Ben Schwarcz - Transformational Coaching

03/28/2026

When we change the past, we change the present.

How do you change the past? You change your experience of it. When the trauma happened you were not all there. Part of you dissociated. Part of you went into overwhelm. Part of you got stuck in judging yourself, blaming yourself, or feeling shame.

When we can re-experience our memory - in the present moment - and bring our whole self into presence — the memory falls away — along with all the distortions you have carried.

This is how deep trauma work radically changes your present reality. This is how triggers are removed. This is how patterns can change and relationships can become healthier and so much more satisfying.

03/27/2026

When we change the past, we change the present.

How do you change the past? You change your experience of it. When the trauma happened you were not all there. Part of you dissociated. Part of you went into overwhelm. Part of you got stuck in judging yourself, blaming yourself, or feeling shame.

When we can re-experience our memory - in the present moment - and bring our whole self into presence -- the memory falls away -- along with all the distortions you have carried.

This is how deep trauma work radically changes your present reality. This is how triggers are removed. This is how patterns can change and relationships can become healthier and so much more satisfying.

02/15/2026

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Is it possible to have a relationship that's easy A relationship that's mostly characterized by ease by harmony by flow Some people would say that's boring I...

01/23/2026

We spend a lot of energy escaping, suppressing, avoiding, or misdirecting anger.

“I’m irritated.” “I’m annoyed.” “I’m frustrated.” “I’m resentful.”

Different words. Same root emotion.

The healing shift: embodied anger

This is why somatic work matters.

Emotions don’t live in the mind. They live in the body.

The mind interprets, but the body feels. And the body stores unexpressed emotions.

And when you try to “figure out” emotions, you often shut them down more.

When anger is welcomed into the heart and grounded in the body, it stops being a threat.

It becomes what it always was meant to be:

your protector
your clarity
your boundary
your strength coming back online

It's not about doing it perfectly. It's about practice and self acceptance.

Take your time and be compassionate with yourself!

Mastering Anger to Find Your PowerMost people don’t have an “anger problem.”They have a relationship-with-anger problem.Especially if you’ve been hurt in rel...

01/22/2026

When grief is allowed to be felt deeply -- in the body, not just the mind -- something begins to shift.

Much like trauma healing, perspective changes after feeling, not before it.

As the emotions of grief move, clarity follows.

You begin to see the whole picture.

Yes, there was love.
Yes, there was connection.
And also — there was harm.
There was limitation.
There was a cost to staying.

You’re not just letting go of a person.

You’re letting go of --

a painful dynamic
a relationship that required self-betrayal
a situation that quietly diminished you
a version of love that came with confusion or abandonment --
your addiction to intermittent cycles of pain and occasional connection...

And that changes everything.

This is especially important in relationships where gaslighting was present.

When your reality was questioned.
Your feelings minimized.
Your instincts overridden.

Processing grief honestly can restore something essential:

Trust in your own perception.

You begin to see not only what you lost…

but also what you escaped.

Grief, Loyalty, and the Fear of Letting GoThere’s a form of grief that doesn’t get talked about very often.It’s the grief we hold onto out of loyalty.Not jus...

12/28/2025

Nothing and no one outside of you is more powerful than your Self.

Do not give your power away.

Do not abandon yourself while waiting for someone else to change.

We evolve forever —

but change does not require waiting.

It begins the moment you withdraw your attention

and come home to yourself.

12/14/2025

You want to save people because you think they are separate from you.

Realize this: There are no others.

Your best friend is another form of you. She’s a Parallel mirror.

Your enemy is also you.... your Polar mirror.

So that’s all. Wake up. Don’t try to change others.

The whole game is this: You are It...

You are the whole thing.

Relationships are so much easier when you begin to see that you don’t have to wake people up. Just be YOU. Speak your deepest truth. Speak and live from your heart. And just be present. That’s enough. ❤️

11/29/2025

You want to save people because you think they are separate from you.

Realize this: There are no others.

Your best friend is another form of you. She’s a Parallel mirror.

Your enemy is also you.... your Polar mirror.

So that’s all. Wake up. Don’t try to change others.

The whole game is this: You are It...

You are the whole thing.

Relationships are so much easier when you begin to see that you don't have to wake people up. Just be YOU. Speak your deepest truth. Speak and live from your heart. And just be present. That's enough.

11/19/2025

Transformational Journaling Exercise: Truth Inventory

Let’s get radically honest — without judgment...

Ask Yourself:
• Where am I right now — emotionally, energetically, spiritually?
• What am I attached to, that no longer feeds me?
• Where is my energy being drained?
• What still excites me — even just a spark?
• What am I secretly longing to do, start, or prioritize?
• What am I afraid to let go of — even though I know I want to?

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11/01/2025

Let yourself imagine for a moment... What if we woke up — fully — inside the dream of our lives? What if we became truly lucid?

What would change?

Would you feel something different? Would you take more risks? Would you spend less energy on things — or people — that drain you? Would you have more fun? Would you dance more? Celebrate more? Communicate more deeply with the people you love? Would you spend more time alone? Would you create more?

Let yourself see that. Feel that.

Come back into your breath. Healing is deeply present in each breath. Even one breath can bring you home again.

We are awake. We are alive.

Place one or both hands on your heart. As a gesture to yourself — a remembering. An anchoring of the truth.

Say to yourself: “I am the lucid dreamer of my life.” “My energy is mine. My life is mine.” “I choose my highest truth — not the story.”

Breathe into your heart. Breathe into your deepest knowing.

And anytime you catch yourself slipping... into the role of the victim... or the blamer... or the rescuer...

Just place your hand on your heart. Come back to the remembering.

None of that is you. You are not bound by it. You are not that story.

10/18/2025

Post Traumatic Awakening

Your trauma doesn’t define you. But healing it will transform you.Can there possibly be a gift within our traumas? Can the most painful life experience lead ...

10/09/2025

The Real Reason Relationships Keep Failing, and How to Change for Real

💔 Why Love and Connection Are What We Crave Most (and How Trauma Blocks It)What do people truly want most in life?After 30 years of helping people heal from...