Jessa Zimmerman Couples Counseling & Sex Therapy

Jessa Zimmerman Couples Counseling & Sex Therapy We help couples go from bedroom burdened to easily intimate.

Jessa Zimmerman is a couples counselor and certified s*x therapist practicing in Pioneer Square in Seattle. She helps couples struggling with issues of s*xuality and intimacy to find fulfillment, connection and satisfying s*xual expression.

A lot of couples struggle with s*x, and many have stopped altogether. This is an interesting peak into the various reaso...
11/06/2025

A lot of couples struggle with s*x, and many have stopped altogether. This is an interesting peak into the various reasons people end up in a s*xless relationship.

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🌟 Podcast Episode Alert! 🎙️🔥 Dive deep into the biological hardwiring of men and their evolving choices with author Paul...
11/05/2025

🌟 Podcast Episode Alert! 🎙️

🔥 Dive deep into the biological hardwiring of men and their evolving choices with author Paul Abramowitz on the latest episode of Better S*x! 💬 Join s*x therapist, Jessa Zimmerman, as she explores the fascinating interplay between nature and nurture in men's s*x lives.

🔍 What's inside?

Understanding men's intrinsic drive for s*x
The impact of biology on emotional and s*xual experiences
Practical strategies for men to take control of their desires
How these insights can improve intimacy in heteros*xual relationships
👂 Tune in for a captivating conversation that uncovers the hidden mechanics of male s*xuality and offers actionable tools for better relationships and deeper intimacy.

🎧 Listen now and transform your perspective on s*x and intimacy! 📲 Link in bio or listen at https://betters*xpodcast.com/271

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11/05/2025

You're treating your lower desire like a medical problem that needs to be "fixed." You've tried every supplement, hormone test, and libido-boosting trick on the internet. But here's what nobody's telling you: Approaching your body like it's broken is actually killing your natural desire even more. Your body isn't a machine that needs fixing - it's sending you important signals that need to be understood.
You're apologizing for your "no" instead of owning your boundaries. Every "I'm sorry, not tonight" adds another brick to the wall of guilt you're carrying. When you apologize for honoring your body's truth, you're unconsciously teaching both yourself and your partner that your boundaries are something to feel bad about, rather than respect.
You're forcing yourself to be physically intimate when you're not mentally there. Maybe you think "just doing it" will help you want it more, or that it's better than saying no again. But here's the hard truth: Every time you override your authentic feelings, you're actually training your body to associate touch with pressure instead of pleasure.
You're comparing your current s*x drive to how you were in the beginning of your relationship. You keep thinking "if I could do it then, why not now?" This comparison trap ignores a basic truth about desire: New relationship energy is completely different from sustained intimate connection. It's like comparing a sprint to a marathon.
You're trying to handle this all by yourself instead of making it a team effort. You've made this "your problem" to solve, carrying all the weight of research, solutions, and changes. But mismatched desire is always a couple's journey - and trying to solve it solo is like trying to tango alone.
The good news? Once you understand these mistakes, you can start making different choices that actually create the connection both you and your partner really want.

Ready to break free from the guilt cycle and build genuine intimacy that works for both of you? Click the link in my bio to learn the exact framework that's helping couples transform their connection without pressure or shame

Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ej*******on, Disordered Or**sm Taking The Mojo Out Of Your S*x Life? - Health Issues htt...
11/05/2025

Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ej*******on, Disordered Or**sm Taking The Mojo Out Of Your S*x Life? - Health Issues https://bit.ly/3EgnzeW

It can feel so bad to long to connect with your partner and yet get turned down over and over again. Maybe to the point ...
11/04/2025

It can feel so bad to long to connect with your partner and yet get turned down over and over again. Maybe to the point that you have stopped initiating at all.

You may have tried talking to your partner about it and gotten nowhere. Or maybe it got better briefly but quickly went back to that way it was.

Your partner may be avoiding it altogether. They likely feel broken and really guilty.

And both of you probably feel totally stuckk.

This secret podcast for "higher desire partners" is for you! 6 episodes, about an hour in total, will help you understand what's going on and what to do about it. Subscribe at https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

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11/04/2025

Let's go !!

This is everything, isn't it? Having someone acknowledge not just the pain you're in, but also the beautiful vision you'...
11/04/2025

This is everything, isn't it? Having someone acknowledge not just the pain you're in, but also the beautiful vision you're holding for what could be possible.

Your fear is real. The fear that this might never get better. That you might be stuck in this painful dynamic forever. That you might lose each other, or worse, stay together but never truly find each other again.

But your hope is equally real. The hope that you can rediscover each other. That intimacy can feel joyful again. That you can have the kind of connection that makes you both feel truly alive and loved.

Most approaches to relationship challenges focus on either the problem or the solution, but rarely honor both the depth of your struggle AND the validity of your dreams.

I see you in your 3 AM worry sessions, wondering if you're asking for too much. I also see you in those moments when you catch a glimpse of your partner and remember exactly why you fell in love, and you think "if we could just figure this out..."

Both experiences are true. Both deserve attention. Both matter.

In Intimacy with Ease, we start by fully acknowledging where you are right now – the real challenges, the genuine pain, the legitimate concerns. We don't minimize your experience or rush you past it.

But we also hold space for your vision of what's possible. We help you see that the love and connection you're longing for isn't just a fantasy – it's an achievable reality that thousands of couples have created.

Your fear tells me you understand what's at stake. Your hope tells me you understand what's possible.

Both are pointing you toward the same conclusion: this matters enough to address with skill and intention.

In this episode, Rebecca tells us about Evolutionary Psychology, examining our roles and interactions through a biologic...
11/03/2025

In this episode, Rebecca tells us about Evolutionary Psychology, examining our roles and interactions through a biological and historical lens. Listen in as she compares our human proclivities to our great ape relatives.

Our rules and culture help us to maintain our civility, but males and females still have biological roles. Hear Rebecca talk about the basic ideas of a male’s desire to spread his seed and a female’s inclination to be choosy and selective.

While nature and nurture are the major contributing factors to our biology and we share some main characteristics with great apes, there are still major differences between humans and other great apes. Enjoy the show as Rebecca presents a unique series of examples comparing and contrasting s*xual differences between great apes and humans.

Listen at https://www.betters*xpodcast.com/36

11/03/2025

Our s*x life has transformed into something mystical after infidelity. The silence and healing brought us together. We transcended, realizing what was out of balance. A week-long retreat reactivated s*xual energy, leading to quantum shifts. It was time to move on and find a community. *xualHealing

11/03/2025

Every relationship "expert" on social media is posting about how "healthy couples have s*x X times per week." Meanwhile, you're sitting there feeling like you're single-handedly creating an unhealthy relationship, even though every other aspect of your partnership is solid. The math isn't mathing.
The advice you keep getting is infuriating: "Just do it anyway!" "Have you tried lingerie?" "Maybe you need hormones!" Notice how every suggestion puts the responsibility squarely on YOUR shoulders? As if your partner's approach to intimacy couldn't possibly be part of the equation...
That look on your partner's face when you say "not tonight" is etched into your brain. Even when they try to hide their disappointment, you see it. And each time it happens, you feel like you're stabbing them in the heart, even though you're just honoring your own boundaries.
You remember how different things were in the beginning - when desire came easily and naturally. Now you're carrying the weight of "what changed?" and "why can't I just go back to how I was?" The guilt of "breaking" something that used to work so well is exhausting.
Every relationship book on your shelf seems to have the same theme: chapters and chapters about how the lower-desire partner needs to change, with barely a paragraph about how both partners could approach this differently. It's like being told "it's not you, it's you."
You've become the designated "gatekeeper" of physical intimacy. Every touch, every kiss, every cuddle comes with the pressure of potentially having to be the "bad guy" who pumps the brakes. It's exhausting being the one who always has to make the call.
Looking at other couples on social media, it seems like everyone else has this figured out. They're posting about their amazing s*x lives, their perfect connection, their matched desires... making you wonder why you're the only one struggling (spoiler alert: you're not, they're just not posting about it).
Here's the truth bomb nobody's dropping: Feeling like "the problem" is actually the biggest problem. Because as long as you're carrying all this guilt and shame, you can't show up authentically in your relationship. And authentic connection is what creates real intimacy - not forcing yourself to match some arbitrary standard of what's "normal."

Ready to drop the guilt and build genuine intimacy that works for BOTH of you? Click the link in my bio to learn how other couples have transformed their connection without anyone having to be "the problem

✨ Embark on an inspiring journey with Britton and Carolee as they share their story of transformation from infidelity to...
11/03/2025

✨ Embark on an inspiring journey with Britton and Carolee as they share their story of transformation from infidelity to a deeply connected, mystical relationship on the latest episode of 'Better S*x.' 💏 From breaking free of past traumas to embracing new beginnings, their journey is one of hope, courage, and rediscovery. Tune in to hear how they navigated the complexities of love and intimacy. 💖🌿

Listen now at https://intimacywithease.com/337 or use link in bio.

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