Brain" as the belief that everything we do has to be the biggest and most ambitious version of a goal, which often leads to overwhelm and burnout. The experimental mindset, based on the scientific method, involves observing your current situation, asking a research question, and designing a tiny experiment to collect data. Being aware of your mindset is crucial because it influences your decisions, relationships, and feelings, and she identifies three limiting mindsets: cynical, escapist, and perfectionist.
More to learn in the video about the challenges of facing uncertainty and productivity while ensuring your actions align with your authentic desires rather than external pressures.

"We try to stick to routines and we try to go through very long lists of tasks, often ignoring our mental health in the process. There is a lot more to think...

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