Bob & Karin Matthews PLLC - Couples Counseling & Psychotherapy

11/08/2024

Such a sweet comic…

10/26/2023

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08/18/2023

So true… 🙏🏽❤️

01/13/2023

Great podcast on Repair, “How to Make Wrongs Right with Rabbi Ruttenberg”:

1. Why we should stop expecting people to forgive.
2. Rabbi Danya’s five step-by-step process for repairing a relationship.
3. What makes a good – and a terrible – apology.
4. What to do (and to not say) if you want to make amends and change.
5. Why repentance is a process that has nothing to do with the one who was hurt.

About Rabbi Ruttenberg:
Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg is an award-winning author of 8 books, including On Repentance and Repair: Making Amends in an Unapologetic World. She serves as Scholar in Residence at the National Council of Jewish Women, and her writing has appeared in the New York Times, the Atlantic, Salon, Time, Newsweek, and many other publications.

‎Society & Culture · 2023

11/24/2022

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08/12/2022

Wise words…

Joni Mitchell on monogamy - wise words.

“I don’t know if I’ve learned anything yet! I did learn how to have a happy home, but I consider myself fortunate in that regard because I could’ve rolled right by it. Everybody has a superficial side and a deep side, but this culture doesn’t place much value on depth — we don’t have shamans or soothsayers, and depth isn’t encouraged or understood. Surrounded by this shallow, glossy society we develop a shallow side, too, and we become attracted to fluff. That’s reflected in the fact that this culture sets up an addiction to romance based on insecurity — the uncertainty of whether or not you’re truly united with the object of your obsession is the rush people get hooked on. I’ve seen this pattern so much in myself and my friends and some people never get off that line.

“But along with developing my superficial side, I always nurtured a deeper longing, so even when I was falling into the trap of that other kind of love, I was hip to what I was doing. I recently read an article in Esquire magazine called ‘The End of S*x,’ that said something that struck me as very true. It said: “If you want endless repetition, see a lot of different people. If you want infinite variety, stay with one.” What happens when you date is you run all your best moves and tell all your best stories — and in a way, that routine is a method for falling in love with yourself over and over.

“You can’t do that with a longtime mate because he knows all that old material. With a long relationship, things die then are rekindled, and that shared process of rebirth deepens the love. It’s hard work, though, and a lot of people run at the first sign of trouble. You’re with this person, and suddenly you look like an as***le to them or they look like an as***le to you — it’s unpleasant, but if you can get through it you get closer and you learn a way of loving that’s different from the neurotic love enshrined in movies. It’s warmer and has more padding to it.”

~ Joni Mitchell. https://amzn.to/3OrMCTH

photo by Annie Leibovitz https://amzn.to/3Ytlw2S

original post credit: Beth Spindler

09/28/2021

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08/28/2021

Interview with Dr. Sue Johnson on The Tim Ferriss Show podcast

08/21/2021

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How terrifying. How delightful... (-from my book, ‘Hearticulations’)

08/15/2021

Wonderful opportunity for couples who want to improve their bond and bonding... :)

♥ Has your marriage or partnership become functional but not exciting and loving?

♥ Do you want to deepen your connection and improve intimacy with your partner?

♥ Is s*x something to just check off your list now?

♥ Have you been trying to get that “sizzle” back?

♥ Do you want to want to break the negative emotional and s*xual cycles in your partnership?

If the answer is yes, we invite you to explore the way your relationship can be changed by understanding your cycle and finding tools to get reconnected - emotionally and s*xually. Consider spending a whole day to focus on enhancing your relationship, intimacy, and understanding of each other. Join Laurie Watson, PhD, LMFT and George Faller, LMFT on Friday, October 1st from 10am to 4:30 pm ET on Zoom. Expert teaching, fun exercises with just you and your partner!

The workshop will be a safe place for just you and your partner to discuss issues around your s*x life and intimacy. We're going to talk about desire, arousal, and or**sm in men and women as well as where we differ. We'll discuss great s*x and what it means and give you exercises to improve how your mind, body, heart, and spirit can be more involved so that you and your partner can find deeper connection. https://www.foreplayrst.com/resources/

08/06/2021

So true…

06/08/2021

Great listen for the many couples that ask us for "Communication Tools"...