Harvey Center for Relationships

Harvey Center for Relationships What we seek in our partner is connection. Deep, relaxed, secure connection is the springboard to passion.

We help couples re-connect and stay connected by enhancing the positive, eliminating the negative and becoming each other's advocate. As Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists and certified Imago Relationship Therapists, we have helped hundreds of couples turn their marriage around and achieve lasting romance. Duane was trained by Harville Hendrix (author of Getting the Love You Want) in 1991. Additionally, Thea is a certified Kundalini yoga and meditation teacher. Married for over ten years, we practice together out of our home a few blocks up from the beach in beautiful Santa Monica. Every day we embody the relationship principals that we advocate for our clients.

Move Together March
Breathe TogetherTry this: Sit comfortably facing each other, or lie side by side with your heads on ...
03/05/2026

Move Together March
Breathe Together

Try this: Sit comfortably facing each other, or lie side by side with your heads on a pillow and your spines straight. Gently bring your foreheads together.

Synchronize your breath so you and your partner inhale and exhale at the same time.
This simple couples meditation helps co-regulate your nervous systems and build attunement.
Breathe together for a minute or two.

Then release your foreheads. Notice what shifts when you breathe together.

Single? Slow down, take a few deep breaths. Notice how your body feels.


 
 
 


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As we step into a new month, I’m inviting you to explore connection through shared movement.Movement co-regulates.
Movem...
03/01/2026

As we step into a new month, I’m inviting you to explore connection through shared movement.

Movement co-regulates.
Movement restores play.
Movement can rekindle attraction.

When we walk side by side, play tennis, stretch before bed, give one another a massage, or simply breathe together, we strengthen attunement. Connection doesn’t require performance - just presence.

Single? This is for you too. Moving intentionally—alone or in community—deepens your relationship with your own body and capacity for connection.

Join me this month for simple embodied practices you can explore together.

Let’s move—toward presence, safety, and aliveness.

One of the most practical lessons I learned from s*x educators during my PhD training in clinical s*xology was this: use...
02/24/2026

One of the most practical lessons I learned from s*x educators during my PhD training in clinical s*xology was this: use more lubricant.

Many challenges around comfort, arousal, and s*xual satisfaction improve when couples use copious amounts of l**e.

Explore and discover what feels best for your body. There are many options on the market, and what works beautifully for one person may not work for another. Lubricant should feel good—enhancing pleasure, ease, and sensation. If it stings, burns, or feels uncomfortable in any way, discontinue use and try a different option.

Single? Lubricant can also enhance solo pleasure—supporting exploration, comfort, and connection with your own body.

How you want to be touched is a vital part of sacred intimacy. Woven into that exploration is consent—and yes, consent c...
02/19/2026

How you want to be touched is a vital part of sacred intimacy. Woven into that exploration is consent—and yes, consent can be very s*xy.

Asking for consent communicates respect and care. It brings clarity, lowers anxiety, and builds trust. And when anxiety softens, connection deepens. Feeling embodied and safe is the foundation of erotic ecstasy.

Something as simple as asking, “May I hold your hand?” creates safety. Asking your partner how they want to be touched opens the door to curiosity, pleasure, and deeper connection.

Need help starting the conversation? Explore our Erotic Menus to support playful, consent-based intimacy. 👉 Click the link in our bio.

Single? Consent also begins with yourself - listening to your body, honoring your pace, and choosing how you want to be touched.

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Couples often bristle at the idea of scheduling intimacy. Yet in our busy, demanding lives, if something isn’t on the ca...
02/13/2026

Couples often bristle at the idea of scheduling intimacy. Yet in our busy, demanding lives, if something isn’t on the calendar, it often doesn’t happen.

Scheduling intimacy creates something to anticipate—a bespoke rendezvous you can look forward to together. Too often, couples in long-term relationships find themselves wondering when they’ll have s*x, and that uncertainty quietly erodes desire and connection.

Pro tip: Put intimacy on the calendar.
Choose a time that genuinely works for both of you—often earlier in the day, when energy and desire are higher, rather than late after dinner when you’re full and tired. Even talking about when to connect can become part of the erotic build-up. Learn more by clicking the link in my bio.

Single? This applies to you too. When during the day do you feel the most frisky, alive, or turned on? Notice your natural rhythms and make space to honor them. Sacred intimacy begins with attunement—to your body, your desire, and your pleasure.

Make your space s*x-ready.
Piles of laundry, family photos, or harsh lighting can dim the erotic mood.Part of keeping lo...
02/08/2026

Make your space s*x-ready.

Piles of laundry, family photos, or harsh lighting can dim the erotic mood.

Part of keeping long-term love sizzling is preparing your environment so you can relax, feel safe, and feel sensual. Small, intentional shifts can make a meaningful difference—softening the lighting, diffusing essential oils, locking the door.

You might even play with something unexpected, like a black light or colored bulbs, to completely alter the vibe of the room.

Take a look around your bedroom and ask yourself: What would help me feel more sensual in this space?

Music is another powerful aphrodisiac—what songs turn you on?

Incorporating sensual elements helps your scheduled, bespoke intmacy feel intentional—distinct from everyday life.

Single? This applies to you too.
What lighting, scents, and music help you feel aroused, present, and connected to your body?

Why focus on intimacy in long-term love?
Why not let this part of your relationship - or life - quietly fade?At Harvey C...
02/05/2026

Why focus on intimacy in long-term love?
Why not let this part of your relationship - or life - quietly fade?

At Harvey Center for Relationships, we understand s*xual pleasure as an essential part of overall health, well-being, and self-determination. When personal s*xual health and pleasure are avoided, the impact is often felt not only in the relationship, but in one’s sense of self and self-acceptance.

We all carry some degree of s*xual wounding - that’s part of being in a human body.

When you explore your erotic self with love, patience, and understanding, you embark on a deeply healing—and potentially ecstatic—journey. Committed relationships uniquely hold this possibility.

Very few couples reach the physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy I’m describing—not because it’s unattainable, but because many give up on it as a possibility. Of course, letting go is always an option.

But together, you can also choose to create something truly magical.

Single? Empower yourself to know what turns you on and how you like to be touched.

Follow along this month for reflections and practical guidance on cultivating sacred intimacy.

f*ck it february was inspired by Dr. Sally Greenwald, an OB who specializes in women’s s*xual health. She often prescrib...
02/01/2026

f*ck it february was inspired by Dr. Sally Greenwald, an OB who specializes in women’s s*xual health. She often prescribes s*x to help patients increase desire and libido. Research shows that the more s*x you have, the more s*x you want.

She encourages her patients, during the month of February, to have s*x three times a week. For some, that may feel too ambitious; for others, it may be a worthy (and exciting) challenge.
Let this month be an invitation to focus on your intimacy. I’ll be sharing gentle prompts to help you cultivate this as a sacred part of your connection. DM your partner to get the conversation started.

Single? This is an invitation for you, too—to connect with what turns you on and brings you alive.

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In long-term relationships, intimacy deepens not through spontaneity alone—it grows through intention, conversation, and...
01/31/2026

In long-term relationships, intimacy deepens not through spontaneity alone—it grows through intention, conversation, and practice. This month, I invite you into Sacred Intimacy February, playfully called, f*ck it february, a gentle, grounded exploration of how couples can cultivate erotic connection with care, curiosity, and presence. Throughout February I’ll be posting tips to cultivate this part of your relationship.

Single? This is for you too. Sacred intimacy begins within - through attunement to your body, your desires, and your capacity for pleasure and connection.

01/25/2026

Thank you, 2025 - a year of growth, love, and deepening connections.

Holding couples through crisis, collaborating with beloved colleague and prioritizing romance.

Here’s to cultivating sacred intimacy and conscious partnership in 2026.

Enjoy our guided couples hand caress meditation - link in the bio.

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01/19/2026

Real change in relationships begins with small shifts —
pausing before reacting, replacing criticism with desire, softening your tone, listening with curiosity.
If you’ve completed all 7 days of this challenge, take a moment to appreciate the effort you’ve made! 💛 Even a little more awareness and intention can create powerful ripples in how you love — and how you’re loved in return.
🌿 Today’s invitation:
Don’t stop here. Let this be the beginning of a more conscious, connected way of relating.
✨ Download the Zero Negativity Pledge and sign it together as a commitment to ongoing care and connection. Click the link in my bio to access the pledge and deepen your practice.

💛 Single? Bring these practices inward.
✨ Write your own Self-Compassion Pledge.
What would it sound like to move through life with less inner criticism, and more self appreciation?

📲 Follow along .phd for more tools, guidance, and inspiration for creating the relationship you truly desire — with a partner, or with yourself.



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Santa Monica, CA
90405

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Tuesday 9am - 9pm
Wednesday 9am - 9pm
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Friday 9am - 12pm

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