Dr. Anne Ridley - The Modern Aphrodite

05/17/2025

I was speaking with a customer today who questioned why he chose a particular partner and became trauma bonded. Often, we look to our parental dynamics for clues first as to what we may be trying to subconsciously repair.

The way we love is shaped by our past, often in ways we don’t realize.

05/08/2024

𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱 𝗢𝘃𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗻 𝗖𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗿 𝗗𝗮𝘆, today, Mᴀʏ 8ᴛʜ
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Oɴᴇ ᴏғ ᴏᴜʀ ᴍɪssɪᴏɴs ᴀᴛ Mᴏᴅᴇʀɴ ᴀᴘʜʀᴏᴅɪᴛᴇ ɪs ᴇᴅᴜᴄᴀᴛɪᴏɴ ᴏғ ɢʏɴᴏʟᴏɢɪᴄᴀʟ ᴄᴀɴᴄᴇʀs in honor of our founder and her mother.

60% of women are not familiar with the symptoms of ⁠
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Ovarian cancer can present itself in any of the following ways: ⁠
✔️Bloating⁠
✔️Difficulty eating or feeling full quickly⁠
✔️Pelvic or abdominal pain⁠
✔️Needing to urinate urgently or often⁠
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Other symptoms can include:⁠
✔️Fatigue⁠
✔️Upset stomach or heartburn⁠
✔️Back pain⁠
✔️Pain during intercourse⁠
✔️Constipation⁠
✔️Menstrual changes⁠

A Pap smear does not test for ovarian cancer so talk to your doctor if you are having symptoms or for more information.
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12/23/2023

Happy Holidays 🌲

10/11/2023

A therapist’s notes on World Mental Health Day…

I’ve been sitting in this chair for 23 years and across from people in intense pain. Profound loss from a traumatic event is the hardest to help hold. It is “bearing the unbearable” when there are no words to spin the pain into a story that hurts less. Those who have endured such devastating events their minds cannot comprehend and somehow we have to help them lean into survival while in the midst heartbreak and disbelief.

We are living in a time of extreme emotional overwhelm and collective trauma. There is no question that the horrific events of this week are utterly terrifying and felt on a level some of us can only imagine and we resist doing so. That fear freezes us with confusion of what to do and even what to say. The overwhelm falls on top of the other collective and individual traumatic events of the past few years, and then under that is the childhood and generational pain so many people carry from their lineage.

Where do we begin to unpack the heaviness? The shootings, the illness, the abuse, the hate, the fear, the grief and pain of the atrocities around the world and in our towns. The victims…they come into hospitals and mental health clinics and then what do we do for the caregivers that are there waiting for them to help bear what no one should have to?

When I feel like I’m not sure how to make a big change or feel powerless, I focus on the grassroots ones and the now then ripple. I try to educate myself on what the best way to help is, while making sure to restore myself to continue to show up for others in need, and sometimes fail. A lot of people in the helping professions are so depleted from the past few years and the muted response sometimes seen is not from depth of concern but from lack of bandwidth and restoration.

I have a bleeding heart. That will never change but I have to manage it to keep going. I can say that people who choose to go into helping professions and stay do as well. It’s who we are in the world and we’re all doing our best as the need only increases. I desperately want a better world for my children to live in and hold endless hope for that day. I have such gratitude for all of you who share in this mission and hold the door for the brave who ask for help. ♥️

06/05/2023

Happy Pride Month, New Mexico! 🏳️‍🌈

Pride Month is ON!!!

02/14/2023

05/14/2021

Take it as it resonates...

11/30/2020

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11/10/2020

“𝐘𝗼𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝗺𝐩𝗼𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝗼 𝗺𝐞“
Every lover wants to hear that, and often we don’t say it enough or don’t know how to. Much like the ways we verbally communicate, physically we often give to another in the way we ourselves like to receive.
As a s*x therapist and relationship counselor, clients often say that they don’t feel heard in the bedroom. Sometimes it is also that they are not speaking clearly with what they desire from their partner. You are the teacher of your body. You can train it to respond and help your partner learn how to play your arousal. Self pleasure is important to knowing how your body likes to be touched instead of waiting for someone else to magically know how to do it for you. Toys and textures and lubricants can be a wonderful aid in self discovery.
No body is the same. Know thyself. Love thyself and then share that knowledge with your partner and vice versa.
𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑢𝑟𝑒 𝑖𝑠 𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑜𝑟𝑡𝑎𝑛𝑡.

𝑯𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔? Wᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ɢᴇᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴏᴡɴ ᴘʟᴇᴀsᴜʀᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ᴅᴇᴇᴘᴇɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴘʟᴇᴀᴅᴜʀᴇ ᴄᴏɴʙᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ ɪɴ ʏᴏᴜʀ ʀᴇʟᴀᴛɪᴏɴsʜɪᴘs? Wᴇ ᴀʀᴇ ʜᴇʀᴇ ᴛᴏ ʜᴇʟᴘ!
𝐿𝐼𝑁𝐾 𝐼𝑁 𝐵𝐼𝑂

*xtherapist *xtherapy *xologist