Rachel Negar Partiali, Ph.D.

03/08/2024

Happy International Women’s Day! May we honor all women around the world, especially those who are still held in captivity and those who are suffering in any way.

10/15/2023

10/13/2023

Everyone is somehow being impacted by the violence and terror in the world right now. Sometimes the current trauma can trigger wounds of the past that are wanting to be seen and healed. I encourage all of us to feel whatever pain is coming up and to channel it in a way that can bring light for the whole world. This is a piece I wrote called, “Memories.” Praying for peace in our world.

Memories

Sitting in this room, the silence of the neighborhood feels deafening like the screams of all those innocent people.
Hollow, unheard, but forever stamped in the records of time.
The world has stopped and it’s simultaneously rapidly moving.
The fan, swirling the thick air filled with the aroma of Persian food, fear, and fluttering memories of a past that has not been forgotten, but is being re-lived.
Walking through that airport in Iran at the age of four and a half, escaping a war-torn country
Getting ready to be teleported into another dimension and leaving behind the only home I’ve known
Like a bird setting flight as the nest is torn away by the violent winds crashing and destroying anything in its place.
Walking through the tunnel of fluorescent lights and men in uniform, my wobbly legs, the ones that had not fully learned to ground herself in her native dwelling, were about to take a leap into the foreign land of the West.
The swirling fan, both dizzying and dazzling as I stare into its monotonous dance…
Similar to that of a swirling Dervish, drunken on the oneness of all, being lost in creation, while also participating in the formation of life.

03/08/2023

Happy Intetnational Women’s Day to all women around the world, and a special shout out to the fierce, bold, courageous women of Iran! 💖

05/30/2022

We may not always fully understand why we feel hurt in a situation. The more we can become clear about what triggered us, the better we can self-soothe and/or reach out for support

05/08/2022

Happy Mother’s Day to all- whether you are celebrating your own mother, Mother Earth, or all the ways you have learned to love and mother yourself. Today can bring up complicated feelings for some and joyous feelings for others. Wishing you acceptance and love on this special day

03/08/2022

Happy International Women’s Day! May we honor the feminine energy within each and every one of us, today and everyday

03/03/2021

“When faced with difficult emotions from our partners, we have three choices: To turn towards them, against, or away. The first choice builds trust and emotional connection; the latter two disconnect a couple and can lead to escalating conflict....Attunement is listening with compassion to your partner’s hurt. When a partner listens with an open heart, tenderness, and care, the upset partner feels accepted, safe, and loved. Even more importantly, this behavior builds trust, the backbone of intimacy.”

Why can’t everyone just be happy?

08/08/2020

“How we react to our kids’ emotions has an impact on the development of their emotional intelligence.”

How we react to our kids’ emotions has an impact on the development of their emotional intelligence.

07/11/2020

“Many couples inadvertently fall into an unhealthy habit of ‘expressing’ rather than ‘communicating’ with one another.”

To strengthen your bond, try this instead.

05/08/2020

Whether your mother is physically absent or emotionally unavailable, “it’s a lonely, raw, heart-wrenching kind of pain to be without her.”

It's a lonely, raw, heart-wrenching kind of pain to be without her.