11/20/2023
Attachment theory is NOT meant to be a prison sentence. It’s meant to help you better understand yourself so you can grow. It is meant to better explain how relationships work (and is the closest science has come to doing so) and provide HOPE. It is a hopeful theory. It’s a cross-cultural, all inclusive theory that applies to everyone who wants to be close to another human(s). It’s is about emotional support, healthy communication, solving problems, co-regulation, and every kind of connection.
Attachment security exists on a spectrum from “very insecure” on one end to “very secure” on the other end. The goal isn’t to magically go from one end to the other, but rather to meet yourself, and your relationship, where you are, and do the work from that place. Find the balance between being gentle with yourself and your partner, and holding yourself and each other accountable. That in itself is a trial and error process. Growth is never a dramatic experience. It happens with consistent effort over time. Just keep moving forward, pick yourself up and start over when you stumble, and one day something will happen and you’ll say “wow, I (we) really handled that differently than I (we) did in the past. Look at that growth.”
This account is a go-to resource for growing into secure attachment with yourself and in your relationship. Start with the “start here” highlight.
For those who want a more organized, deeper dive into the material, you can pre-order my book “Secure Love,” by Julie Menanno, anywhere books are sold all over the world. The official release date is Jan 30. ❤️
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