12/20/2025
✨💭 A realization that’s changed how I understand real change ✨💭
I’ve been reflecting on something that has deepened for me recently, and I want to share it because I know I’m not alone in this.
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For a long time, I’ve been very self-aware.
I could see my patterns.
I understood where they came from.
I could even catch myself in the middle of them happening.
And still, some of them kept running my life in the background.
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Not the surface habits.
The deeper ones.
The kind that show up as over-striving, people-pleasing, self-criticism, hypervigilance, shame spirals, or feeling like you can never quite rest unless everything is handled.
The kind where you think,
“I know I do this. Why do I keep doing this?”
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What I’ve come to understand is this.
Some patterns aren’t just habits of thought.
They’re deep grooves in the nervous system and body.
Insight is a beautiful and necessary first step, but insight alone lives mostly in the mind.
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What shifted things for me wasn’t more understanding.
It was staying with the work at a deeper level…
daily spiritual practice,
working with a trusted, wise practitioner,
subconscious and body-based work,
showing up again and again, even when it felt slow.
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Over time, something softened.
A long-standing pattern in my own life lost its grip, not because I forced it, but because my system no longer needed it to feel safe.
That’s when it really landed.
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We don’t change because we understand ourselves better.
We change when the body learns it no longer has to protect in the same way.
This is why I do the work I do.
Because I’ve lived both the frustration of seeing a pattern clearly and the grace of what happens when it finally releases.
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If this resonates and you’ve done a lot of inner work but still feel stuck in certain loops, you’re not failing.
You may simply be ready for change at a deeper level.
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If you’re curious, you’re welcome to reach out or schedule a free 20-minute consult. 🔗 in bio!