01/11/2026
WHY IS IT SO HARD TO CHANGE PATTERNS? Even when we can see issues and the consequences…
Because all dysfunction/destructive behaviors are an attempt to protect us from feeling pain/hurt.
Lasting change requires us to slow down and find the place where we can identify and FEEL the hurt.
For most of us, we need some nervous system regulation and mental preparation before we are able to tolerate these feelings.
Having a compassionate, safe, connected, therapeutic relationship in place is great foundation.
That’s what we are building every time we show up to session. It feels like magic when we both bring curiosity, willingness and bravery to our meetings.
I may be the guide, but there is no hierarchy. I must show up with same qualities.
My role is to help you feel safe enough to experience and lean into uncomfortable emotions so patterns of protection/dysfunction can be addressed.
Left to our own tendencies, humans choose coping — like distraction, pleasure, comfort and familiarity over change. 🤍