Sage DeRosier, M.A., LMFT

11/25/2025

Another article for good! 👍 A recent study published by the Journal of Pediatrics proves that gender affirming care reduces suicidality… contrary to the fearmongering claims marketed by a frightwing, wackadoo wrecking ball regime, the truth presents itself in science - supporting HRT keeps gender expansive adolescents alive.

Folks, when a person secretly plots and commits su***de, that action communicates deep, profound aloneness, a supreme state of isolation. Some suicidal people can be pleasant, smiling, showing up, surrounded by other people who care about them and on the surface project that everything is fine. When we are lucky, the suicidal person says or does one or more things to alert us, give us a clue about their internal world… send an SOS. In those cases, we actually get the opportunity to have necessary and difficult conversations, to alleviate the isolation.

However, when someone realizes that others are more invested in themselves and their own agendas, their own rigid, demanding, reality-obfuscating beliefs over the insistent, consistent, persistent cries for help from their gender-expansive kid… sometimes the pain, helplessness, and utter aloneness is too much and escape becomes the overriding project, the singular priority. Sometimes escape is merely mind-altering substances, dangerous sexual situations, rebellion, eating disorders… often, the simplest escape route is ending altogether, shuffling the mortal coil… The ultimate long term solution to being in a body on the planet.

Therefore, let us learn how to actively listen, communicate with compassion, and for gender expansive kids, facilitate the support they need to get and stay on their path of authentic identity. 🙏🏽

To examine changes in suicidality following hormone therapy (HT) among transgender and gender-diverse adolescents and young adults.

11/12/2025

Just for today, let’s focus on warm connection. Let’s focus on joyfully wanting the resources we have and the loving connections in our world. Just for today, let’s practice the experience of contentment, peace, serenity, grace. 🙏🏽

11/12/2025

THIS is MY president. Gawd I miss competence, honor, and kindness in the Oval Office. 🥹

11/08/2025

No lies detected!

11/08/2025

No lies detected.

11/08/2025

No lies detected. We are seeking patterns all the time… unless we get deeply traumatized and stuck seeking the same terrifying s**t. It takes some effort, energy, focus, and determination to start CHOOSING exposure to different (healthier, more empowering) environments and patterns… it’s about facilitating repetition over time, so it’s gotta be sustainable, not extreme and difficult like a fad diet. AND, there are wetiko-infected people who are invested in keeping most of us stuck, in habits that serve predators who profit from our suffering, misery, stuckness… But she’s correct, with help, we can “rewire” our thought patterns. 😁

11/04/2025

Lots of ways to describe active listening. “Looping” gives stronger focus to closing the loop - CHECKING and asking the other something like, “did I get the gist of what you’re attempting to communicate?” Humility is required when they say “no” or “not quite.” Humility is moving deeper into sincere curiosity and desire to truly understand the other.

10/28/2025

For today, a mix of humor and depth… We, the people of the planet are experiencing significant change due to our collective abdication of civic engagement and the rise of despotic, egotistical wealth and resource hoarders.

For some periods of time, most humans can pretend that everything is manageable, stable, mostly predictable… but that’s not the truth of our existence. Our existence is concentric circles of constant movement, change. Everything evolves at mostly microscopic levels and/or at an infinitesimally slow pace… Sometimes however, s**t looks big and overshadows the illusion of sameness. Sometimes s**t speeds the f**k up and freaks us out like a prolonged series of terrifying, unbelievable jump-scares.

Wars do this. The machinations of too-powerful, dangerously psychopathic boys who masquerade, preen, and parade as “men” does this to families as well as vast populations.

The absence of humility, kindness, empathetic compassion, and co-created, co-maintained balance does this to our planetary ecosystem. When vast numbers of people abdicate sane, critical thinking and eschew emotional maturation and wisdom for rigidly held beliefs and sensationalistic lies broadcast by a few… we become sped up, jump-scared, angry, destabilized.

The call to action now is this: find and liberally share goodwill, warm, kind connection. Practice sincere curiosity and active, deep listening. Dare to seek out those with different perspectives and practice leaning into openness and consideration rather than guardedness, distrust, and arguing. I dare us all to even get curious about our own reactions, upsets, knee-jerk impulse to say something mean, bully, call names, or humiliate… What if we all just courageously softened and allowed ourselves to set and maintain our own boundaries without having to change, correct, fight, or best others…

For today, I invite us to deeply answer the internal inquiry: What will bring me peace?

10/09/2025

A colleague and I are starting The Co-Regulation Coalition, a political processing group.

Our aim is to support those negatively impacted by the current socio-political climate and incrementally escalating terror and violence.

We have noticed many people do not feel safe, grounded, regulated enough to have conversations with others to process their thoughts and feelings about the increasingly fascist regime. When we are dysregulated, it’s hard to get clarity around right action. We are witnessing our republic get hijacked by a corrupt cult of cruelty, deception, oppression, terrorism, and violence. In order to evolve and level up democracy, we must personally evolve and level up our own personal growth.

We are keeping the participant fee as low as we can afford, just $50 per session ($200/month). So, if you’re interested in joining the group, letting off steam, learning regulation, connecting, and taking the opportunity to grow, contact me or my colleague, Jasey. When we reach a minimum number of participants (4), we will schedule the first meeting.

09/22/2025

We can slide into the childish simplicity of hate and demonizing… it’s easy to point fingers and call others a monster. It’s also easy to cave, capitulate, give the bully your lunch money because we feel afraid, overwhelmed, and desperately want peace.

But, here’s the thing: feeding the bully doesn’t bring peace… just a short reprieve. And hate doesn’t solve problems… just perpetuates isolation.

And the price of a temporary reprieve from escalated threat, upset, and violence (because the mafia, the gang, the bully always comes back to their victims for more…) is that we never learn or grow, or evolve… just remain victims.

Instead, I propose courage, growth, creatively doing things differently. I invite us to learn and practice emotional self-regulation, how to articulate our microscopic truth, how to say NO and set/maintain healthy boundaries. I propose we choose emotional maturation, evolving, dignity, and self-respect. Ironically, choosing growth brings the true peace we seek. Let us not cave. Instead, let’s lean into curiosity and courage. Let’s have the difficult, conversations. Let’s grow and keep choosing love. ❤️

09/21/2025

We want to be our best selves. That means slowing down, introspecting, leaning into discomfort, making the hard choices, and avoiding quick fixes… trusting ourselves and others to navigate to our authentic answers. ❤️

09/20/2025

Mmm!😋