Pursuit of Recovery

04/29/2026

Emotions Anonymous
Step 3 - made a decision to turn our Will in our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.

04/28/2026

“In tango… if you force the step, you lose the dance.
In relationships… it’s the same.”

Tango only works when two people are in connection.

One leads.
One follows.
But neither controls.

The leader doesn’t drag.
The follower doesn’t guess.

In recovery and relationships, we say we want connection…
but what we often practice is control.

* We rush people to “get it”
* We try to fix what makes us uncomfortable
* We over-explain, over-give, over-manage

That’s not dancing.
That’s forcing the step.

Codependency says:
“If I lead hard enough, love will follow.”

Recovery says:
“I’ll stay in my step… and trust the dance.”

A Question to Sit With ..
Where in your life are you trying to lead someone who isn’t in step with you?

And a deeper one…

Are you allowing space for response… or demanding the outcome?
Healthy connection looks like tango:

* Clear signals
* Mutual respect
* Space to respond
* And the courage to pause instead of push

Because sometimes the most powerful move in both tango and recovery is… Stillness.

“You don’t find connection by controlling the dance.
You find it by respecting the rhythm.”

04/27/2026

Mom’s Monday 📝Notes

On 12/6/2000 my mother wrote:

“Your belief system is comprised of the principles which govern and guide your life and how you view. God is one of the most important aspects of your belief system because it shapes how you react to challenges.”

In recovery, this couldn’t be more true.

What we believe—deep down—determines how we respond when life gets hard. Not when it’s easy. Not when everything is going our way. But when we’re triggered, uncomfortable, afraid, or uncertain.

If our belief system is rooted in fear, control, or self-reliance alone… we will react with anxiety, defensiveness, or escape. That’s where relapse lives.

But when our belief system begins to shift—when we allow God to be at the center—something powerful happens.

We pause.
We pray instead of panic.
We surrender instead of control.
We trust instead of run.

Recovery isn’t just about removing substances… it’s about rebuilding the belief system that drives our behavior.

Because the truth is:
You don’t just act your way into recovery…
You believe your way into it.

So today, ask yourself:
What is guiding my reactions right now—fear or faith?

And if it’s fear… that’s not failure. That’s awareness.
And awareness is where change begins.

Allow God reshape your belief system, and watch how your life begins to respond differently.

04/24/2026

Be where your feet are today❣️

Enjoy the 🎁 present which is the gift for today♥️♥️

04/23/2026

This morning I saw a baby grasshopper…on my flowers while chatting with Kristy Stoker

It was fascinating to me, not because it was big or bold…
but because it was small, new, and becoming.

Grasshoppers don’t walk—they leap.
Forward. Without guarantees. Without overthinking the landing.

And I couldn’t help but think…
how often in recovery do we wait until we feel “ready” before we move?

Maybe today isn’t about having the whole plan.
Maybe it’s about taking the next small step…
the next honest move…
the next leap of faith.

Because growth doesn’t start when we’re strong.
It starts when we’re willing.

That little grasshopper reminded me—
you don’t have to be fully formed to move forward.
You just have to trust the jump.

04/22/2026

Step #2 of Emotions Anonymous:
“Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity”

04/21/2026

We expect people to be like us… and when they’re not, we try to rework them.

That’s where codependency lives.

We say it’s love—
but really, it’s control.

Because we think…
‘I’ll be okay when THEY change.’

04/20/2026

Mom’s Monday
📝 Notes
On 11/23/00 my momma wrote:

“Our conscience operates on the basis of how it is programmed.”

In recovery, this hits deep.

For so long, many of us were running on old programming—beliefs shaped by pain, trauma, addiction, and survival. That inner voice… the one that told us:

* “You’re not enough.”
* “You’ll never change.”
* “Just one more won’t hurt.”

That wasn’t truth. That was conditioning.

Recovery is where we begin to reprogram the conscience.

We start feeding it something new:

* Truth instead of lies
* Faith instead of fear
* Accountability instead of avoidance
* Grace instead of shame

What once felt “natural” to us—numbing out, reacting, people-pleasing, escaping—was simply what we practiced over and over. And what we practice becomes our internal guide.

But here’s the hope:

What was programmed can be reprogrammed.

Through steps, through spiritual growth, through honest conversations, through daily choices—we begin to align our conscience with something higher. God, truth, integrity.

And over time, that inner voice changes.

Instead of condemning, it convicts.
Instead of chaos, it guides.
Instead of destruction, it protects.

In recovery, we don’t just stop using…
we start rewriting the script that once ran our lives.

What old programming is still speaking in your mind today—and what truth can you begin replacing it with?

04/20/2026

Celebrating Pursuit of Recovery’s 6th year! Thank you for your continuing support. We could never have made it without you. 🙏🤗🎉

Today, Pursuit Of Recovery™ turns 6 years old. 6 years of showing up. 6 years of walking families through chaos. 6 years of watching people come back to life. And what I know today—more than anything—is this: Recovery is not one-size-fits-all. It is personal. It is layered. And it r

04/16/2026

Let’s talk about this… because this is where so many people get stuck.

When you begin to heal, you disrupt the system you once fit into.

You start saying:

* “No” instead of “maybe”
* “I need space” instead of people-pleasing
* “I choose sobriety” instead of chaos

And suddenly… the people who were comfortable with the old you feel uncomfortable with the new you.

Not because you’re doing something wrong—
but because you’re doing something different.

💥 Your healing shines a light on what others may not be ready to face.
💥 Your boundaries remove access they once had.
💥 Your growth challenges the roles everyone got used to.

So what happens?

Sometimes they question you.
Sometimes they guilt you.
Sometimes they try to pull you back into the version of you they understand.

But hear me clearly:

👉 Recovery is not about staying relatable to others.
It’s about becoming honest with yourself.

🌿 Client Connection / Authority Positioning

This is one of the most critical phases I walk my clients through
learning how to stay grounded in their recovery even when others resist it.

Because real recovery isn’t just about putting substances down…

It’s about:

* Rewiring relationships
* Rebuilding identity
* Reclaiming your voice
* And standing in your truth without apology

🙏 Reflection Question (Engagement Driver)

Where in your life are you shrinking your growth to keep others comfortable?

📣 Call to Action (Soft but Clear)

If you’re navigating this season—where your healing is creating tension in your relationships—you don’t have to do it alone.

I offer private recovery coaching and family guidance through Pursuit of Recovery, where we walk through these exact dynamics with clarity, structure, and support.

📩 Message me or email: info@pursuitofrecovery.com
Let’s protect your recovery—together.

04/15/2026

Step One: “We admitted we are powerless over our emotions—that our lives had become unmanageable.”

At first glance, this step can feel uncomfortable—even offensive.

“Powerless over my emotions? Aren’t I supposed to control them?”

But Step One isn’t about weakness.
It’s about truth.

What does “powerless over our emotions” really mean?

It doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings.
It doesn’t mean you’re broken.
And it definitely doesn’t mean you’ll never have peace.

It means this:

When left unchecked, our emotions can run the show—and when they do, we lose our ability to respond in healthy ways.

We don’t choose the first feeling that rises up—
the anxiety, the anger, the shame, the fear.

But without awareness or tools, we do start reacting:
• We shut down
• We lash out
• We isolate
• We people-please
• We try to control everything (and everyone)

That’s the powerlessness.

What does “unmanageable” look like?

Unmanageable doesn’t always look like chaos on the outside.

Sometimes it looks like:
• Smiling on the outside, but unraveling internally
• Overthinking every conversation
• Letting one emotion dictate your entire day
• Living in cycles of guilt, fear, or resentment
• Feeling exhausted from trying to hold it all together

Unmanageable means our inner world is dictating our outer life.

Why this step matters

Step One is the doorway to everything else.

Because as long as we believe:
• “I should be able to fix this myself”
• “If I just try harder, I’ll feel better”
• “These emotions define me”

…we stay stuck in the cycle.

But when we admit:

“I can’t manage this on my own anymore”

Something shifts.
• The pressure to be in control lifts
• The honesty begins
• The healing can start

A recovery-centered reframe

Step One is not saying:

“I have no power.”

It’s saying:

“What I’ve been doing isn’t working—and I’m ready for something different.”

How this connects to real recovery

In your work, this step creates space for:
• Learning emotional regulation instead of suppression
• Responding instead of reacting
• Inviting support (God, community, tools, structure)
• Separating identity from emotion

Because the truth is:

You are not your emotions.
But without help, they can start to define your life.

Step One isn’t about giving up.
It’s about surrendering the fight you were never meant to win alone—
so you can finally begin to heal.