Secure Connections Coaching For Couples

Secure Connections Coaching For Couples I am Carolyn Sharp and I help busy, disconnected go from blah to bliss! Message me to learn more!

I describe myself as the Roy Kent of couples work because of my humor, directness and passion for what I do. Carolyn Sharp has over 25 years experience building healthy passionate relationships. She developed Secure Connections Coaching from her training and work with Stan Tatkin, founder of the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT). This approach views a couple’s dynamic through the lens of neurobiology, attachment theory, and arousal regulation to support couples in developing healthy and secure relationships. Based on Stan’s seminal work, Wired For Love, the coaching and retreats provide incredible opportunities for committed couples at all stages to create or deepen a successful foundation for a secure relationship. Through shared learning, facilitated exercises and private time together in the beautiful settings, couples will gain insight into one another and their patterns of interaction, and learn how to interpret and respond to one another in ways that lead deeper connection and intimacy.

11/10/2025

A year of curation. Three days of transformation.

I spent 12 months pulling the most powerful exercises, moments, and intentions from Fire It Up to create something I've never offered before—a weekend retreat at Kripalu designed specifically for couples and individuals ready to reconnect.

This isn't passive learning. You'll engage in guided meditations, deep listening practices, embodied connection work, and real-time coaching that helps you break free from old patterns and reignite the spark you're missing.

The Sacred Fire Framework—Oxygen, Fuel, Ignition—becomes tangible when you're in a room with others doing this work alongside you. When you're supported by Kripalu's mission of creating a more compassionate, connected society. When you're held in an environment designed entirely for your growth.
Your relationships are the foundation of your wellbeing. This weekend is your chance to tend that fire.

Registration closes Wednesday. Link in bio. 🔥

“Not enough time.” “Not enough energy.” “Not enough connection.”If these phrases are echoing in your relationship right ...
11/07/2025

“Not enough time.” “Not enough energy.” “Not enough connection.”

If these phrases are echoing in your relationship right now, your brain might be in scarcity mode—and it’s affecting more than you realize.

When we perceive we don’t have enough of what we need, our brains undergo a fascinating shift. We experience “attentional tunneling,” where we become hyper-focused on what’s missing. We stop seeing the full picture. We miss the small moments of connection with our partner. We overlook what IS working because we’re fixated on what isn’t.

Here’s the thing: this isn’t a character flaw. It’s biology. But understanding it gives us power to change it.

I just published a deep dive on Psychology Today exploring how scarcity infiltrates relationships and, more importantly, how to reset your attention from “not enough” to sufficiency using the Fire It Up framework.

The antidote isn’t pretending everything is fine—it’s consciously recognizing what you DO have and building from there.

Discover the neuroscience behind the scarcity mindset and practical steps to reconnect even when life feels overwhelming. Link in bio to read the full article.

Your relationship deserves more than what’s left over. 💙

Here's what a retreat does that a single session can't:It removes you from the noise. From the layoffs, the news cycle, ...
11/07/2025

Here's what a retreat does that a single session can't:

It removes you from the noise. From the layoffs, the news cycle, the uncertainty, the constant demands. It gives you protected time—real, uninterrupted time—to focus on what matters most.

It's not just coaching. It's an experience. Growth AND joy. Real tools AND real connection. You're not alone in the struggle—you're surrounded by other couples navigating the same fears, the same scarcity mindset, the same longing for deeper intimacy.

And something shifts when you're held in that container. When you're led through practices that rewire your nervous system. When you laugh together again. When you remember why you chose each other.

That's the power of a retreat. It's not about fixing everything in 2 and a half days. It's about creating a powerful reset—a recommitment to your relationship and to each other.

This is what happens when you stop waiting for the perfect circumstances and start tending to what matters most. When you shift from scarcity to sufficiency. When you choose presence over protection. When you remember that your relationship isn't another thing to survive—it's your anchor in uncertain times.

Your transformation is waiting.

Link in bio to join us at Kripalu and reignite the connection your relationship deserves.

11/06/2025

Feeling the squeeze? Here are 4 ways to shift from scarcity to sufficiency RIGHT NOW.

🔥 FOUNDATION: Remember your 'why.' Take 60 seconds and ask yourself: What drew me to this person? What do I value about my partner? What are we building together that matters more than the current stress? Say it out loud. Let them know.

🔥 OXYGEN: Release one non-essential obligation this week. Use that reclaimed time for 20 minutes together—no phones, no agenda. Just presence. You don't need more time. You need protected time.

🔥 FUEL: Your brain is wired to spot problems. Deliberately shift your attention. Notice one small act of care your partner offered today. One moment of warmth, humor, or tenderness. Name it. Celebrate it. This rewires your nervous system.

🔥 IGNITION: Reclaim pleasure. Share one tiny thing that brought you joy today—the taste of your coffee, a funny text, the way the light looked. Invite your partner to do the same. Joy isn't a luxury. It's how we regulate our nervous systems and build resilience.

These micro-shifts? They're not about fixing everything. They're about resetting your attention from what's missing to what's still there.

Your relationship doesn't need perfect circumstances. It needs your intentional choice to see it, tend to it, and nourish it.

Ready to go deeper? Join us at Kripalu to transform your relationship from survival mode into thriving connection.

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The relationship you're longing for doesn't require you to have more time, more energy, or fewer stressors. It requires ...
11/05/2025

The relationship you're longing for doesn't require you to have more time, more energy, or fewer stressors. It requires you to shift where you place your attention.

Not from toxic positivity or denial. But from intentional choice. From recognizing that even in scarcity, there is still connection to be found, nurtured, and celebrated.
You have enough. You ARE enough.

Right now—especially right now—your relationship needs your presence more than your perfection. Your attention more than your productivity. Your willingness to turn toward your partner instead of away.
That shift? It changes everything.

If you're ready to break free from the scarcity trap and create a relationship that thrives—even in uncertain times—join us at Kripalu.

Through guided practices, embodied work, and real-time coaching, you'll learn to shift from survival mode into deep connection. You'll rewire the beliefs that keep you stuck. You'll discover how to nourish what's working, reclaim joy, and build the secure, resilient partnership you're longing for.

This is about moving from "not enough" to "more than enough." From fear to presence. From isolation to true intimacy.

Link in bio to secure your spot and reignite the love your relationship deserves.

Your brain is doing something right now that's sabotaging your relationship—and you probably don't even realize it.Betwe...
11/04/2025

Your brain is doing something right now that's sabotaging your relationship—and you probably don't even realize it.

Between the uncertainty, the news cycle, the economic stress, the feeling that things are shifting beneath your feet... your nervous system is in protection mode. And when we're protecting ourselves, we can't truly connect.

This is called scarcity mindset. And it's infiltrating your relationship in ways you might not see.
Swipe through to understand what's happening in your brain—and more importantly, how to reset it.
Because here's the truth: you don't need more time, more money, or fewer problems to have the relationship you want. You need to shift where you're placing your attention.

From what's broken to what's working. From what you're losing to what you still have. From fear to presence.

That's the Fire It Up reset. And it changes everything.

Ready to go deeper? Join us at Kripalu for an immersive retreat where we rewire your relationship from the inside out. You'll leave with tools, practices, and a renewed sense of what's possible—even in uncertain times.

Link in bio to learn more and secure your spot.

11/03/2025

Let's be real: right now feels uncertain. Layoffs. Shutdowns. The constant news cycle. Political tension.

Threats to things we thought were stable. Our nervous systems are in overdrive trying to figure out what's safe.

And here's what happens when we're in that state of fear and uncertainty: we go into survival mode. Our brains narrow. We grip tighter. We focus on what we're losing instead of what we have.

The problem? We do this in our relationships too.

Suddenly your partner becomes another source of stress instead of your anchor. Connection feels like a luxury you can't afford. Intimacy becomes one more thing on an impossible list. You're both running on fumes, protecting yourselves, bracing for the next hit.

But here's what I know after 30 years of this work: right now is exactly when we need our relationships the most. Not less. MORE.

Your partner isn't the threat. The uncertainty is. And the antidote to uncertainty isn't isolation or self-protection. It's connection. It's turning toward each other instead of away.

This week, I want to invite you to do something radical: notice when you're in survival mode with your partner. Notice when fear is running the show. And then—just once—choose differently. Turn toward them. Ask for what you need. Let them see you.

Your relationship can be your safe harbor in uncertain times. But only if you tend to it.

Ready to build that kind of secure, resilient connection? Join us at Kripalu for a retreat designed to help you weather any storm together.

Link in bio.

What if slowing down is the fastest way to real connection?In the chaos of our divided world, we rush past each other—ev...
10/31/2025

What if slowing down is the fastest way to real connection?

In the chaos of our divided world, we rush past each other—even the people we love most. We're quick to judge, quick to defend, quick to disconnect.

But fall teaches us something different. Look at a single leaf. It didn't rush its transformation. It took time. It deepened its color. It became more beautiful by slowing down.

This weekend at Kripalu, we're doing the same thing—with intention. We're slowing down to reconnect with ourselves, to truly see our partners, to remember why we chose each other. We're tending the sacred fire of our relationships: the oxygen to breathe and grow, the fuel that sustains us, the spark that keeps us alive.

Because here's the truth: the fire you tend in your own relationships creates warmth that spreads to everyone around you. It heals our communities. It heals our world.

Fire It Up: Reigniting Joy, Intimacy, and Connection A Kripalu Weekend Retreat with Carolyn Sharp, LICSW
Last two weeks to register. Just a couple spots remain.

Link in bio. 🍂🔥

Fuel your relationships with healthy communication, security, understanding, and care. Mutuality, reciprocity, and fairn...
10/30/2025

Fuel your relationships with healthy communication, security, understanding, and care. Mutuality, reciprocity, and fairness keep the bond strong and thriving.

What if your relationship could feel lighter?These two came to Secure Connections feeling stuck—caught in the same old a...
10/29/2025

What if your relationship could feel lighter?

These two came to Secure Connections feeling stuck—caught in the same old arguments, longing for more laughter and ease. Fast-forward a few months: they’re rediscovering joy together, even on the tough days. They told me, “We finally feel like a team again.”

It’s not magic—it’s science, compassion, and a willingness to try something new. With PACT and a little adventure (hello, outdoor walks and eye-gazing), real change happens. You don’t have to do it alone. ❤️

Curious what’s possible for you? Link in bio to explore retreats, coaching, or the Fire It Up book. Or just drop a comment if you need a little encouragement today—let’s talk about what’s next for your connection.

Ever wonder what your brain says about love? 🧠Your nervous system is running the show, even when you're just holding han...
10/28/2025

Ever wonder what your brain says about love? 🧠

Your nervous system is running the show, even when you're just holding hands or sharing a quiet moment. That's why you can feel so connected—or so distant—without saying a word.

PACT coaching (my specialty!) uses neuroscience and attachment theory to help couples rewire old patterns and build real, lasting safety. This isn't magic—it's your brain's natural ability to heal and connect, with a little guidance.

Curious how your relationship habits are shaped by your wiring?

DM me or check the link in my bio to learn more about coaching and retreats. Let's make the science of connection work for you. ❤️

Our hearts are FULL! Fire It Up just earned TWO Silver Medals at Bookfest—one in Relationships: Love and Marriage and an...
10/27/2025

Our hearts are FULL! Fire It Up just earned TWO Silver Medals at Bookfest—one in Relationships: Love and Marriage and another in Self Help: Relationships and Communication.

What an honor to be recognized alongside so many incredible authors. This book represents 30 years of clinical work, real-world breakthroughs, and the belief that every relationship deserves to be rekindled with intention and joy.

Ready to dive in? Grab your copy from: 📚 Amazon 📚 Barnes & Noble

📚 Bookshop.org 📚 Your favorite local bookshop

🌟 Special bonus: Join me at Kripalu for a Fire It Up retreat + book signing! I'll be doing a reading and signing copies for all attendees at Kripalu that weekend (coming to my retreat or not!. It's the perfect combo: transform your relationship AND take home a signed copy. Link in bio for details!

Grateful for this recognition and for YOU. Let's keep building stronger relationships together. 💚

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