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Allie Jayne Reed, LMHC, Seattle, WA (2026)

01/13/2026

Disclaimer: determining which treatment modality is right for you is complex & the truth is, if you have trauma, I'd bet you'd benefit from either of these options.

This is why in my practice, which route we take is collaborative. Since I'm fortunate to be foundationally trained in both DBT-PE & EMDR, I both clinically assess my clients for what I think they'd benefit from more & discuss this with them to decide together which modality we'll use. Often, it comes down to client preference.

Factors clients often consider most are:
- whether they prefer emphasis on nervous system healing or behavioral changes
- if they'd rather do exposures in & out of session or BLS in session
- if they want an approach that feels more soft & gentle vs more active & concrete
- whether that have willingness or ability to do homework outside of session or if they want sessions to be where they do heavy lifting
- more verbal vs less verbal processing preference

If you feel like you sound like a better fit for one modality but really want to try another, that is a-okay. Remember, both modalities are effective & odds are, you'd benefit from either. Both have strong research & evidence backing them for effectively treating trauma & PTSD. If you're unsure, talk with your therapist or psychiatrist.

If you're in WA & ready to heal your childhood wounds from emotionally immature parents, tap the link in my bio & schedule an intro call with me! I'd love to work together 🤍

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01/10/2026

Strengthened relationships don’t mean never having conflict. They feel like security in your body, not just your mind.

You’re no longer constantly scanning for signs of rejection, withdrawal, or punishment. You aren’t afraid of emotionally immature parents trying to pull you or your loved ones into collusion, splitting, or triangulation, because you trust yourself & the people you’ve chosen.

There’s a felt sense of safety in your connections. Not perfection - safety.

You can be vulnerable. You can express hurt without fear of retaliation. You can offer appreciation without wondering if it will be used against you or mocked.

Validation & compassion is present. & when something goes wrong, there is empathy & genuine repair. Both people are accountable, engaged, and honest. Reasonable effort is put forth & you feel cared for. You trust one another to validate the valid, attune to eachother, read one another, & help eachother to identify invalid thoughts or actions when needed in kind ways.

Even in moments of stress or conflict, your nervous system doesn’t spiral. Instead of distress, there’s a deeper sense of trust. You feel okay because you trust yourself & you trust the other.

Strengthened relationships also mean something subtle but powerful: you can tolerate discomfort. Disagreements don’t feel catastrophic. Opposition doesn’t mean abandonment. Tension doesn’t signal the end.

You stay grounded in compassion, knowing repair is possible, and that validation sometimes requires action, not just words.

As this safety builds, something else shifts. Trauma therapy helps change old beliefs about yourself and others; from 'I’m too much or people aren’t safe' into 'I matter and connection can be secure'.

You feel inspired to show up authentically. To stop performing. To break patterns that once kept you small.

You realize you didn't need much. You needed emotional presence, genuine participation, and trust.

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01/08/2026

One of the hardest parts of breaking family patterns is how lonely it can feel at first.

You’re already anxious, already navigating shame & guilt. & now you’re stepping into unfamiliar territory without the reassurance or validation you’ve been conditioned to seek & may genuinely need.

When you come from emotionally immature parents, belonging often meant fitting in - staying quiet, adapting, playing your role.

So when you start to change -set boundaries, respond differently, stop over-functioning - you’re not rewarded with applause, understanding or compassion. Often, you’re met with confusion, judgment, discomfort, rejection or silence from people who are still stuck in the cycle.

That’s when it can feel tempting to go back. To return to what’s familiar, even if it hurts.

But here's the truth: breaking cycles is lonely at first because you're no longer abandoning yourself to maintain connection.

You're building something new without a clearly defined map, at least, not as clearly defined as you'd like. And yes, sometimes it feels worse before it feels better.

But when you keep going, you don’t just become more confident in yourself; the relationships that are meant for you begin to deepen & you start to feel connected in a way that doesn’t require shrinking or performing.

You find belonging - not through fitting in, but through being yourself. & that kind of connection is infinitely more fulfilling.

✨ If you’re ready to heal your childhood wounds from emotionally immature parents & break family cycles, tap the link in my bio to schedule an intro call with me 🤍

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01/06/2026

Many people in the enabler role don’t identify as enablers. They see themselves as loyal, understanding, accommodating, or 'the responsible one'.

But enabling often develops in families where you had to manage others’ emotions to stay safe or connected. Over time, this pattern can show up with parents, partners, and even in your own home, at the cost of your needs, limits, truth & identity.

If you want to stop playing the enabler role, here’s what actually helps:

First, observe your patterns honestly. Notice where you soothe, over-function, explain, or adapt to keep others comfortable. This isn’t about blaming yourself, it’s about clarity.

Second, identify your real limits. Not what should be tolerable, but what actually is & isn’t. Boundaries don’t work unless they’re rooted in truth. Pay attention to how different situations feel in your body.

Third, communicate clearly & hold the line. You can name how someone’s actions affect you, but remember: sharing feelings doesn’t guarantee change unless you explicitly ask for it. This is especially relevant in romantic relationships, and often unrealistic or inappropriate with emotionally immature parents.

And finally, seek support. Individual therapy for your own relational trauma AND couples therapy when needed. Many enablers avoid pushing for couples therapy because they don’t want it to be “their idea.” But often times the relationship depends on having professional support.

You're not responsible for managing everyone else. You're allowed to step out of the role you were trained to play.

✨ If you’re ready to heal your childhood wounds from emotionally immature parents & ditch your Role to finally realign with your Authentic Self, tap the link in my bio to schedule an intro call with me 🤍

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01/03/2026

Many women I work with carry this quiet belief: "My emotional struggles mean I'm weak". They associate sensitivity with weakness, a flaw or defect.

This belief is usually inherently judgmental, placing the blame squarely on you as if something is inherently wrong with your character or capacity.

This belief makes it difficult to feel compassion for yourself. It makes it impossible to accept yourself & your emotions in order to effectively regulate them anyway. It keeps you focused on 'fixing' who you are & often motivates emotional suppression. It leaves out key variables contributing to why you're struggling.

Here's the truth: emotional struggles don't arise in a vacuum. They develop through millions of transactions with an invalidating environment.

When a highly sensitive, perceptive child is raised by emotionally immature parents - parents who dismiss emotions, react unpredictably, or make your feelings feel like a problem - the nervous system adapts.

You rely on emotional suppression because no one's teaching you emotion regulation. It's not safe to feel or experience your own emotions. So you become anxious. You doubt yourself. You people-please. You become overwhelmed by your emotions that you don't know what to do with.

These aren't signs of weakness. They're intelligent responses to chronic invalidation & unmet emotional needs.

Sensitivity isn't a defect- it's a gift. But without safety, support & attunement, that gift turns inward & feels like a curse.

When you acknowledge & understand the real causes for your emotional struggles, healing becomes possible.

✨ If you’re ready to heal your childhood wounds from emotionally immature parents & overcome anxiety, tap the link in my bio to schedule an intro call with me 🤍

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01/01/2026

If you don’t trust yourself, it can feel like something is fundamentally wrong with you.

You sense what you want… then immediately question it. You feel emotions… then reason yourself out of them. You hesitate to advocate for yourself because you’re afraid you’ll make things worse - for yourself or for others.

Over time, this leads to low confidence, chronic doubt, and staying silent when something inside you says 'this isn't right' or 'something feels off'.

But this isn’t a personality flaw.

When you’re raised by emotionally immature parents, your emotional experiences are often invalidated, dismissed, or met with reactions that teach you your feelings are wrong, inconvenient, or dangerous.

So your nervous system adapts. You stop trusting your instincts. You suppress your emotions. You look outside yourself for certainty.

Throughout your upbringing, this was protective & adaptive. Now, it keeps you disconnected from your own wise mind.

Here's the truth: Your self-trust didn’t disappear, it went offline to keep you safe.

Healing trauma isn’t about forcing confidence or 'just trusting yourself more.' It’s about repairing the relationship with your emotions, body, and internal signals so self-trust can naturally return.

And when it does, decisions feel clearer. You can advocate for yourself without panic. You move through life guided from your wise mind, not ruled by fear.

That version of you isn’t imaginary. It’s the you that emerges when trauma no longer runs the show.

✨ If you’re ready to heal the impact of & realign with your Authentic Self, tap the link in my bio to schedule an intro call with me 🤍

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12/30/2025

Save this for the next time guilt shows up after you set a boundary!

Whether it's from a direct conversation or simply embodying your own limits without talking about them, it's normal to feel unjustified guilt if you were raised in an environment where emotionally immature parents looked to you to change, adjust, or otherwise act in ways that prioritized THEIR emotional needs & helped them regulate. This is the result of conditioning & emotional suppression.

The good news is that when guilt is unjustified, the more you embody your boundaries & limits, the less guilty you will feel over time while still holding compassion for others. It takes time & consistency, but it does work! The goal at first may not be to not feel guilty for setting a boundary, but instead to simply tolerate the feeling without trying to change it.

Additionally, if you're feeling unjustified shame too, then consider talking about your decision to set a boundary or hold a limit with validating people who won't reject you. Cuz remember, shame is what we feel when we believe OTHERS will reject us for our behavior. Guilt is what we feel when we believe we've violated personal values. Sometimes they overlap!

If you're ready to heal your childhood wounds from & stop feeling guilty for setting boundaries, tap the link in my bio & schedule an intro call w/ me!

12/27/2025

Let me start by saying that spirituality is directly linked to positive mental health. There is nothing wrong with turning to astrology, tarot, human design, or energy work, especially when you feel lost, anxious, or disconnected from yourself.

These tools can offer comfort, meaning, and language for experiences you’ve never had space to understand. And, they are not trauma treatment.

If you were raised by emotionally immature parents, your nervous system learned to survive by avoiding emotions, suppressing needs, and looking outside yourself for cues about who to be. Energetic readings can unintentionally reinforce this pattern - offering insight or reassurance without helping you feel what was never safe to feel in concrete, consistent ways.

That’s why the relief often fades. The anxiety returns. The people-pleasing persists. The shame still whispers. The problem beliefs about yourself, others & the world are still there.

Relational trauma is maintained by avoidance, not lack of awareness.

Healing requires safely experiencing the emotions & sensations your body learned to shut down in order to survive. It requires approaching avoided situations & memories to learn new information & change beliefs. It requires BEHAVIORAL experiences. This is what evidence-based trauma therapy like DBT-PE & EMDR is designed to do.

I believe spirituality & science can coexist. Many of my clients are deeply intuitive, reflective women. I incorporate their birth charts into treatment & provide mindfulness training from a spiritual perspective. I honor that spiritual part of us.

But intuition becomes clearest when dysregulation & problem beliefs formed from trauma no longer distorts it.

You don't need more answers. You need safety inside yourself. And that is possible.

If you're ready to heal your childhood wounds from & overcome anxiety, tap the link in my bio & schedule an intro call w/ me!

12/25/2025

I believe authenticity is essential to quality of life.

When we’re radically genuine - real, honest, and aligned with our values - authentic connection becomes possible. Connection with ourselves, others, and the life we're building.

When we’re not authentic, the opposite tends to happen. We feel disconnected, unsure of ourselves, and quietly dissatisfied. Fear, guilt & shame take up more space. Life starts to feel like something we’re managing rather than living.

Authenticity doesn’t mean being unfiltered or unkind. It means knowing where you end & I begin. It means showing up with integrity, while still being respectful & grounded.

For many women raised by emotionally immature parents, authenticity was never safe. You were conditioned to play a role - to keep the peace, manage emotions, or be who others needed you to be. That role may have protected you once, but it’s also what keeps you stuck.

This is why authenticity is central to my work. Healing isn’t about performing better. It’s about reconnecting with your values, feelings, and wishes. It's about building a life that actually fits you, your values & YOUR uniqueness.

If you’re drawn to therapy that values depth, honesty, and alignment, you’ll likely feel at home here. If not, that’s okay too.

Authenticity asks for willing & readiness, not perfection.

✨ If you’re ready to heal the impact of & realign with your Authentic Self, tap the link in my bio to schedule an intro call with me 🤍

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12/23/2025

Imagine staying calm & grounded in a tense conversation, especially with your parents.

Your chest doesn’t tighten, your mind doesn’t race, you don’t scramble to explain, defend, or fix.

You know what you feel, you know what you mean, and you trust yourself enough to stay there.

They may disagree. They may be disappointed. They may not see things your way.

& instead of panic, you notice something new: I can tolerate this.

You’re no longer trying to manage their emotions. You’re no longer abandoning your needs to keep the peace. You’re no longer replaying the conversation for hours afterward.

You can love them AND hold a boundary. You can stay connected AND stay true to yourself. You can allow polarity without it feeling dangerous.

This kind of calm isn’t about saying the “perfect” thing. It’s about feeling safe in your body, even when others are uncomfortable.

When relational trauma heals, your nervous system learns that disagreement isn’t a threat. That you don’t have to disappear to stay connected.

This grounded confidence isn’t a personality trait. It’s a state that can be built.

And it changes everything...
how you speak, how you listen, and how you leave conversations still feeling like you.

✨ If you’re ready to heal the impact of & stop feeling guilty for setting boundaries, tap the link in my bio to schedule an intro call with me 🤍

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12/20/2025

It's not all your fault that you struggle with anxiety, people-pleasing, or emotion regulation. Your current patterns didn't come from a personal flaw. They came from adaptation, from millions of transactions overtime with an invalidating environment.

Children don’t randomly become hyper-aware of other people’s emotions. They learn it in environments where emotional safety was inconsistent & responsibility landed on them far too early. EIPs chronic invalidation teaches their kids that their reactions are bad, that their kids are responsible for the parents' emotions, and that they need to figure out how to self-regulate without actually teaching them how to regulate. The blame falls on the child.

But believing that it's just all your fault is adaptive. It actually once gave you a sense of control. If you were the problem, then maybe you could fix it. That belief felt safer than acknowledging the truth: the environment you grew up in required you to adjust in order to stay connected. Your parents, the very people responsible for your survival, are flawed & failed you.

But self-blame has a cost. It keeps your nervous system locked in old rules: Be easy. Don’t need too much. Don’t upset anyone.

The problem isn’t that you’re broken. The problem is that your nervous system is still following childhood rules that no longer apply.

Lasting change doesn’t come from trying harder or being more self-aware. It comes from understanding why these patterns formed & gently helping your system update.

Nothing is wrong with you. All behavior is caused. And when the causes are finally acknowledged, healing becomes possible.

✨ If you’re ready to heal the impact of & stop blaming yourself for adaptations you didn’t choose, tap the link in my bio to schedule an intro call with me 🤍

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12/18/2025

If healing feels harder than it 'should' or if you're hesitant to embark on your healing journey in targeted trauma therapy, it may not be because you’re resistant, unmotivated, or not ready. It may be because of subconscious loyalty.

Many adult children of emotionally immature parents carry an unspoken belief:
If I heal, I leave them behind.
If I grow, I betray my family.
If I stop carrying this, who am I without it?

So even when you want change, something inside hesitates. You minimize your pain, you delay support, you stay emotionally tethered out of 'loyalty', not choice.

This loyalty once kept you safe. As a child, attachment mattered more than authenticity. Staying connected, even at the cost of yourself & your needs, was survival. Of course that pattern didn't disappear with age.

But here’s the reframe that begins to loosen the block:
Healing is not betrayal.
You are not abandoning your family by choosing support, boundaries, or growth. You’re simply choosing to stop carrying what was never yours to hold.

You can honor where you came from without continuing to psychologically live inside it.

When this loyalty becomes conscious, guilt softens.
Choice returns.
Healing feels less dangerous—and more allowed.

✨ If you’re ready to heal the impact of & release the guilt that keeps you stuck, tap the link in my bio to schedule an intro call with me🤍

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