Dr. Ruth Dana

01/02/2026

11/01/2025

First Halloween passing out candy in my new neighborhood and we were pumped! And ready about 2 hours too early.

08/24/2025

I’ve had several uncanny things happen to me throughout my life.

The fortune cookies were super encouraging and weird, and I still think about getting them. The memory of my joy and amazement on getting the second fortune has comforted me in times of self-doubt. Gratefully, I am now growing happily into the truth of what they promised.

Here’s another one:

A few weeks ago, I was rear-ended two days in a row, both times when about to turn right at a stop light (by two different people who weren’t very accountable, by the way, but luckily they were obviously liable).

All I can make of those accidents is that I should be super careful driving in Arizona. But also, it reminds me that I am done letting people who hurt me off the hook (this is indeed an old habit that I have been working hard to break).

What are the odds of any of this? Pretty low! Kind of remarkable!

What uncanny things have happened to you?

07/09/2025

I meant to post this cute photo in my last post, as well.. so here it is! Part two of July 4th in Sedona with , the nicest people and best place to help people feel younger and get out of pain!

07/08/2025

Had such a happy 4th with my new work fam! thank you for everything! I love how welcoming you have been and I love helping people with you!

07/04/2025

I’m having one of the best chapters of my life and I am super grateful. 🌌🙏✨

03/17/2024

02/26/2024

I’ve been wanting a romantic relationship I could really just dive into.. maybe always.

I tried that recently with someone who may have been perfectly wonderful, maybe not, hard to say because it is truly not the way to do things, and I know better than that.

I love myself and I felt ready, so why did this happen?

I typically will not easily move from disappointment to gratitude, but this time, I was so frustrated that I should have known better that it has really inspired me to “dive in” to myself. I’m diving into the life that I want to create here.

I’m making a concerted effort to date myself and it turns out I’m a pretty awesome girlfriend. Not perfect, but super understanding, helpful, fun, and I can rally when needed.

Loving is knowing, and loving is remembering, so don’t forget yourself if and when you become excited about someone else. I feel so committed to this version of myself that I am cultivating, and I really think that she is going to help me through my future relationships.

I always really need her most in the beginning. I need her to be a little protective, but mostly I need her to be present.

Have you tried dating yourself? What did you learn?

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02/18/2024

Since I’m obsessed with learning about healthy relationships and attachment theory, here goes a little post about it.

The last few months I’ve spent thinking a lot, reading a lot, and experiencing some things having to do with attachment theory.

Many of us do not have the privilege of a secure attachment, but we can all work on becoming more secure.

Sometimes the people you truly connect with in ways that make you happy may not share a compatible attachment type. What to do?

Typically it is super helpful to focus on yourself and what makes you happy, and turn the rest over to your higher power.

The road to happiness that is easiest to control is usually the one where you give up on the connection, but what if part of the healing work is to stay and learn to love yourself and the other more and more simultaneously, while taking joy in the journey instead of trying to predict or control the outcome?

It doesn’t always work out, but as someone typically more anxiously attached, if I’m going to try to stay with someone and I encounter some avoidant behavior, I have found that it helps me to stop thinking of an avoidant response as “wrong” and my anxious response as “right”.

Both types of reactions come up with the same goal: to regulate. Both are from the same fear: being hurt.

I like to believe that love and shared intentions can be transformative.

Accepting the other for who they are and not who I wish them to be helps me feel happy and at peace.

I try not to invest more than I have to give, and then I try and surrender and detach from any outcome.

01/07/2024

This was the most transformative year. I had some hard lessons. I learned that I can do hard things. I had no idea I would ever feel this healthy, strong, supported and valued. It’s a magical combination and the people in my life right now are all part of it. Thank you.

12/30/2023

Polka and I enjoying our first real vacation after many years of hard work and/or recovery from debilitating illness. I know that life is brutal right now. Some things aren’t fair and there are no guarantees. But I know that healing is possible. It can be an art. It can take hard work. It can require a lot of rest. It likely requires a lot of support, but it is possible. I am very fortunate. But I also believed in myself and I just kept going. What could be better than working (physically, mentally, and spiritually) to create the life that you want to live?

09/24/2023

My baby with his new DIY haircut. So much less stress for him when I do it at home vs taking him to the groomers and easier for me if I keep it up before it gets long again. We’ve found a good rhythm and he’s pretty cute even with a choppy do.