01/31/2025
This is such a insightful description of what it is like to be a healer/therapist. I really resonate with it.
"The most precious quality of a therapist is not just empathy, but the empathy that comes from the very depths of being, that springs from one’s own wounds, fears, and losses, from those moments when you were stripped to the core, broken. It is the empathy that comes from the place where you confronted your own abysses, but passed through them, step by step, sometimes trembling, in the silence of pain or the feeling of utter emptiness.
It is the strength born from vulnerability – from the struggle that not only destroyed you, but also rebuilt you. Dancing with your shadows, the darkest ones, revealed to you the fragility of your own being and true humanity, so you could understand yourself and others in a way that touches the very essence of existence.
Everything that brought you to your knees taught you how to rise, how to open yourself even more to life and love. It taught you to live without reservation, to accept everything that comes, and to find the greatest strength in surrender.
From that place, from that experience, grows your desire – not to fix others, but to accompany them, to be the presence that knows how to recognize their tears because you’ve shed them too, that knows how to understand their fears because you’ve carried them as well, that knows what it’s like to feel lost, but also to find your way back.
You are here, unwaveringly present, not because you have answers to all questions, but because you have a heart that is ready to listen. Just as others held you when you were most vulnerable, now you hold space for them – a space where they can fall apart, a space where they can grow again, a space where they can learn to live and love without reservation.
This is the gift of your own darkness, transformed into light. This is what it means to be a therapist, to be human, to be a heart – not one that beats for others, but one that beats with others."
Love, Tamara Carevic
