01/07/2026
One of the fastest ways to regulate cortisol is by removing chronic stressors.
❣️And that includes people.❣️
Your body doesn’t care about intentions.
All it cares about is your safety.
Trust me, I know how hard this is to do. As a lifelong people pleaser myself, I have always hated disappointing people.
While I have always come off as cool, calm, collected, and confident, it’s actually been a lot of BS. On the inside, I’m a wreck.
But something changed in me after becoming a mom, especially since my children were back-to-back and I was already struggling with so much.
I no longer had the capacity to put up with other people’s constant demands and needs. I was too busy taking care of the two little ones I made.
I unfortunately (or fortunately if you look at it as a learning opportunity) discovered that I had nothing left for myself if I was giving non-stop to anyone else.
Little by little, I pulled back.
Didn’t answer that one relative’s phone call.
Passed on rebooking the client who refused to respect my working hours.
Called out the chronically rude “friend” and asked for change.
Not everyone took it well, but that was okay.
What mattered is I noticed the difference in how I felt.
Little by little, I started to feel calmer, more energetic, and stronger.
Boundaries are only selfish to the people who don’t respect them.
To the rest of us, they are a biological necessity we need in order to survive this modern world.
Who can relate?
