12/20/2025
✨💭 A realization that’s changed how I understand real change ✨💭
I’ve been reflecting on something that has deepened for me recently, and I want to share it because I know I’m not alone in this…
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For a long time, I’ve been very self-aware.
I could see my patterns.
I understood where they came from.
I could even catch myself in the middle of them happening.
And still, some of them kept running my life in the background.
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Not the surface habits.
The deeper ones.
The kind that show up as over-striving, people-pleasing, self-criticism, hypervigilance, shame spirals, or feeling like you can never quite rest unless everything is handled.
The kind where you think,
“I know I do this. Why do I keep doing this?”
That was my experience.
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I’ve worked with certain patterns in myself for years. I’ve named them, studied them, reflected on them, and had a lot of insight around them. And yet, when stress hit or I felt unsafe, my system would fall right back into the same familiar loop.
What I’ve come to understand is this…
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Some patterns are not just habits of thought.
They’re deep grooves in the nervous system and body.
They formed early, often when we were trying to stay safe, keep things together, or make sure nothing fell apart. And because they worked at one time, the system keeps returning to them, even when they’re no longer needed.
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Insight is a beautiful and necessary first step.
But insight alone lives mostly in the mind.
What finally shifted things for me wasn’t more understanding.
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It was staying with the work at a deeper level…
Daily spiritual practice.
Working with a trusted, wise practitioner who holds space for me.
Subconscious and body-based work.
Showing up again and again, even when it felt slow or frustrating.
And quietly, over time, something softened.
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Recently, I watched a long-standing pattern in my own life lose its grip in a way it never had before. Not because I forced it. Not because I fixed it. But because enough layers had unwound that my system no longer needed the pattern to feel safe.
That’s when it really landed!
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We don’t change because we understand ourselves better.
We change when the body learns it no longer has to protect in the same way.
This is why I do the work I do…
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Not because I’m above these patterns or immune to them. But because I’ve lived the frustration of seeing something clearly and still feeling caught inside it. And I’ve also lived the grace of what happens when real shifts finally occur.
If you’re someone who has done a lot of inner work, therapy, reflection, or learning, and you still feel stuck in certain loops, you’re not failing.
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You may simply be working with something that lives deeper than insight alone can reach.
And that kind of change is possible…
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If this resonates and you’re curious about what that kind of work looks like, you’re welcome to reach out or schedule a free 20-minute consult through my website….
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