02/18/2026
Holding everything together can start to feel normal, so normal that stopping feels unfamiliar.
Sometimes control doesn’t loosen because trust appears; it loosens because exhaustion makes managing unsustainable. And when the grip softens, life doesn’t collapse. Presence returns.
It began as an experiment—quietly stepping back from outcome-management, not as a spiritual practice or performance, but because the constant managing had started to cost more than it gave. What followed wasn’t chaos. It was noticing what was actually happening, instead of bracing for what might.
If this resonates, you can read the full article here: https://medium.com/change-your-mind/i-stopped-managing-my-life-it-didnt-fall-apart-681915af1dff