Melissa Maskell Grief Support

12/18/2023

Holidays are HARD 💔
Here’s some tips for getting out of the funk😒

Get Dressed. 👗

Shower. Not a bath, a shower. 🚿
Use water as hot or cold as you like. You don’t even need to wash. Just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while.

Sit on the floor if you gotta.

Moisturize everything.
Use whatever lotion you like.
Unscented? Dollar store lotion? Fancy 48 hour lotion that makes you smell like a field of wildflowers? Use whatever you want, and use it all over your entire dermis.

Put on clean, comfortable clothes.
Put on your favorite underwear.
Those ridiculous boxers you bought last christmas with candy cane hearts on the butt? Put them on.

Drink cold water. 💧

Use ice. If you want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.

Clean something. 🧹🧽🫧

Doesn’t have to be anything big. Organize one drawer of a desk. Wash five dirty dishes. Do a load of laundry. Scrub the bathroom sink.

Blast music. 🎶🎼🎵

Listen to something upbeat and dancey and loud, something that’s got lots of energy. Sing to it, dance to it, even if you suck at both.

Make food. 🌮🥗🍜

Don’t just grab a granola bar to munch. Take the time and make food. Even if it’s ramen. Add something special to it, like a soft boiled egg or some veggies. Prepare food, it tastes way better, and you’ll feel like you accomplished something.

Make something. 🧶🧵🎨🖌️🖼️

Write a short story or a poem, draw a picture, color a picture, fold origami, crochet or knit, sculpt something out of clay, anything artistic. Even if you don’t think you’re good at it. Create.

Go outside. 🏞️

Take a walk. Sit in the grass. Look at the clouds. Smell flowers. Put your hands in the dirt and feel the soil against your skin.

Call someone. ☎️

Call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call. Talk to a stranger on the street. Have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. If you can’t bring yourself to call, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. Even if you don’t say much, listen to them. It helps.

Cuddle your pets if you have them/can cuddle them. 🐈‍⬛🐾
Take pictures of them. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel, about your favorite movie, a new game coming out, anything.

May seem small or silly to some, but this list keeps people alive.

*** At your absolute best you won’t be good enough for the wrong people.

But at your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right ones.

Remember, Keep holding on.

*** In case nobody has told you today -
I love you and you are importantand, you are loved, please be kind to yourself.

Find something to be grateful for!

I’m grateful for my friends and family.
Thank you for being on my life 🙏♥️

Feel free to share so we can reach as many people as possible!!!

10/22/2023

How to feel better for free. More info in comments.

10/04/2023

The world needs more Support for Widows 🌹

Have you read our founder and CEO's book, "Different After You"? No one who lives and loves will be immune from grief and trauma. While this suffering is universal, living through a devastating event often leaves people feeling alone and even alienated.

Michele Neff Hernandez experienced this when her thirty-nine-year-old husband died after being hit by a car while riding his bicycle. Her most transformative realization was that grief changes us. There is no going back or bucking up. Life is now different. In Different after You, Michele presents easy-to-digest steps based on her work with thousands of widowed people and her innovative grief support programs. Through this process, anyone who has experienced life-altering trauma will discover a map for grieving what they’ve lost, identifying what they’ve gained, and learning to embrace the person they’ve become.

10/03/2023

All emotional struggles in life are caused by grief.

Bold statement, but think about it. If grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior, doesn’t that cover just about everything?

From death and divorce to childhood trauma and pet loss, the Grief Recovery Method can help heal your heart.

Don’t take my word for it.

There are thousands of testimonials on their website as proof.

It’s also the ONLY internationally recognized peer reviewed evidence based program for grievers.

It’s backed by science and proven to help grieves feel better after loss.

08/30/2023

This story shares insightful wisdom on how to process pain.

"Grandma how do you deal with pain?"

"With your hands, dear. When you do it with your mind, the pain hardens even more."

“With your hands, grandma?"

"Yes, yes. Our hands are the antennas of our soul. When you move them by sewing, cooking, painting, touching the earth or sinking it into the earth, they send signals of caring to the deepest part of you and your soul calms down.
This way she doesn't have to send pain anymore to show it.

"Are hands really that important?"

"Yes my girl. Thinking of babies: they get to know the world thanks to their touches. When you look at the hands of older people, they tell more about their lives than any other part of the body. Everything that is made by hand, so is said, is made with the heart because it really is like this: hands and heart are connected. Masseuses know this: When they touch another person's body with their hands, they create a deep connection. Thinking of lovers: When their hands touch, they love each other in the most sublime way."

"My hands grandma... how long haven't I used them like that!"

"Move them my girl, start creating with them and everything in you will move. The pain will not pass away. But it will be the best masterpiece. And it won't hurt anymore. Because you managed to embroider your essence."
~ Elena Barnabé

07/19/2023

There are 6 myths that people are commonly taught about dealing with grief:

❌Don’t feel bad
❌Replace the loss
❌Grieve alone
❌Grief just takes time
❌Be strong for yourself and others
❌Keep busy

These myths tend to impact what would be our normal and natural reactions to loss, especially the death of someone who was meaningful to us.

Why does it matter?

Because it’s almost impossible to get emotionally complete and heal if you’re using the wrong tools.

07/16/2023

I can’t fix your broken heart but I can encourage self healing and I have tools to teach you how to do it.

Always reach out to me if you have questions or need support around death and loss.

One of the kindest ways to help a griever is by listening without analysis, criticism or judgement.

06/16/2023

🌟 Honoring the Grief on Father's Day: A Reflection on Loss and Hope 🌟

Dear friends,

As Father's Day approaches, I find myself reflecting on the profound emotions that accompany this day for many individuals. It's a time when we honor and celebrate the fathers who have been a source of love, guidance, and support in our lives. However, for some of us, this day can also stir up a complex blend of emotions, particularly when our fathers are no longer physically present or when our relationships with them have fallen short of our heartfelt hopes and dreams.

Grief is a natural response to loss, and it doesn't adhere to a calendar or fade away with time. In fact, certain occasions like Father's Day can act as poignant reminders of the deep void left behind when a father has passed away. The grief we experience may resurface, bringing with it a flood of memories, unspoken words, and the profound sense of longing for their presence once more.

But let us remember that grief is not solely reserved for those whose fathers have passed away. It also encompasses the pain experienced when the father-daughter or father-son relationship has been marked by challenges, absence, or unfulfilled expectations. The grief lies in the gap between what we hoped for and what we actually experienced—a longing for connection, understanding, and the unconditional love that we may have yearned for.

Today, I want to extend my heartfelt compassion to each and every one of you who carries this weight on Father's Day. It's essential to recognize that your emotions are valid, and you are not alone in navigating this complex terrain.

Remember that healing takes time and comes in many forms. It is a deeply personal journey, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Allow yourself the space and compassion to honor your feelings, whatever they may be. Reach out to loved ones who can offer support or seek professional guidance from grief recovery specialists, therapists, or energy healers who can provide a safe and nurturing space for your healing process.

In the face of loss and unmet expectations, it is crucial to foster a sense of self-compassion and forgiveness. Understand that your father, like all of us, was human and flawed, carrying his own wounds and limitations. Acknowledge that his shortcomings do not define your worth or the love you deserve.

Today, as we navigate the complexities of Father's Day, let us hold space for ourselves and for others who are walking this path. May we find solace in sharing our stories, finding common ground, and supporting one another with empathy and understanding.

To all the fathers who have touched our lives, whether they are here with us or in spirit, we honor the impact you have made. To those who are grieving the loss or the absence of a father figure, may you find healing, peace, and strength to carry you forward.

With love and compassion,
Melissa Maskell
Grief Recovery Method Specialist & Energy Healer

Sending love to those celebrating, grieving, or a bit of both this Father’s Day.

👉 Message me if you’d like a free copy of The Grief Recovery Handbook

04/02/2023

Someone I love was born today but he’s no longer here. I’m feeling all the feels 🥺

I went to my happy place to honor my friend and feel spiritualy connected to the other side.

I recommend celebrating your beloved dead on special occasions, it makes them immortal.

It helps this 💔 get to that ❤️

What is remembered lives😘🤟
Happy Birthday Whit!