Four Winds Therapy

01/11/2026

Held a little vigil for myself last night and after live dead air with downtown Deb allowing for transformative dancing and tears - things got weir-d and I suddenly strangely felt called to my damn paperwork! Thinking about Bobby being a hard worker and the inspiration I got from seeing him play. Seeing him transform over all the years. I don’t need to say how many times I saw him, the truth is I don’t know because I lost count. At age 14 I saw my first show with Bobby Weir, the last at age 52. I had a friend who died about 10 years ago who knew Bobby personally and would sometimes find me and drag me to the front row (thanks S - you are so missed right now). As a former seller of vintage I sold Bobby shorts (what deadheads call cut off jeans shorts) on dead and co tour’s shakedown street. Bobby’s daughters came to see us on shakedown in Boulder and bought some vintage. That really meant the world to me. A bit later, I started and named my psychotherapy practice after a dead song’s lyrics because I believe that the four winds are actually calling us safely home to ourselves if we can learn to listen. Bobby would frequently say “there’s work to be done” to those around him, so the calling to do my work last night makes sense. Let’s get back to work on embodying some of the messages that exist in the songs and in the original subculture (and thanks to Dr. Adams for her sociological analysis that I strangely participated in long before pursuing academics myself). I have learned at a very deep level that it’s the songs that heal us. And we know the music will never stop. May the collective grief of the deadheads become the love this broken country and damaged earth desperately needs right now. May you find yourself in the spirit of a wolf by a silver stream 🐺

01/10/2026

Recent visit to the southernmost point of the US.
Water heals and allows for more love.
I am grateful for the questions:
How do we teach people empathy, compassion and kindness? How do we instill hope, love and integrity? How do we help others to put down the technology and connect with ancient technologies of the natural world? How do we help people to regulate their nervous systems so they can feel safe in their bodies? How can we quiet our minds in the midst of a decaying democracy?
We have some ideas! Reach out if you or someone you know would benefit from some deeper healing at one of our individual or group earth medicine therapy sessions

01/08/2026

A quote first read to me by a favorite teacher Wes Nisker at sunrise on a vipassana retreat over 20 years ago. May we all be the type of sitting up mud that recognizes our interconnectedness and holds empathy for all beings.

“God made mud.
God got lonesome.
So God said to some of the mud, "Sit up!"
"See all l've made," said God, "the hills, the sea, the sky, the stars."
And I was some of the mud that got to sit up and look around.
Lucky me, lucky mud.
I, mud, sat up and saw what a nice job God had done.
Nice going, God.
Nobody but you could have done it, God! I certainly couldn't have.
I feel very unimportant compared to You.
The only way I can feel the least bit important is to think of all the mud that didn't even get to sit up and look around.
I got so much, and most mud got so little.
Thank you for the honor!
Now mud lies down again and goes to sleep.
What memories for mud to have!
What interesting other kinds of sitting-up mud I met!
I loved everything I saw!
Good night.
I will go to heaven now.
I can hardly wait...”

- Kurt Vonnegut

01/05/2026

01/01/2026

Happy New Year 2026 ~ May we practice returning to what centers us. May we receive the goodness of the earth. May we recognize that our interconnection can allow healing for ourselves and others. #2026

12/21/2025

Happy solstice 2025 ☀️🌑 May you find the darkness that only serves to balance the light. May you experience the patterns of nature as restorative and awe inspiring. May you feel interconnected and integrated. May you embody love for yourself and for all beings. In this auspicious winter solstice may you (and all beings) be well!

12/08/2025

Crossing from desire to non attachment is the hardest thing to do. How do we transform our clinging? How do we release attachment? We cannot rid ourselves of cravings and desire, instead we have to learn to work with and transform these mind states with more skill. I am ever grateful for the teachers, traditions, and places where these types of skills are taught, practiced, and modeled. I come away from a recent stumbling into a new spiritual experience asking new questions. What is the difference between attachment and devotion? What happens if we relinquish attachment and lean into boundless love? It’s again (for me) something about resting in the between spaces. We bounce off the binary vicissitudes like pinballs and have to learn not to go toward the extremes, to practice allowing things to be, to unfold as they are, not as we want them to be. Not grasping, clinging or forcing - just allowing - just being. Sometimes it’s really hard to relinquish attachment but maybe this type of letting go is love.

11/28/2025

Broke some dishes while cooking Thanksgiving dinner….. remembering that we can also hold gratitude for our own brokenness because awareness of everything containing itself is what makes us understand on a deeper level what it actually means to be whole. So much beauty in rearranging our patterns and releasing our expectations about how things are supposed to be. We can accept things as they are. We can accept ourselves just as we are. These broken plates will become a part of something else now, their purpose is transformed. They are still beautiful and so are you.

11/10/2025

Something about hard times and furious dancing

11/06/2025

The beaver moon ~ can you feel that energy is shifting? We must only embrace and allow for all things to evolve 🌕

10/23/2025

Perspective taking today. It’s is the ability to understand a situation from another person’s point of view, considering their thoughts, feelings, and experiences. It involves stepping outside of your own perspective to see things from another’s, which is crucial for empathy, communication, and building relationships. This skill can be improved through strategies like active listening, asking questions, and engaging with stories from different characters’ viewpoints. Therapy helps us be able to understand our own a@d other’s perspectives.

10/21/2025

For decades I wanted to go to Arkansas to dig for crystals - finally got to go last month and it was amazing! Today we’re getting these rocks off (mailing crystals to my friends) 🪨💎💗