11/03/2025
“Sometimes transformation looks like unraveling before it becomes clarity”
- a line from our theme last week: transformation.
I created a poll 2 weeks ago to see how many of us were feeling like we were stuck in the muck, uncertain, unclear. Over 80% of you said you were. Our word that week in RC was release— and as I led our Friday class that week, I vulnerability admitted that I had no idea what I wanted to share about release, because I felt so unclear that I wasn’t sure what even need to be released in order for something new to have room.
Then, the follow week our word was transformation. When I read this sentence I felt this breath of fresh air. Transformation can and does look like unraveling before clarity. We always want to get straight to the point of clarity, answers, direction, guidance, wisdom. Sitting in the complete lack of knowing is so dysregulating.
As I finally (after weeks of fighting it) surrendered to the muck, the fog, the uncertainty — and talked with others in the community about their own, I realized a really interesting threadline running through our experiences… this *uncomfortable* opportunity to sit with our most rooted survival responses and face them head on. Almost like the universe was like “this is a strong invitation to shift— to do something different than you normally do, will you take it?”
For me, that is my survival response to flee when things get hard. To leave. To start over. To create something new. To move. Anything to escape the discomfort of staying still. I felt like I was being challenged/sent into dysregulation while also being guided to just STAY put through it all.
For others it was to confront their response to fawn. To always prioritize other’s needs at the expense of their own. Again, being tested with opportunities to keep doing that, while also seeing how it’s so deeply impacting their well-being. Will they choose differently?
To others, it’s to fight. To get irritable/angry, to push people away because closeness feels threatening. To really confront how it’s wearing them down.
So if you’ve been stuck in the muck, I am curious, what have the last few weeks been asking of you?